Care Home used Dads money to buy flowers for themselves

jumpingjackd

Why on earth would they have taken another car for themselves. that's just not right, those staff that were attending the funeral should have made their own way there. Flowers should also not have been paid for out of estate. I would be looking for recompense

Mojisola

Marktheshark wrote: »

Who leaves a care home to sort out your own dads funeral.

Ladywriter1968 wrote: »

They offered to arrange the funeral as I had no transport to get to places and live out of area.

Someone who isn't local and doesn't have transport?

iammumtoone

When you refer to at as your dad's money what you mean is your money. As I assume his estate will pass to you.

I think the flowers which might not have been your choice are not classed as over the top, for some people names spelt out in flowers is not uncommon and it could be seen that the home wanted to do a good job for you/your father and thought you may have been disappointed with a smaller spray yes they could have checked but you did ask them to arrange everything.

The car for staff on the other hand isn't acceptable by anyone's standards and I would argue about this.

Think about what you would have paid for as in effect you paid for it with the money that will be left to you, you might have decided to go for cheaper flowers which would have been perfectly acceptable but then again you might have chosen the name, where you pleased when you saw them if yes then I am not sure if you should dispute this.
Would you have paid for a car to take the staff, definitely not, I think you have a strong case to dispute this.

I don't mean to be harsh I am sorry for your loss but the home did arrange everything as far as I am aware this isn't generally part for their job, I am assuming they didn't charge you for their services to do this so I would only dispute the car which was clearly not required for staff.

corbyboy

What was your arrangement with them exactly? From what I can see they have done you a huge favour by arranging this for you. It's a bit late now to say that is too much for flowers unless you gave them a limit in the first place.

The car sounds a bit unreasonable, but the same question stands as above. If no details were agreed or limits set then you can't really complain about the arrangements.

If you basically gave them free reign to arrange it as they felt was most suitable it's not fair or reasonable to go demanding money as compensation for things you disagree with in hindsight.

Ladywriter1968

Mojisola wrote: »

Someone who isn't local and doesn't have transport?

Considering you dont understand or know my personal situation or health wise either, this is not fair to judge me or give me guilt trips because I had problems with arrangements with this. I am not going into personal stuff on here about my own health situations or reasons why it was difficult for me. but thanks anyway. Marktheshark......

Ladywriter1968

jumpingjackd wrote: »

Why on earth would they have taken another car for themselves. that's just not right, those staff that were attending the funeral should have made their own way there. Flowers should also not have been paid for out of estate. I would be looking for recompense

Thank you so much for giving a direct answer. The care home told me they bought the flowers. I only found out they came out of the estate when I got a break down of the funeral bill.

I do wonder though if doing anything will do me much good or for me just to put it down to experience now and just move on. It was only about the principal of it really.

notanewuser

Ladywriter1968 wrote: »

Considering you dont understand or know my personal situation or health wise either, this is not fair to judge me or give me guilt trips because I had problems with arrangements with this. I am not going into personal stuff on here about my own health situations or reasons why it was difficult for me. but thanks anyway. Marktheshark......

She was supporting you, not judging you.

Ladywriter1968

tried to delete this message but cant, so changed it. to this.

Ladywriter1968

Mojisola wrote: »

Someone who isn't local and doesn't have transport?

Sorry the message was for Marktheshark actually but cant find their post on here. I am not explaining myself to him why I could not do it, thanks for the support though Mojisola,

Ladywriter1968

notanewuser wrote: »

She was supporting you, not judging you.

The message for was Marktheshark actually but put there by error.