Life is hard sometimes.........

Seaxwyn

He's at quite a selfish age anyway, quite apart from his other problems. I should think he will get in touch some time - but horrible for you not knowing where or how he is. Being a parent means a lifetime of worry.

tigzem

Hope you hear from him soon - hugs to you xxxx

sewbocushions

My daughter is 19, she's done some awful things to us in the past, including having a party (while we were away for my brother's funeral!) where the whole house was completely trashed and we had to stay in a hotel it was so bad. She lives with her dad now and seems to have calmed down and we get on well. But they can be so selfish and hurtful and you wonder what you've done wrong. But then her sister who's 18 is fine and is off to uni this year, so is it me? Who knows? One day your son will realise all the hurt and worry he's put you through and be sorry.!!! xx

hypno06

Cigarettegate - one of the most blown out of proportion threads if I remember rightly!!

Concentrate on those things that you CAN control, - some things in life we have no control over but we just have to accept them the best we can. Difficult, I know but it will all come together - these things just take time.

DS will get in touch, when it is right for him - all you can do is to make sure that no matter how frustrating/bloody difficult/insert parenting phrase of choice he is being and has been, that he knows you always loved him. That old thing "I love you but I just don't always like you" comes to mind!

Sending you positive vibes and big hugs. Make a list of those things that you can do realistically, and concentrate your efforts on them at the moment. Perhaps a call to the Salvation Army might help too - they seem to be very good at getting messages to and from "missing" people xx

joeblack066

I remember cigarettegate too, what a stress for you. I know how you feel as my brother was missing from my family as well, and I traced him through the internet. I still don't see him, but I can check that he is alive and well via any postings that he does. Apart from my own kids, he is the only family that I have. Have you tried the young and trendy sites, if you have any ideas what username he might have? Hope you're ok. ***HUGS***

taxi73

So sorry to hear of your woes....kids can be cruel sometimes...the past is the past and he will get in touch no doubt when he's ready...hard as that is...he's probably fine as you've reported him to missing persons...if he wasn't you would've heard by now....I know it's hard for you but you'll just have to let him sort his head out...and when he's ready he'll be in touch

sammy115

Cigarettegate - it was funny really, some people get worked up about the most strange things... and to be honest, most of the posters where concerned for my well being... Obviously they didn't want to see me behind bars for smuggling LOL..

The good news is that I have a new telephone number for him...He logged on to MSN last night and he spoke to his little sister.. He is okay, and I have txted him and i am waiting for him to get in touch... I will let you know how I get on, but thanks for all your kind thoughts...

Snaggles

Sammy, I'm so sorry to hear about your son - I hope he does contact you, and I'm glad you now know he's safe and well at least - sending you a huge (((hug))).

lemma1968

I'm glad he is safe. Must be a lot off your mind.

*Hugs* to you.

sammy115

Mixed blessings really. I am really glad to know he is okay, and lets face it, I could be in a worse position....Plenty of people are... but my other DD doesn't want to know him (too much has gone on there) and it doesn't change what has gone on between us..Would love for him to grow up and show some maturity, but hey - show me an 18 year old who is sensible..