Everyone thinks i'm gay but i'm not

worried_jim

Brilliant thread, I nearly fell for it but you gave it away too early with your hairdresser post, did you drive there in your Mazda MX5 convertible (white)?

Lily-Rose_3

worried_jim wrote: »

Brilliant thread, I nearly fell for it but you gave it away too early with your hairdresser post, did you drive there in your Mazda MX5 convertible (white)?

Eh? What?

clarryd

j.e.j. wrote: »

Sounds like harrassment to me.. :whistle:

Your private life is your own, not your workmates. What's it to them if you're happily single/a bachelor?

Exactly what I thought. How dare they even comment on your personal life.

Gay,straight,transgender,bisexual,transvestite, A sexual what is it to them. Who care's, just because you don't tell everyone that listens your private life. Tell them you are not comfortable speaking about your life outside work and that includes your sexuality. If it persist speak to your boss who you have confided in and ask him to have a word just saying your not comfortable with the line of conversation always coming back to your sexuality.

Or better still stand up for yourself and tell them all to go do one and mind their own business.

Hope it gets better soon.

Edwardia

Firstly your private life IS your private life.

The female colleague shouldn't be trying to coerce you into a relationship with her to end speculation in the office !!! :eek: That's wrong on so many levels.

I would try talking to her as tactfully as poss but giving her the message unequivocally that you like her, but not in a sexual way, which doesn't make you gay/bi by default. If she won't accept that then I would ask your boss if you can talk to him/her abt the situation with colleagues en masse and her in particular. Maybe s/he can have a word without mentioning yr STPD.

Bottom line, you shouldn't be made uncomfortable and anxious by colleagues trying to force you to admit something you're not, to satisfy their prurient curiosity. Secondly, as before coercion towards a relationship is wrong.

If you Google asexual you may find a support group with other people in your position ie not being interested in sex and relationship for whatever reasons. If there is a group near you, maybe you would feel comfortable socialising, knowing that the others aren't interested in relationships either ?

Cautious_Optimist

Do you find the woman who asked you out attractive?
If not, then that doesn't make you gay.

Why don't you ask your workmates to help you with an online dating profile?

Forget about all this ''personality disorder'' business.
It's not getting you anywhere.

worried_jim

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Eh? What?

Its a wind up thread! The trip to the hair dressers is the clue!

theoretica

People don't tend to talk about being asexual all that much, but if you think it fits then you might want to consider using the term. Might shut them up!

worried_jim

Refrained_cypher wrote: »

I would've agreed with you after reading the window vvanker thread but looking up his disorder it appears people with his condition are very meticulous with their appearance. Most of what he's said is factual or someone has gone to a !!!! ton of trouble to learn about such a condition and adopt it as a persona to play it out. I would say this is true. There is a vast difference in quality between this and window vvanker.

Its a very good wind up thread!

Lily-Rose_3

I am wondering about the authenticity of this thread myself now too.

I mean, the username: 'Oim Oirish.' :rotfl:

JIL

It may be a wind up but I would imagine this sort of issue is common place and a regular issue.
It makes me angry that work colleagues feel its OK to stick their noses into other peoples business and give their opinions on someone else's life which is absolutely of no concern or business of theirs.
Stick to going to work and getting on with what they are paid to do.