The KonMarie method

peaceandfreedom

mavvymoo wrote: »

Its only 4 between us not that many :rotfl:Trouble is here is if you wake up in the morning and say to yourself 'There has got to be more to life than this' Then you have to have the guts to do something about it dont you think ? I know that I could never have peaceandfreedom;) while married to those men so had to move on no matter how hard it was

I've been waking up thinking that for many a long year . I think I've always taken the view that if I do something about it, I'll be making me happier but 4 other people unhappier, seems an unfair balance. Though less so as the years go by, I guess.

I have this idea that one day, all will be well, just not quite sure yet how to get there. But I do have a strong feeling that really scouring the house out will help .

peaceandfreedom

iQueen wrote: »

peaceandfreedom, I agree with, mav, (naturally, as we are iTwins, separated at birth, somehow! :rotfl:)

Life is 'nasty, brutish and short', and the only thing we can aim for really, is being as happy and content as possible, while it lasts. Money, possessions, houses, things, can make life more bearable, sometimes, but we owe it to ouselves to be happy.

I gave up 2 homes that were more modern and comfortable than the one I now (almost) own. However, nothing compares with my liberation and freedom, which are worth so much more to me. I am free! I make my own decisions about my life, and account to me, for my mistakes, omissions and triumphs. Nothing to beat it! I am gloriously happy! :dance:

Just reading that made my heart beat faster. But the ramifications are so huge, I don't know if I can face it. Among family, friends - we have a very busy social life which revolves around lots of other couples, though we do a lot of stuff with just the ladies or just the men.

Your life sounds so good though, it's what I dream of.

iQueen wrote: »

Funny, how kondoing starts to seep into so many areas of life, beyond household carp, isn't it?

Can't wait! :j

I'm kind of banking on something exciting happening when I start properly Kondo-ing .

peaceandfreedom

iQueen wrote: »

peaceandfredom Thanks for the link. It was a really good to read. I am already there, thanks to MK! My iTwin is there too - we don't have space or time in our lives for carp things, or carppy people. No one can taint our happiness... unless we let them!

I came across that article a few years ago at a time when I was quite despairing over many things and sister-in-law (and her influence over DH) was one of them. I realised that I could just choose to cut her out of my life as far as possible and not let her get me down any more. It worked very well, I think it saved my sanity.

I have many really good friends and people who love me, there is no need to be dragged down by the one person who treats me like dog poo on her shoe. I can ignore her and I do.

peaceandfreedom

mrs-moneypenny wrote: »

I've started straying back onto paperwork again now, I suddenly realised I came downstairs with an armful of shredding stuff as well as the dupe DVDs I found up there.
Might go and see if I can cadge a bag off a neighbour.

I bought a garden incinerator and use that to burn paperwork. There is something quite cleansing about seeing it all go up in flames (even if I do come back in smelling like a camp fire ). And the ashes go on the compost heap.

Only about another 3 tons of paperwork to go.

System

peaceandfreedom wrote: »

Me too, when I wear beige I seem to kind of, disappear somehow. I don't think any kind of pastel colour suits me but beige is definitely the worst.

My favourite maternity dress, yes i can remember that far back, just dont ask me what i had for tea yesterday was pastel pink. Not just any old pastel pink it was ice pastel pink. Up until then i'd never given pastel colours much thought. Even now they have to be ice pastel pink if i wear them close to my face.

I passed my maternity clothes on when i had no more use for them and very often got them back when i got pregnant again but this particular dress i never got back. I never forgot it though.

Siebrie

I am a horror to go shopping with, because I will only buy the perfect item. I now know that I mean the joyful item.

For instance, I am looking for a dress. Polyester and viscose are out of the question, because they make me sweat - 80% of dresses are out of the question; I am 6ft tall, so short dresses are out, too; my bust is small, but my hips are wide, so most shaped dresses are out; I don't like black in a summer dress...now there are no dresses left. I think I need to find a good taylor!

iQueen

ChihiroSen wrote: »

So today I began my declutter, starting with my clothes, and immediately hit a problem.
I didn't feel any joy for 99% of the clothes I own...

I do not have the money to buy new clothes...

Has anyone else had this problem and found a way to over come it?

Thanks

I'm it that situation. I have less than 6 items which spark real joy and fit, so they are keepers (and will probably have to be amputated from me eventually!) :rotfl:

Beyond that, I am keeping (for the time-being) things that I can grudgingly wear, and keep my life ticking over. Everything else can go.

