The KonMarie method

MMF007

mavvymoo wrote: »

Hi Konverts I read this today and thought it was very apt for this thread I hope you like it

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the "half empty or half full" question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: "How heavy is this glass of water?"
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."
She continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will
feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything."
Remember to put the glass down.;)

thank you so much for posting this Mavvymoo, it rings very true. my mum realy really clings on to, and frequently re-lives, events that have upset her and she goes right back to her childhood, the traumatic times around the births of me and my brother, (she still talks about how exhausted she was when we were babies and no-one helped in any way. We are now just either side of 50....she's been holding that glass a while !!), probs with her parents, a job ahe had years ago, etc, etc, etc, etc:(:( I find it very sad but I suppose it has taught ME that you have to let things go.

a la MK, thank the events for the expience, teaching you what you don't like, and then let the negative thoughts swan right outta there (no need to take those to the charity shop!

Have been busy today, cleaned kitchen and bathroom, vacced all house then finished 2 big piles of paperwork, all weeded/shredded/neatly filed as appropriate. Then i tackled my holiday/beachwear and discarded a fair amount as no longer giving me joy, rolled the rest and packed into small suitcase for storage until/if wintersun holiday is booked... I plan on more MK tomorrrow before RL takes back over on Monday and I want to make 2 birthday cards for a couple of friends who will be celebrating in the next 2 weeks. Wish me luck:D!
M

allybee101

I finally got round to getting the last bits out of my bedroom so I could do a good deep clean.
I've started putting clothes back and have already set aside a small stack of items to let go of (despite having gone through them just a few months ago).
Great item Mavvymoo - letting go is so important- we can't keep holding onto these thoughts for ever. when I get a horrible memory I try and imagine it in a bubble that floats away. Not sure it always works, but I keep working on it!

iQueen

tibawo wrote: »

Whilst you all are busy doing your bits I have a mystery for you to solve. I havea hanging basket on the front of my house, it has a 99p plant in and doing really well. I last watered it on Monday.

On Tues water was on the floor underneath it.. No worries I thought just the excess.
Hot again on weds so come to water it but notice puddle under it.
Thurs comes still no rain, dry on floor, go off to work and when come back puddle under it. Decide to stick my finger in pot to casually sniff. No smell so assume water. Patch dries.
Friday same thing. Who the hell is watering my plant?
Friend suggested leaking gutter but with no rain not realistic and to be exactly under plant would be hard anyway.
Family at work. Neighbours say it not them.

Girls won first prize for float for brownies on carnival so really pleased and I'm now busy marking. Think for the first time in ages we might order pizza for tea... Don't normally as we buy our own and put the saved money in the rainy day jar! However, I have a fiver off a ten pound spend voucher so after this week feel we all need it!

Air frost at night = condensation = puddle when sun comes out at 5am!

supersaver1000 wrote: »

Thanks mavvymoo. If I start to worry I just think about something else. I don't know why I didn't do it before, perhaps it's a skill that comes with age :rotfl:

Ditto, mav!

Supersaver, I think it's a skill that comes with wisdom, which sometimes comes with age and experience.

iQueen

allybee101 wrote: »

Great item Mavvymoo - letting go is so important- we can't keep holding onto these thoughts for ever. when I get a horrible memory I try and imagine it in a bubble that floats away. Not sure it always works, but I keep working on it!

It works for anything - just keep practising!

A few weeks ago, I had a serious anxiety attack and went for medical advice 2 days afterwards, and had my BP taken - it was "quite high" - 133/80.

At a regular appontment last week, the nurse did BP again - "a little high" - 127/80. I was surprised, so she did it again, "because sometimes it comes down a couple of points". The second time, it was 110/80. :T

For the first test, I had been relaxing (as instructed), and thinking about going for a coffee after the Surgery. The second time, still relaxed, I imagined myself peacefully lying on the beach outside, in years past, catching warm rays, while the children played in a pool, close by.

Just goes to show the power of 'mind over matter' and how a slight change in thinking, can make a significant difference to our wellbeing!

What is the difference between the two thoughts? A relaxing coffee - without parental responsibilities v lying on the beach with parental responsibilities.

I can only say that, for me, parental responsibilities brought me my greatest happiness!

VJsmum

MMF007 wrote: »

a la MK, thank the events for the expience, teaching you what you don't like, and then let the negative thoughts swan right outta there (no need to take those to the charity shop!

M

What a great idea, I had never really thought about the "thanking them" thing. I wish my MiL could do that, she too has been holding the water a while.

Igamogam

Not much kondoing of stuff this week. I found myself having the need to 'clear my mind'.

