Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 12

MancMama4

Good luck!

chickp wrote: »

Just caught up.

Congratulations charlotte :j

We'll be onto cycle 6 when AF arrives and I'm flitting between a sort of calm certainty that we'll need help and desperate hope which is much worse. I know I'll feel crap when AF arrives either way.

Got a huge box from clearblue to sort through tomorrow :eek: Wish me luck!

cyantist

Maybe you ladies can help me out here.

DH and I originally planned to visit our friends later this month but I can’t go because our cat is too ill (and we can’t take her with us). If DH goes on his own we will be apart from CD11-15 (he has to be in that city for work on Thursday so he’d stay there from Wed night to Sun) so this month would be out for us if he goes. Our friends Nan has just died so I feel we (or at least DH) should go and give support but despite us having tried for years I have a good feeling about this month (DH decided this weekend we need to try more than most and thinks DTD every single day is necessary – which we’ve not really tried before until last month, I’m feeling relaxed after our holiday, we both aren’t too busy at work and I read recently you’re more likely to conceive the month after a holiday). So I don’t want to miss the entire ov window. What would you do?

chickp

CD29 and still no sign of AF here. I'm so cross with myself for letting my mind run away with itself and start getting my hopes up. My longest cycle recorded has been 30 days so I could go until Thursday as glow predicted. Feeling pretty fed up with the whole thing surprisingly!

Black_Ribboner

Thanks MancMama!

Aileth, sorry to hear you've been having such a miserable time. Hope your dad's on the mend x

Chickp, I'm keeping everything crossed for you - not long until you'll know one way or the other.

Cyantist, that's really tricky. Is there any way Oh could come back Saturday? If not I'd just try and get as.much bding in as possible beforehand and immediately he steps over the threshold getting back - hopefully you'll still manage to catch that egg. Or maybe if your cat gets better (I really hope she does) you can still go.

Fingers crossed for those in or heading into the tww, I really hope July's a bumper crop! xx

2ba3c

Cyanist, how long are your cycles? x

cyantist

Sorry about your cat Aileth, and hope your Dad is doing ok. Sometimes it seems like life just doesn't want to make things easy but hope you're feeling more positive soon.

If he comes back Saturday , there's not much point him staying longer than the Thursday, as he'd hardly get to see our friends anyway. The cat isn't getting better unfortunately. She has a list the length of my arm of things wrong with her, she is old, and it's a downward slope now I think. I even hate leaving her just to go to work. Also it's now 100 months since we started TTC. There were times since then that we stopped for various reasons but there's been at least 50 months when I know the timing was ok. DTD on the Wed morning then Sunday night is never going to be enough for us, and we've accepted we will need to try 20 times harder than most people if we ever want to conceive.

2b - my cycles are always 28 days. Also regarding your earlier post -I've never used internet cheapies before but I've got peaks on my CBFM for 5 days running in the past. Also I have occasionally got peaks at two different times of the month. I did read recently that 30% of women ovulate more than once a month, and 10% more than twice. I wonder if that's sometimes the answer when we're getting strange results after POAS.

Cuilean

CD25 here, and I have the kind of upset stomach which means I'm spending quality time in the bathroom. Told DH I wasn't testing this month since we only managed BD once, so the odds aren't even worth wasting an IC on. Add to that the constant updates from Facebook about my friend's baby, along with comments about how she has the perfect family, how in love with her baby she is, how delivery went exactly to plan etc, and I'm in the kind of mood which is usually only seen in serial killer from horror films.

In case anyone hasn't been bombarded by the adverts, Amazon are having "Prime Day" tomorrow, which is apparently a day of amazing deals for people with Amazon Prime accounts. The previews of the items for sale are starting to appear, and so far there are two which might interest us in the TTC brigade, although one will require staying up late.

Deal 1 is a pack of 10 of the CB ovulation tests, the one with the dual hormone indicator and the flashing smiley face. However, that one kicks off at 12:20am :eek: Currently £21, so will probably fall to the £17-ish mark. If you're interested in those, let me show you a trick which I've used before to get it even cheaper. There's currently a "voucher" for this item, which you activate by clicking the "Get voucher" button under the price. Go there now. Don't buy the item. Just clicking that voucher puts it into your account for use whenever. If you've got that voucher, it doesn't matter when you buy the item, it'll give you the discount. I did this with a leather dog collar I liked, which then popped up on a Lightning Deal a couple of weeks later, and got the discount Lightning Deal price, plus the discount for the voucher.

Deal 2 is Advanced Fertility Monitor, which kicks off at a slightly more reasonable 12:20pm. Currently £79. I'd like to think they'll discount it into the £60-ish area, but I think that's too generous. They never seem to discount the stuff I'd like to a point I'd consider it a deal. Or maybe I'm boosting the Scottish tightwad stereotype :laugh:

Black_Ribboner

I'm sorry about your cat cyantist. It's a horrible thing to deal with, hugs.

With everything else you've said, I think you'll have to decide between supporting your friends and ttc this month. Given how long you've been trying and the odd opk results (which could indicate a hormone problem), I'd query whether it's worth cancelling on your friends for what sounds like a very small chance of a bfp.

Of course, that's easy for me to say - I'm nowhere near as far down this road. And I think it would be completely understandable if you and OH decided you needed to be together that weekend. Ultimately it's your decision to make - best of luck with whatever you choose, the situation sucks x

cyantist

Thanks :-)

That's exactly what I said to DH yesterday BlackRibboner. That we won't be supporting our friend and for what? The chance of a BFP is like one in a million now. But at the same time we had a long talk while we were away and both agreed to prioritise this above anything else. We have just been referred to a FS so are getting dangerously close to the point of getting treatment and before we go down that very expensive and stressful route we want to make sure we absolutely have done everything we possibly could have to help things along naturally. So making sure we DTD every single day, booking ov days off work so nothing else can get in the way, and arranging to do nothing but fun stress-free coupley stuff around that time to increase our chances. Despite all the months of trying and nothing happening, I finally feel slightly more positive about things and compared to how I felt 2 months ago that's almost miraculous!

I have had all the tests now that they do before referral, and it's all come back completely normal. I am ovulating and based on the blood tests they have done it seems to be at a normal time. It was only occasionally I'd get weird opk results - we are talking about 2 months where I got multiple peaks and maybe 4 when I got peaks for 4 or more days in a row. There may be hormonal problems that wouldn't show up in the tests I've had but all I keep getting told is everything is perfect. Though it obviously isn't because where are my 2 kids that I should have by now?!

chickp

Think I'm getting cramps now Will I ever learn not to get my hopes up? I wish this whole process was easier for all of us.

On a side note, I read up on the CB study materials earlier. Blimey - there's a lot to do! I'm wishing I hadn't bothered now.