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Tinyshoes

Oh booger just realised I forgot to go through any cashback sites. :doh:

vanilla_twist

Tinyshoes wrote: »

I totally get that and as I say have sort of come to terms with it, haven't even rowed about that.

But Mr TS has thrown spanner in the works as he still wants boxing day to be as always with his family and so does DD1. And I am being selfish, I thought I was compromising but seems not.

I just wanted to do the nanny thing just like my mum used to.

It is likely they want to spend their first xmss alone with teeny because they knew they couldn't please everyone as teeny has another set of grandparents and family too.

From when I first married I always had both sets of parents for Xmas day because mil use to work until 2Pm so was easier. This stuck even when mum and dad divorced dad would come to me so would in laws and even when DH and I divorced we managed a couple more all together.
The boxing day rule on my mum's side was every other year so could take into account other family. This went well until there became so many of us we now met at a park in July.

Living alone I have spent 3 Xmas alone. Either dd was on standby so she had to go to her in laws near airport or weather was too bad for me to drive up. Mum has step family who monopolise them and do not invite me or even give a second thought to me being alone. Mum would insist on delivering my stocking midday even if she had to leave them for a while.

Talking today my sister regrets going to France last Xmas but I told her not to because dad had a lovely Xmas day and we have great memories. Strangely I was planning to call in to see my sister and dad after dd house.

Traditions evolve and new ones are born. In future your DD1 might agree to one year your house one year oh. One thing a child doesn't want to do at Xmas is visit there are toys to be tested.

It is a very hard one and you will find a solution one year. I would love to be more of a grandma to dgs but everyone works shifts and usually impossible to pin them down when I am in Bedford. I am welcome at ex oh house to see if him and now welcome at his other nans who believe it or not I had never had a chance to talk to until today and dgs is 3:eek:

I will be at dds this year but kicked out at 4 PM when they go to her DH s parents. I don't go because it is their turn. Last year I then took dad to see my youngest son who lives with his dad. He eventually went to see gf and we stayed chatting to ex DH, his dw and my ex mil which was unplanned but lovely.

As grandchildren get bigger I am thinking of alternate years out the country because I would like to. Dds in laws are 78 and 79 so we don't know how many Xmases they will get so my plan might be short lived as one grandparent must attend, but then again there is my ex and his wife.


Do you see just how complicated things can get and I don't even have a man (and his family) to keep happy.

The young want to start new traditions so we either adapt or stick with ours. I agree it is a shame after the huge effort you all went to to be together though last year.

Maybe things feel harder because you have lost your mum and you are an only child.

I am sure the tiny dynasty will get on the same page by the time dd3 has a BF and dd2 is on call. See things will change again.

Sorry for long post but I feel I am exorcising some Christmases past.

I am not and never have been a Xmas person but I can fake it very well.

Glad tweets has a bag on the way.

Goodnight x

vanilla_twist

So I am the one who has to have a tea total Xmas every year:eek:

V x

David.

fairclaire wrote: »

Your not being selfish you have an expectation and its not being met. It's ok to be disappointed. It's normal to be disappointed! I expect it will happen to us all one day. Me and Mr FC joke about being sat here eating a pork pie for our Christmas dinner one day :rotfl:
Your DD and her partner and Teeny might just want a special day together. At that age you don't think ahead, it's all about love and babies . Traditions are lovely but they sometimes die out. It's sad when they do but that's how it is.

It's only a day, just like any other day really. Chances are there will be much more silly memories that will stick in your mind than what you did at Christmas and probably more special. All the moments that made you smile that you didn't plan for.....:)

I can say this because Im not a granny yet

So he bottled it at the weekend, probably will visit again without wrinkles to tell you

Nannylala

Good morning:(not a good look out of the window at this unearthy hour:eek: even had to put the heating on overide it's so cold

boo_2112

Cookies for today

1. Moonpig
2. Crew Clothing
3. Mobiles.co.uk
4. Ernest Jones in store

chandlerscroft

Good morning


I have been working away for a couple of days, So I hope I haven't missed too much only 62 pages to catch up on so I best get on with it.


See you later a lot later infact

chandlerscroft

Nannylala wrote: »

Good morning:(not a good look out of the window at this unearthy hour:eek: even had to put the heating on overide it's so cold

Yes isn't it, I just let the dog out in the garden and shut the door it's definitely getting colder.

chandlerscroft

vanilla_twist wrote: »

I am not sure about dart tag as going on vehicle recognition but there were still 3 dart tag lanes so I presume so until tag expires.

I agree shocking the jobs lost
Also shocking that there has been no preparation for notifying drivers. I am a fortnightly user and was never given a leaflet of any kind.
Both my sister and dd said they wouldn't know to pay and fine due from midnight. Not sure if still free between 10pm and 6am either. No notices. Mum says south bound have had the barriers removed already.

Think it will just turn into wacky races again where you go from gantry to tunnel as no volume control.


V x

Ooh I'm planning a trip down that way to top up on seafood before Christmas Thanx I'll get googling to see what the changes are, not been very well published at all.


Thanks for the heads up

Sakura10

Good morning everyone

Super busy getting ready for works kids Xmas party, 60ish kids to get pressies for & list them and wrap them. Went through Quidco for some which counted towards the bonus

I am feeling super Christmassy :xmastree:

Hope all is well in the world of the Elite