Opinions please..

bubblycrazy

Jojo he already talks about having another baby, it's a definite no from me!

burnsguitarman

I find it quite amazing, that he can even consider another baby, whilst not working and providing for his family. No wonder our country is in a mess.

jp1964

He is not bending over backwards for you, he is taking care of his child, a normal activity for any parent.

What is not a normal activity for any parent is to *choose* not to work to support that child, this may of course not be a choice, as you don't say what his reason is for being long term sick, but if he is able to care for his son, cooks all the meals and as you posted earlier is a bit of a hypochondriac, that indicates to me that he is actually perfectly capable of some kind of work, please feel free to correct me if I have made the wrong assumption.

For him to be considering another baby is totally wrong if he is not going to be able to support that child, you are completely right to say no way!

It does sound like controlling and passive aggressive behaviour in my view, has he always been like this or is it recent? He could of course be depressed, but even of so, many people with depression can still lead fulfilling lives and support themselves, with the right treatment and/or medication. If you think this is the case, is he receiving or seeking treatment?

You do, of course have the right not to disclose any further information about your husband's health, but if his behaviour is impacting you so much that you are asking for support and advice on an internet forum, you really do need to be thinking about what to do about it.

You should not have to put up with him complaining about you doing something (completely reasonably) with your life when he either can't or won't. How will it be for you in say, five years time, and he is still behaving in this way, what sort of example is he going to set his son by his attitude to you?

I don't of course have all the answers, only you know what you want out of life, but I can only give my thoughts on what you have said, and the information that has been posted.

Feel free to disagree with me and I am sorry if I have got the wrong conclusions from this, but you sound very unhappy and clearly something has to change for that to stop.