Mini rant about friends!

rachiibell

I know this might seem silly to some people but me and a couple of friends had a night out planned for tonight.

It was a special christmas themed night at one of my all time favourite places and we were all dressing up christmassy (so not just a random night out).

Anyway today one of them cancelled and then about half an hour before I was meant to be going to her house the other cancelled saying she felt sick.

Fair enough she might not feel great but would it have been so hard to pull herself together and just go for a few drinks or something and then all have an early night? The worst bit about it is if you ever dream of telling her you don't want to do something because you don't feel well, ect she just won't take no for an answer and goes in a proper mood!

I know its only a night out but I decided to spend an extra night here before going home for christmas purely for this night out and I'm a bit gutted that now all I have to look forward to is an evening home alone!

Sorry rant over!

notanewuser

Believe me, if she has the winter vomiting bug that's doing the rounds at the moment she won't feel like going far, and you wouldn't appreciate it if she did!

thorsoak

So you'd be prepared to go out for an evening out with a friend who doesn't feel well - and who might throw up all over you?

Glad I'm not your friend :-D

tea_lover

Why are you annoyed at the friend who is ill but not the other one?

rachiibell

Just to clarify she isn't actually being sick I would understand if she was! She just doesn't feel that great. And I'm not happy with the other one but at least she cancelled this morning rather than half an hour before I was about to leave the house! If she'd text me much earlier in the day I wouldn't have wasted time getting ready and probably could have made other plans!

marisco_2

Perhaps the friend that text you late in the day was holding out till the last moment, hoping to be okay enough to go out with you this evening. Relax and look forward to Christmas and be a good mate and call in the morning to see how your friend is feeling.

duchy

These things happen -If it's a one off let it go. If it isn't find friends who are more reliable.

You *do* sound a bit unsympathetic though

rachiibell

marisco wrote: »

Perhaps the friend that text you late in the day was holding out till the last moment, hoping to be okay enough to go out with you this evening. Relax and look forward to Christmas and be a good mate and call in the morning to see how your friend is feeling.

That's a nice way of looking at it thank you Guess I'm just feeling a bit lonely and miserable!

lostinrates

All the above.....plus, of you are feeling ' a bit under the weather' as opposed to rather unwell, a quiet night out is a bit easier to pull your self together for. A night where there will inevitably queues, waiting, depending on whre you favourite place is some dubious behaviour there on the way there or back, delights of transport.....and the delights of people drunk on transport or drink driving.

All are worth it if you feel up for it. If you don't then they really, really seem hideous, especially before potential other days of obligation.

It must be very disappointing, I can understand that. Can you all rearrange to do something later in January....when everyone feels dull and needs cheering up anyway?

rachiibell

duchy wrote: »

These things happen -If it's a one off let it go. If it isn't find friends who are more reliable.

You *do* sound a bit unsympathetic though

It isn't a one off which might explain why I'm a bit annoyed! She once cancelled on me on my birthday because she "felt tired from work". I guess it wouldn't grate on me so much if when she texts me and asks me to do something on the spur of the moment she gets annoyed at me if I don't want to for whatever reason but apparently it's perfectly acceptable to cancel plans made ages in advance.

I know it's silly to get upset about it. I think I'm just a bit down in the dumps and was looking forward to spending some time with a friend to cheer me up!

FBaby

I'm with you on this one. Unless she was feverish and really unable to get out, she should have made an effort to go for at least a couple of hours knowing it meant a lot to you.

I have been in this situation when I really really didn't want to go out, either because I felt poorly or utterly exhausted, but that doesn't justify letting people down at the last minute. Some times I pick up and do end up having a decent time, at others I have count the minutes until I have gone home, but in the end, I still have many friends, and that's priceless.