When will it be my turn?

Maureen43

Rhetorical question really. Just venting!


I've been single for a few years now with a few short relationships and an ill-advised "friend with benefits" phase...


I'm on an online dating site and have been on dates but Mr Right is elusive!


I think I am normal (!). I'm not hung up on the past. I can hold an intelligent conversation. I look pretty good for my age I think.


Generally I am fine with my single status but there are days when the loneliness is intense beyond words.


I see a time in the future when my children have flown the nest and I will be all alone with nobody to care for or to care for me.

martinthebandit

In my experience the more you enjoy being single the more likely you are to not be single for long.

FatVonD

Hang on in there, you have to kiss a lot of frogs.

tea_lover

Cliche alert but have you tried joining other (non-dating) groups, expanding your social circle that way?

Think about your hobbies and interests and see if there's anything local you could join, or start. Meetup usually have a good variety of things to go to.

The more friends you make, the greater the chance of finding that someone you click with.... and of course you'll be so busy enjoying yourself you'll wonder how you ever had time for a relationship

Also... not for everyone this, but have you considered asking your friends if they know anyone they could set you up with? They may know of a single guy that could be perfect for you, but don't like to intrude if you don't say you're looking.

Calien

I was asking myself the very same thing just a few months ago, everybody I know seems to be coupling up and I'm the single one, the fifth wheel when it comes to my dad and his girlfriend and my brother and his girlfriend

Tried the dating sites, not really my thing tbh, I don't know what has changed but I'm ok with not being with someone now. I had a brief period of thinking it will never happen for me but I've realised it will, it's just not the right time now. Your time will come and so will mine, whenever it's right.

princeofpounds

If you have been on a lot of dates, why are these people falling short, do you think?

SuzieSue

tea_lover wrote: »

Cliche alert but have you tried joining other (non-dating) groups, expanding your social circle that way?

Think about your hobbies and interests and see if there's anything local you could join, or start. Meetup usually have a good variety of things to go to.

This. Try to expand your social circle as much as you can. Get to know as many men and women (they might have single male friends or relatives) as you can.

The type of men you would like to meet are probably not on dating sites anyway so meeting as many people as possible is the best way to go.

FBaby

Was in your situation for over 4 years until Mr perfect showed up on the dating site and contacted me. Been together 6 years now married 1.

He was worth all that wait and more.

trailingspouse

You don't get a turn.

You have to push yourself to the front of the queue.

What sort of partner do you want? Where do people like that tend to hang out? Go there.

sulphate

princeofpounds wrote: »

If you have been on a lot of dates, why are these people falling short, do you think?

I second this - maybe you're being too fussy?

What kind of things are you looking for in "Mr Right"?

FBaby

I second this - maybe you're being too fussy?

I went through this question after years of trying to find Mr right and many dates. I started to tell myself that maybe I needed to lower my standards. I am so glad I didn't because ultimately, by doing so, it wouldn't have worked out long term. I just needed to be patient to meet the person who was right for me.

It might have never happen, it was a risk to take, but I think ultimately, I would still have preferred to be on my own then settling for less just to be with someone.