BUT...

kondoing will change not only your home! It will change your thinking as you progress. It starts with how you shop and allow things into your home, and slowly seeps into every other area of your life - work, relationships, what you want out of life etc! :shocked:

This is the time many of us have found our clothes nagging us, and we don't know why! It's because we are not the same people who started the Kondo Journey! We have changed. Our clothes are trying to remind us that it is now time to adjust our style to more closely reflect whom we have become!

At this point, we are good to start replacing some/all of the clothes that we kept. :T

You may have noticed, from recent posts, that some of us are now trying to figure out our new 'style'! :rotfl:

So, as long as you cover your nakedness, and have something acceptable for work, shopping and a pub meal, don't worry, for now!

GreyQueen wrote: »

I read it and thought to myself; call that a hoard, I can do better than that! Pah, bunch of lightweights!

My school uniform was two skirts, ghastly A line navy polyester jobbies, two sweaters and 4-5 white blouses. We'd come home from school and have to change into our scruffs right away. I can remember one or two party dresses but it was mostly jeans and jumpers, shorts and teeshirts, with photos confirming my memories.

Tomorrow I have a hot date with my lovely dentist. 1.5 hrs in the chair, omg. Wish me luck, troops!

Obviously you are younger than me - no polyester in the late 50s, and your family was affluent compared to mine and some of my friends'... 4-5 school blouses? I had 2, plus 1 cardigan and 1 skirt. The skirt and cardi only got washed once a term! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Most of my clothes were home-made - sewn by my Mum or knitted by my Nan. We had a good town market and, in the E Midlands, it was well-supplied with quality 'seconds' from the surrounding clothing and footwear industries, not the tat we find nowadays!

bunbun2

I borrowed the book from the library a while ago and whilst I can remember the basics I have stalled and feel there is something missing in my method. I have ordered the book this evening (I was ordering some books for ds1 for school and needed to make the order up to £10 to get free postage - well that's my excuse!). OH has said he will read it but I will believe it when I see it:)

I was pleased with myself though when I was sorting stuff out for ds2 for scout camp and I got out samosaed carrier bags. They will take up much less room in his rucksack:j

iQueen

peaceandfreedom wrote: »

Just reading that made my heart beat faster. But the ramifications are so huge, I don't know if I can face it. Among family, friends - we have a very busy social life which revolves around lots of other couples, though we do a lot of stuff with just the ladies or just the men.

Your life sounds so good though, it's what I dream of.

I'm kind of banking on something exciting happening when I start properly Kondo-ing .

When I left my second husband I had 2 late teens, plus 5, 4, and 3 year-olds. At 42, I was just completing the first year of a degree, in a new part of the UK, with no family support and friends over 150 miles away.

It was damned scary, and very hard at times, even though I had been a lone-parent once before. I worked out how I could do it - finance, renting a home, etc, and did it!

My ex was a control-freak, and very good at it, very subtle. He wanted me all to himself. I loved him to bits, but he was psychologically abusing all the children, including his own. It took me 5 years to get over him, but I had to do it for the children's sake.

If a relationship is not working for one partner, it is not working for both.

My heart was beating faster, but it was also exhilerating, and busy, making a new life for my family. All five children are now happy, successful, and settled. It was worth it, and I am a much stronger person now.

I have remained unattached and truly happy. I can't imagine going through an unsatisfactory life, and arriving near the end, feeling disappointed.

iQueen

bunbun2 wrote: »

I borrowed the book from the library a while ago and whilst I can remember the basics I have stalled and feel there is something missing in my method. I have ordered the book this evening (I was ordering some books for ds1 for school and needed to make the order up to £10 to get free postage - well that's my excuse!). OH has said he will read it but I will believe it when I see it:)

I was pleased with myself though when I was sorting stuff out for ds2 for scout camp and I got out samosaed carrier bags. They will take up much less room in his rucksack:j

For a couple of years, I had refused to allow any more books into my house (there are still loads to go!) so I had a tussle with myself before I bought the MK Bible! It will be one of the few books that I will keep... until I lend it to someone, and it never returns!

I know MK says only 'do' our own things, but a lot of OPs have done their DH's 'smalls', with permission, and that has often been resulted in DH's conversion! Then, he may really want to read it!

Ha,ha! I can just see your DS2, round the campfire, teaching all his fellow scouts how to samosa! Well, done, we are slowly making the World a better place, by Konversion! :rotfl:

Ging Gang Gooli... :whistle: