Mini rant about friends!

jackomdj

My OH and daughter both have the cough, blocked Nose and sore throat that is going round our area. They are up and down with it (it seem to come on in cycles so they can be fine for a few hours then feel awful). If we had plans today we would be cancelling in the hope that taking it easy may mean feeling better on the big day.

peachyprice

jackomdj wrote: »

If we had plans today we would be cancelling in the hope that taking it easy may mean feeling better on the big day.

I think this is probably the crux of the matter.

If I felt a little unwell so close to christmas I would cancel too, no way would I go out and risk getting really ill over the whole of christmas.

Any other time of year I'd expect her to at least put in a bit of effort though.

Orlando_Virgin

Nah I completely understand this. I have friends that jib out on nights out all the time, she might clearly be saying she isn't well because she couldn't be bothered. Friend groups are usually fraught with "jibbers" who swear blind they are gonna go on the night, then when it gets closer to the time they just don't trap and have an excuse every time.

Obviously in the case she is actually ill, then that's not her fault and it's just unfortunate timing, but obviously OP feels like her friend is as my mates put it - "pulling a parachute":)

Sounds like you need a night out, is there no one else you can tag on with?

Faith177

I know it can be annoying to have people drop out at the last minute but if your friend isn't feeling great then maybe she thought she would be better staying home than ruining your night

If she feels how I feel atm I don't blame her as it was about as much as I could do to drag myself into work today I'm just thankful I finish at one otherwise I think I would have taken the hit on losing a days wage.:( I feel bloody awful and it came on suddenly in the early hours of this morning

JReacher1

I'm very cynical but it sounds to me like they pulled out because the other person did.

A night out with just two people can often be less fun than a night out with three people. So perhaps they were just not really up for it!

jaylee3

JReacher1 wrote: »

I'm very cynical but it sounds to me like they pulled out because the other person did.

A night out with just two people can often be less fun than a night out with three people. So perhaps they were just not really up for it!

This with bells on ^^^ I have had this happen before, and it's happened to people I know. You plan on going out with 2 others and one drops out; and then 'coincidently' the other one does too: usually for a very feeble reason.

I admit to doing it myself once or twice (not often!) I had a night out planned with two work colleagues about six months ago, (I will call them Jan and Ann,) and although I got on OK with Jan, I wouldn't fancy being alone with her for 3 hours because we have little in common, and at work, I find her hard to talk to. But Ann is great company, and we chat for ages sometimes.

So when Ann pulled out because of a sore throat, and a tummy bug, I will admit to texting Jan shortly after and saying something has come up and I can't come, even though nothing was wrong.

I didn't do it half an hour before though!!!

If it is a regular thing OP, maybe you need to give these friends a wide berth. And look for some new ones.

barbarawright

Can you lay your hand on your heart and swear you've never let down a friend? Sometimes we just have to accept that our friends are only human and do let us down. But we let them down too (I know I've agreed to go to events, knowing that I might bail out and I often assume that nobody will really mind). Just make another date with them and move on

dandelionclock30

Just widen your circle of friends because these 2 are not that bothered about doing things with you.
Maybe they didnt fancy dressing up etc, but who knows. I think I'd have had a ring round to see what everyone elce was doing or gone and done something elce by myself. Dont be sat in by yourself try to do things with other people.

Starrystarrynight

If your friend really isn't feeling well then, yes, it is too hard for her to get herself ready and go out for the evening. Yes, it's disappointing, but that's life.

j.e.j.

Like JReacher and jaylee I suspect the reason was, she was happy to go out in a group of three, but thought just being with one other person all evening might not be so enjoyable, so she made up an excuse.