* Walking in a Winter Wonderland * - It's the 2015 Christmas Chatter Thread

mrs-moneypenny

Pinknfluffy ALL school have to by law have a policy for nearly everything and there will be something in one of those pertaining to how they deal with bullying it's called the behaviour policy, as it states in the link all teachers parents and pupils should be told what is in it. https://www.gov.uk/bullying-at-school/the-law
If the head doesn't seem able to give you the answers you require then ask for the contact details of the head of the governors board for your school they are the ones who put the policies in place and are answerable should ofsted come knocking.
Hugs to you and your DD and I hope it is all sorted out very soon.

Hugs to all that need the. And I hope everyone is as well as can be, can't stay as I've got a dentist appt to go to.

DomRavioli

Hi all

Belated birthday hugs to all I've missed, hugs to those who need them x

Just popped in to catch up, its my 30th on the 8th July (aaargh!) and I have no idea what to do - people keep asking me what I want and what we're doing and I just want to stay in bed and eat ice cream, pull the covers over my head and pretend that it isn't happening!

Any ideas would be gratefully appreciated - I don't drink, and I hate going out and people making a fuss of me. Don't really have any hobbies as I work so much so its pretty difficult.

mrs-moneypenny

Dom, birthdays really don't bother me, most of the time I forget how old I am anyway LOL, it's only when I suddenly realise my eldest DD is 29 I suddenly realise I'm now the age I thought was geriatric when I was young.
If you don't want to do anything don't, but if there is a film or experience you'd like to see or have a go at give it at try. Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life and all that.
I took a photo of me age about 6 to school today the kids are doing some kind of stall at the summer fete where you have to guess who's "baby" photo is whose. I gave it to the kids running the stall and they said I they could tell it was me as "I still had the same smiley eyes" no mention was made of the lines that are now around them

3forholidays

DomRavioli How about going out for a meal somewhere?

mandco Deepest condolences.

pinknfluffy As others have mentioned, the school will have an anti-bullying policy but how effective it will be will depend on the school and the staff responsible for implementing it! :mad: Hope that you can get things sorted.
I was bullied whilst at secondary school and it has had a lasting impact on me - I don't have anyone that I can classify as a friend as I withdrew into myself, didn't socialise with anyone and went home for my lunch etc.
Does your DD participate in activities outwith school? I didn't do any activities that allowed me to meet others outwith the school environment due to my disability which didn't help matters.

Oops, sorry for the essay!

FeistyFidget

JJ you really are an inspiration my lovely. I really hope you get some answers soon sweet xxx

Pink that is awful! I really hope you manage to get some answers from the school and some relief for poor DD

Dom, I have that one due in December, we can be 'old' together x

pinknfluffy28

Thank-you all for your kind, supportive words.

It's been a tough day. I am aware of the laws and seem to spend half my life quoting them to the school. I appreciate that this may be this schools first experience of self harming (although sadly, I struggle to believe it in this day) but I certainly believe they could do more.

The head agreed today to bring the boys involved parents in (4 boys involved, 1 main ring leader). Short term, DD has been given a pass which enables her to leave lesson at anytime, and go to the Chaplin/pastoral room.
She can spend all school day there if she wants to, and each lessons work is going to be given to her at the start of each day.. It's certainly not ideal, but she feels a little happier knowing she has an escape.

I am also in contact with the education board regarding this matter, and I know the head now has to report all incidents regarding DD to them within 48 hours.

We are at a loss as to what more we, as parents, can do. I know they have procedures to follow, but obviously my only concern is for dd, and I hate how they seem to want to protect their reputation more than one of their pupils.

With regards to the councillor, she does have contact with the school, and has liased with them twice, but she too seems to bang her head against a wall. I will speak with her again at next week's meeting, and see if she has any further ideas.

We discussed months ago changing her school, but dd's self confidence is pretty non-existant so it would likely do more harm than good.

I have told DH, he is not a happy bunny, but he is such a support to dd, and to me, once he has calmed down!

