Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 12

little_angel_2

8dpo for me and the spotting has started again. Ive been cramping since ov, so pretty sure I'm out. Had a big sob on the toilet when I saw it. Husband is gutted too. Having a drink tonight to drown my sorrows.

We're probably taking next cycle off as we're likely to be at my mum's!

pinkmagpie

Popping back. Did a HPT yesterday morning, but BFN.

Part of me thinks I might be too early, being approx CD24 / 11 DPO. Not due AF till next week-ish and looking into things online, there still could be a chance... I certainly have symptoms... largely tender nipples (I usually get wholly sore bbs not just the nipples!), bloating, fatigue, no obvious PMS, no acne. The nausea seems to have subsided a little, but who knows.

It's a difficult one to call with being my first cycle from coming off the pill. I may have caught, but I also might not and just be kidding myself that all these symptoms are there. Part of me thinks it's a possibility but taking the test yesterday made me almost 'accept' that it wasn't, even though I know it still might be. Hanging out till Monday to test again, but I have a feeling impatience will get the better of me and I will test over the weekend. Grr!

Apple1985

Hello all.

After some advice. I think all this baby making is putting a strain on mine and mine OH relationship. I've become maybe a little obsessed with 'BDing' at the right time... (Around the fertile days) but my partner is finding it difficult! His s.drive has never been great- we BD'd two
Days ago and tried again tonight and let's just say it was a disaster. I really don't want to put too much pressure on him
As I know that won't help the situation.. But I can't help but feel really sad!! Does that make me
Really unreasonable and horrible?? All I keep
Thinking is... ' we're going to miss the boat'... Any tips? Sorry! Just feeling really down and it doesn't help when I ask friends they say around their fertile days they did it every day...if
Not twice a day! We've literally only BD'd twice this month so far :-( Xx

Milliebob

It only takes one Apple! If you can time it right with ov tests or temping, one BD is all it takes. I know you increase your chances of you do it more, but how many people get pregnant after one night stands etc?!

cats2012

Aww Apple it's so hard! My OH actually has a high sex drive (!!) but he really struggles with "performing" under pressure too. Our first few months of trying to do it at the right time were also disasters. I now try not to be too specific with him - I tell him it's coming up but not specific days, and do try to do plenty of sexy stuff like build up and romance etc. We do a lot better now and I think both of us are much more relaxed about it.

AFM fertility friend seems to have given up on me!! I'm fairly certain I ov'd a couple of days a go but FF is not happy with the temp rise. Admittedly it is small, but I think FF is struggling because I had a few higher temps over the month which mean if it just takes an average cover line I haven't really gone up properly. But I generally know if I get two temps in a row over 36, and not after a glass of wine the night before, then that's definitely an increase. So still got my fingers crossed. So for sexy mouse I'm calling myself 2DPO :-)

If we have no joy this cycle it will have been a year. Not sure what that will mean for what we do next...

MancMama4

cats I do exactly the same - I tell him roughly when I think ov will be then say no more about it... then "subtly" ramp up the romance over those few days haha... I think he secretly knows why I'm suddenly all over him but it seems to do the trick. I do feel for the men in our lives, they must worry about the pressure to perform! All the while that we are worrying about our bodies doing their bit.

CD9 and so relaxed its untrue. I feel like myself again for the first time in months, and I even had a hold of someone's baby in the office yesterday and didn't feel the usual self consciousness or eyes burning into me. Maybe things are looking up?

Have a great weekend all x

midget_1907

Oh apple it's so hard and I think it has affected my relationship as well like cats and manc I tend to not exactly tell hubby when it is and do little things to make it more romantic like wearing his favourite bra and knicker set etc.

Was reading sexymouse tips earlier in the thread any may try her ideas of leaving notes for him etc.

Good luck for everyone.

pink_petal

It's definitely hard! The first couple of months we were actively 'trying' OH struggled a few times, definitely due to the pressure...and for that week it felt like we were just going through the motions and getting it done. We had to have a chat and decided to make it a but more relaxed and fun and it's helped...although some days he does still struggle. I took it to heart at first but I realise it's just so much pressure on him. Finding a balance is difficult!

We've been doing it every other day recently and making sure we take it in turns to instigate it, that seems to have helped too.

AFM, just waiting for ov, expecting it to be maybe tomorrow or Sunday.

PP x

Lemon_Tree

Apple, both times I've conceived we've DTD on days 12 & 16 only, it really doesn't take DTD every day or multiple times a day if that's not possible in your relationship.

FreddieFrugal

When I've found it stressful was when I had it in my head that we HAD to BD on that particular day due to the dates, but both tired from work. That makes you put a lot of pressure on yourself and that can make it very difficult.

You then start feeling negative and upset with yourself which obviously makes the problem worse.

This only happened on a small number of occasions - but it was when I just really wasn't in the mood for it but did still, obviously, really want a baby!

It'll happen eventually, it was lucky for us that her last OV before conceiving happened on a Saturday. Although less lucky that she noticed it after a trip to A&E! Of all the times you'd think you'd be too stressed to BD but that was definitely without a doubt the day that we caught!

(Must just make clear...it was at home after the visit...not in the A&E department :rotfl:)