Donation to their charity no presents birthday told minimmum

Mojisola

victory wrote: »

Going to a birthday party, asked to donate to their charity, told £ minimum expected donation, no presents, fair enough, just two questions it is not my usual charity/charities which I donate to so as it is expected should I(I guess so) and why say minimum surely a donation is a choice not an order?

A box at the entrance will be provided....

Spendless wrote: »

How is the invite worded? Places that do charity boxes for say a charity pin often say 'suggested minimum donation is.......£.'

It doesn't really matter how it's worded. This is a birthday party and a charity donation instead of a present!

Would the person concerned say - here's an invite to my birthday party but make sure you spend at least £Xs on my present?

Spendless

Mojisola wrote: »

It doesn't really matter how it's worded. This is a birthday party and a charity donation instead of a present!

Would the person concerned say - here's an invite to my birthday party but make sure you spend at least £Xs on my present?

Well actually it does, as I read several posts all saying along the lines of 'no they shouldn't be saying that' and currently I have no idea if the invite says 'no presents, a charity box will be provided the suggested minimum donation is' OR it says 'No presents, a charity box will be provided. A donation of £ is required'

One tells you it's a suggestion that you don't have to follow because it's only a suggestion which is why I put it in italics in my first post the other doesn't!

pickledonionspaceraider

I do not understand this 'their charity' and 'my charity' train of thought. The birthday girl or boy has generously decided to forego any birthday treats and have any monies paid to the charity of their choice

There shouldn't be a set donation though, £20 could be a lot for some people. I would just give what I could

indsty

I would certainly donate to their chosen charity but would put my donation in cash in an envelope and pop it discreetly into the box. That way they do not know who has given what. Nobody has any right to tell (or suggest) how much that amount is. I suspect many of the guests will feel as you do.

DFlights

Actually, as others have said, some charities have ethics or practices I disagree with and I wouldn't be happy to donate to them. I also wouldn't want to feel forced into donation out of a sense of duty, and would probably approach the friend to ask if there were any other worthy causes they could suggest. The few times I've seen this occurance, there has always been more than one suggested charity so the donations could be left with the one the giver preferred.

Mojisola

Mojisola wrote: »

It doesn't really matter how it's worded. This is a birthday party and a charity donation instead of a present!

Would the person concerned say - here's an invite to my birthday party but make sure you spend at least £Xs on my present?

Spendless wrote: »

Well actually it does, as I read several posts all saying along the lines of 'no they shouldn't be saying that' and currently I have no idea if the invite says 'no presents, a charity box will be provided the suggested minimum donation is' OR it says 'No presents, a charity box will be provided. A donation of £ is required'

One tells you it's a suggestion that you don't have to follow because it's only a suggestion which is why I put it in italics in my first post the other doesn't!

It wouldn't make any difference to me. Even if it's given as a "suggestion", it's out of order. Some people are really struggling financially and setting an amount that may be beyond their means is not acceptable. If they can't afford the suggested donation, most would feel bad about it.

We had collections for a specific charity after my parents' funerals - there was no "minimum" donation suggested and no way of us knowing who had donated or how much they had given.

DaftyDuck

I do wonder if cash that goes in this box will ever make it as far as a charity.....

Charity is all about giving what you wish (may only be a pound for some) to a cause you wish to support. Sure, recommending a favoured charity (particularly at a funeral... "Harry always remembered his Barnardo's childhood fondly, so donations...") is one thing. Stipulating one AND a fixed minimum seems... dubious, especially given that the charity almost certainly loses out on the gift-aid portion.

aileth

Agree with what a lot of other people have said... Seems very odd for it to be 'mandatory.'

The minimum donation thing would also get my back up a bit. The point of charity is donating as generously as you can afford, not being obligated to spend a minimum of £X.

I'd stick a couple of quid in the box and then donate to my normal charity.

his_missus

Personally, if I had no objection to the charity in question, I would donate the equivalent of what I would have spent on a gift and card for the recipient and would put the money in an envelope to place in the donation box.

Buzzybee90

DaftyDuck wrote: »

I do wonder if cash that goes in this box will ever make it as far as a charity.....

Charity is all about giving what you wish (may only be a pound for some) to a cause you wish to support. Sure, recommending a favoured charity (particularly at a funeral... "Harry always remembered his Barnardo's childhood fondly, so donations...") is one thing. Stipulating one AND a fixed minimum seems... dubious, especially given that the charity almost certainly loses out on the gift-aid portion.

Not sure why saying which charity to donate to it viewed as odd... it's their present and the donation is really on their behalf. I'm assuming you give people gifts you think they'll like, not ones you like?