How to find out where sombody is?

jackyann

Definitely try the neighbours. Take some sort of ID and any letters or photos so that they know your story is true.
The neighbours may well know the best way to find out. I would also try adult social care - they won't be able to breach confidentiality, but will try very hard to let your mum's friend know she is asking for her, or will do their best to let your mum know what is going on at a general level.
My greatest sympathies to your mum - this is very hard.

Quackers1

How about writing a letter or card with a return address on the back if you know the person's address?

Hermia

j.e.j. wrote: »

It might sound a bit morbid, but would it be worth searching the BMD database in case there's any indication there that she might have passed away?

Recent deaths are not recorded. I think at the moment only deaths up to 2005 are recorded.

janb5

Off the record, do people not say`died` anymore? I have had three close deaths in my family and we say `died`. I find this passed over said all the time so I am just wondering is it just me who find it euphemistic?

74jax

janb5 wrote: »

Off the record, do people not say`died` anymore? I have had three close deaths in my family and we say `died`. I find this passed over said all the time so I am just wondering is it just me who find it euphemistic?

I say died and also dead. Some of my friends find 'dead' quite final. A friend said something to which I replied 'but she's dead' and they found it harsh. Maybe passed is a newer wording....

candygirl

Passed is an American term I think, though we over here sometimes say passed away:o

bluelass

A GP would never give out such information (well I certainly hope not) they would advise contacting social services or police if you have concerns. I have heard 192.com is good but you have to buy credits. If you have good intentions for wanting such information good luck but some people such as abusive ex's and nasty neighbours wanting to know where someone they dislike has moved to can access these type of sites and that is not good.

bluelass

barbarawright wrote: »

Does she know any of her friend's friends? Or whether she went to the local church? I'm not sure if a GP or social services would be allowed to give out information though?

No GP worth their salt would do that.

moneyistooshorttomention

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

And here's a plea not to post Christmas cards (too late for this year I know) without a return address somewhere. Jenny and David will be sorry not to hear from my mum, but as I have no idea who they are or where she knew them from what can I do???

The house I moved into pretty recently was a probate house and, sure enough, Christmas cards came through again for the last owner this year. Last year, I passed the cards onto the vendor to deal with. This time, I opened them (ie to see if there were any clues of who sent them). I found that some cards had the name/address of the sender written on the outside of the envelope (ie I suspect they realised something had happened to her) and I returned those cards "to sender" with a note saying what had happened to previous owner.

The ones that I had to open (ie because of no contact details on the envelope) had to be just binned, because there were no contact details inside either.

So - do send a little "best wishes" type card to the address - with your contact details on the outside of the envelope. That way there is a chance that any new occupant of the place/anyone keeping an eye on it will contact you and tell you what has happened.

iris

You could try the following web site. Just click on Free Search and enter your mother's friend's name and town. You might be lucky and find her new address.


I recently found a relative's new address via this web site (she had moved to a nursing home).


http://www.searchelectoralroll.co.uk/Record_Removal_Request.asp?record=remove


HTH