On a positive, bread was delicious again.

freespirit66

Evening everyone, i wrapped DD1s christmas pjs today as they came this morning, i also got my M&S gift card through :T so that has been put away in the safe, in case i get any ideas!!! DS did his usual and last night came in and said can you do some baking for a bake sale tomorrow mum? Aaaaargggh!!!! Late notice again the little s*d, he has actually known since friday??? FRIDAY!!!! :rotfl::rotfl:so i made him some Oreo Brownies to take in and he has been making Salted Caramel cupcakes and Red Velvet cake tonight.

PRINCESSKITTY haha i knew someone would say they used one teabag :rotfl:but these werent strong by any means, literally a couple of dunks and then milk ewww

PINKNFLUFFY oh im so sorry to hear about your poor DD1, you must both be very worried sick for her, and very frustrated with the school, im glad she has a fantastic counsellor and hope she can get the help she needs, also glad you told DH as you need each others support, sending you hugs x

DOMRAVIOLI what about getting away for a few days to celebrate? So you have an excuse for not having a party

Peppapig

Thank you again to everyone for the lovely words and the support - it means a huge amount. Honorary DD had to go to London again today to register the birth, the death and sort out the cremation certificate so a very emotional day for her and her DH. They had originally decided they didn't want a ceremony for the cremation but have now decided they do so have an appointment with the funeral director tomorrow. The good thing is that they're both talking about their feelings and I'm hoping that this will help them find their way through together.

On a happier note, glad to see you posting JJ - you're certainly seeing a few hospital rooms. Maybe you could do a sort of Trip Advisor thing for hospitals?

Pinknfluffy it must be so difficult for you seeing your DD suffering like this. I hate bullying - fortunately the school my DDs went to were very good with such things (due to having a really good head teacher I think) and in this day and age it's ridiculous that they don't have robust and effective policies in place. It sounds like you're doing all you can to get this sorted you're just not getting the right support from the school. Good on you for not giving up and for involving the Education Board. On the bread front, I used to make a loaf every morning before I had the children - thinking about it that was probably the only really successful bit of cooking I've ever done!

Freespirit/PrincessKitty, I must confess that I'm one of the 'share a teabag' brigade but I have my tea weak and black (not dishwater weak but weak enough to be able to see the bottom of the cup through it) so DH gets the teabag first and then I just get a quick squeeze or two of it afterwards! I think if DH had his way we'd be drying them off to re-use but I'm too quick for him and they're in the food waste before he can even try.

Apologies to anyone I've missed but hugs to all that need them (especially Kiwi and Mandco) and a belated happy birthday to DofJ and Mrs G.

mrs-moneypenny

FeistyFidget wrote: »

Dom, I have that one due in December, we can be 'old' together x

OLD!!!!!! You're not even half way there yet, that really puts me on the home straits:rotfl:

KiWi13

[QUOTE=Peppapig;68658600] The good thing is that they're both talking about their feelings and I'm hoping that this will help them find their way through together.

Apologies to anyone I've missed but hugs to all that need them (especially Kiwi and Mandco) .[/QUOTE]


Its such a difficult thing and I cant even begin to imagine it however I am so glad they are able to talk about it and together which is the main thing. I imagine it will help in the long run that they are able to let it out and not bottle feelings up. Always better when facing something with support beside you.


and thanks for the hugs. appreciate it.

Pinknfluffy So glad that the school at least seem to be moving forward a little. Not quite what you wanted but suppose its better than a step backwards. At least your DD has a little bit of light at the end of the tunnel knowing she can escape but its ridiculous that she ends up making the sacrifice of her education when she is the victim yet the boys that are doing this are allowed to continue theirs with no issues.
Also glad you told your DH - what's that old saying? - a problem shared is a problem halved. I know it isn't quite that but better than keeping it to yourself and having to go through it "alone" Wishing you all - all the best with it.


DOM - if you want to be alone with a book in a bubbly bath then request that. If you want to go out for a stroll in a park with a picnic choose that. Its your chance to do whatever takes your fancy. as others have said - movie, bowling, crazy golf, theatre, meal out, shopping trip, day trip further afield, park, zoo, seaside/coast. hope you have a great day whatever you decide.


free - did laugh at your son asking for last minute baking again having known since Friday. boys eh!? altho he obviously thinks your supermum to still manage to do it for him so look at it as a compliment.


KiWi x