I forget how fortunate we are to live where we do and every so often have to remind myself. This week I have had a few trips after work to a favourite spot to find some peace and to catch up on a book I needed to finish for my book group. So I pulled on the walking shoes stuffed the paperback in a pocket and walked higher up the mountain to rest the eyes on a favourite view, lean against a sun warmed rock and polish off a couple of chapters until the evening sun dipped behind the ridge. Once the sun has gone its quite an eerie place so I dont hang about! I use to do this regularly - it was my guilty pleasure after work and cant remember the last time it happened. Certainly my general fitness has dropped off :eek:

Have definitely felt much calmer and in control. Not quite so annoyed with myself or worried about things. Feel I can tackle a few things head on now - not just the declutter.A little bit more appreciative of what I have and what I can achieve.... but right now I am just wide awake:rotfl:

sistercas

Morning all

Mav that's brilliant , I tend to worry about everything and often I'll mull over things from years ago . I really need to put that glass down . I'm certainly going to try :T

Just back from the good food / gardeners world show in Birmingham
Had a great time , bought a couple of bottles of wine and 3 lady bird poppies , gave one to my mum and the others I'll plant today
I refused the goody bag as I would end up with lots of bits that I don't want . However dd2 picked a bag up , now I have dog food ( no dog)
Dishwasher tablets ( no dishwasher ). Concentrated squash ( don't drink it ) plus other stuff and lots of advertising leaflets all of which I need to kondo :cool: oh well
My plan for today is to kondo the airing cupboard sort out the sheets and get rid of the old bedding as I think there maybe a few kiddies bed sets that are no longer needed , I bag them up for cs

GreyQueen

I am, by nature, a person who tends to take things to heart and stew over them for days, but I am trying to let go of that habit as it's incredibly counter-productive. And also trying to let go of perfectionism, to tell myself that 'good enough is good enough'.

Yesterday, I was having a ramble around the library and following the habit of letting whim take me towards interesting reading. It's been very useful in the past and was so yesterday as I got, among other books; Happy Money, the new science of smarter spending by Elizabeth Dunn and Michael Norton.

It's not telling you how to buy more widgets for your pound but explaining the psychology behind why spending money on experiences rather than things gives lasting happiness. And it's a fun read, not at all dry and heavy. I read half of it in a single sitting yestereve.

When it comes to Things, there are some purchases which are the source of deep happiness. An example I often think of from my own life was when I was about 19 and had only one pair of shoes.

My right shoe had a leak which I could never find but, whenever I was out in more than the lightest of drizzles, caused that foot to be saturated from mid-foot to toe, and the wetness would wick up around the top of the foot. I can still recall the unpleasantness of peeling off the succession of soaking socks; you can't always organise your life to avoid going out in the rain, I know because I tried.

Oh, the deep joy of being able to replace the leaky shoes with a pair which didn't leak, it was incredibly life-enhancing. But I wouldn't have had my happiness increased doubly, by having a second non-leaky pair, or ten-fold, by having ten pairs of new waterproof shoes at the same time.

PollyWollyDoodle

I went to a trade fair yesterday, must admit that colleagues and I got into a bit of a 'freebie frenzy' as it became a contest to see who could blag the most (there were some quite good ones, including alcohol and chocolate!). I was far behind the winner, who must have schmoozed every sales rep in the hall.

I am slightly embarrassed at the heap of spoils I brought back, however the difference this time is that I'm not going to hang on to free key rings and bottle-openers while stressing about what to do with them. They'll be going straight in the charity bag. The leaflets and brochures will be reviewed, anything of real relevance will be filed and the rest put in the recycling. The alcohol and chocolate will be disposed of suitably, of course.

My MKing has plateaued lately BUT the areas I've done are remaining tidy, so I will carry on. To have a tidy bedroom is something of a miracle for me.

mavvymoo

Morning Konverts
I am glad some of you are going to try and put that glass down

Many moons ago I worked in the very high pressure target driven sales industry. It really was ruthless and if anyone was caught talking about anything negative 'In there words you were kicked down the stairs' Which meant you were fired and not allowed to talk or say goodbye to anyone. You had to leave via the stairs so you didnt see anyone hence the term 'Kicked down the stairs'

I never really liked the job but was pretty good at it and the mega money I earnt kept me there (Young and stupid) I was there for a couple of years :eek:

One thing that I really took from there was.Every morning as you walked in you had to imagine you left all your problems and worries on the door step. If you went in without doing it you were sent back outside to make sure you had left everything

You were allowed to pick them up on the way out :rotfl:

But it really works and going up those stairs you became a different positive person eager to get on with your day.When I left that job I did take that with me as I knew it really did help me.

But have forgotten it for years and only recently (with this process) started doing it again.

So really my bags left on the doorstep is the same as putting that glass down or putting problems in a bubble and watch it fly away.

We can all let go of stuff its just like iTwin said its practice practice practice and we will make it perfect

Mav x