The question

heartbreak_star

LilElvis wrote: »

You are missing the point. The OP said that he has decided what his budget is, but you think it is OK to project your own financial circumstances into his decision-making. I could have posted a link to the jeweller who made my ring, but it would not have served any useful purpose as his items, though excellent value, are in a higher price range. Just as your post serves no useful purpose.

I thought the point of these threads was not just to post your personal opinion, but to actually address the question posed. Your post didn't do this, and hence my response.

Fair enough, you interpret it how you read it. I am quite hurt that you seem to have attacked me for simply offering another point of view and using myself purely as an example.

As I stated, it was something that hadn't been mentioned yet, i.e. how his fiancee-to-be might feel about the cost. It's maybe something to be considered, you know, like a lot of other things like stones and metals and designs.

Good luck OP, I hope you find the perfect ring and that all goes smoothly with the proposal. Maybe you should have a look on the Weddings board too.

HBS x

LilElvis

To return to the actual thread.

OP - you need to get the ring size from a ring she wears on that specific finger as even the right hand 'ring finger' will differ from the left. A slightly loose ring of some designs will swivvle round the finger substantially more than others of a different design. Also, the ring will fit differently when combined with a wedding band. Do the best you can with the sizing, but ensure you know what the resizing costs will be before you purchase. Don't buy a full tension-set as these basically need remaking if resized.

InsideInsurance

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Ah! I was sneaky and managed to acquire one of Mrs G's other rings before I bought the engagement ring.

I did exactly the same, though there was also a bit of drunken messing around a few months earlier which was all just a ploy to see which of her other rings actually fitted that finger.

The lengths we have to go to hu

LilElvis

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Fair enough, you interpret it how you read it. I am quite hurt that you seem to have attacked me for simply offering another point of view and using myself purely as an example.

As I stated, it was something that hadn't been mentioned yet, i.e. how his fiancee-to-be might feel about the cost. It's maybe something to be considered, you know, like a lot of other things like stones and metals and designs.

Good luck OP, I hope you find the perfect ring and that all goes smoothly with the proposal. Maybe you should have a look on the Weddings board too.

HBS x

I'm sorry if you feel hurt, but I do think it is unneccessary to call into question someone else's judgment of their finances based on your own circumstances. You think that the OP's girlfriend might be upset that he is spending the amount he proposes as, in your opinion, it is excessive. I also pointed out that the girlfriend might have the opposite view - that he is spending too little.

A 'helpful' post would be one that assists the OP in purchasing a ring that his partner will like and at the best possible price.

Nothing against you, just the very judgmental way that your initial post came across.

Gloomendoom

LilElvis wrote: »

I'm sorry if you feel hurt, but I do think it is unneccessary to call into question someone else's judgment of their finances based on your own circumstances. You think that the OP's girlfriend might be upset that he is spending the amount he proposes as, in your opinion, it is excessive. I also pointed out that the girlfriend might have the opposite view - that he is spending too little.

A 'helpful' post would be one that assists the OP in purchasing a ring that his partner will like and at the best possible price.

Nothing against you, just the very judgmental way that your initial post came across.

I'll be judgemental.

In my opinion, the OP is mad to even consider spending 2.5 k on an engagement ring.

LilElvis

Gloomendoom wrote: »

I'll be judgemental.

In my opinion, the OP is mad to even consider spending 2.5 k on an engagement ring.

And I will repeat - what right do you have to pass judgement on how much anyone chooses to spend on something?

Just because this is a money saving site doesn't mean that it's members are all living from hand to mouth.

I would never advocate anyone going into debt or spending beyond their means, but what might appear excessive to one person might be pocket change to another.

I thought that the point of this site was to get the best value possible for a member, not just the cheapest, or we would shop exclusively in Lidl and Primark, drive obscure Asian made cars and all holiday for under a tenner with The Sun.

Georgiegirl256

LilElvis wrote: »

You think that the OP's girlfriend might be upset that he is spending the amount he proposes as, in your opinion, it is excessive. I also pointed out that the girlfriend might have the opposite view - that he is spending too little.
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Both views have their place, and no one should judge what another person spends, it's their business and no one else's.

IMO heartbreak_star wasn't being judgemental! but merely offering up another view point, and a very valid one at that. Because speaking from a personal POV, if my husband had of spent thousands on a ring, I wouldn't have been very happy. But that's just me and could be because I don't really wear rings much and I could think of much better things to spend the money on.

Also, if the girlfriend (or indeed any girlfriend) did think that their boyfriend was spending too little, then they are very shallow person indeed.

Congrats OP btw, glad you've got your answer now!

Gloomendoom

LilElvis wrote: »

And I will repeat - what right do you have to pass judgement on how much anyone chooses to spend on something?

I'll repeat, even after reading your post, in my opinion, the OP is mad to even consider paying 2.5 k on an engagement ring.

What right have you to find fault with my opinion?


Congrats to the OP, by-the-way, even if you are an spendthrift!

Buzzybee90

Gloomendoom wrote: »

I'll be judgemental.

In my opinion, the OP is mad to even consider spending 2.5 k on an engagement ring.

Really? It's say his budget is fairly normal.

Primrose

Personally if this is an engagement ring she will hopefully be wearing for the rest of her life I wouldn't take a risk of buying something she may not like or which may not suit. How on earth would she tell you that she disliked it without severely risking hurting your feelings and spoiling a magic moment. The alternative is she lives with it and hates it all her life. Much better of having the pleasure or choosing it together.