Sandwiches

Cotta

GlynD wrote: »

Ah but that's different to a funeral tea. When my father-in-law died I arranged a tea in a hostelry near his home so his friends, relatives and former comrades could come and chat. I think it helped my wife and her sister cope because they were distracted from their grief for those couple of hours. I'm sure I advertised the fact in the death notice in the Edinburgh Evening News too.

In the west tea in the church hall always follows the funeral burial, what happens where you are?

GlynD

Cotta wrote: »

In the west tea in the church hall always follows the funeral burial, what happens where you are?

I've seen different methodologies. Church halls, private residences, Orange Halls, hotels, even pubs.

shaz77_2

GlynD wrote: »

I've seen different methodologies. Church halls, private residences, Orange Halls, hotels, even pubs.

Orange halls, really?

lazer

GlynD wrote: »

I've seen different methodologies. Church halls, private residences, Orange Halls, hotels, even pubs.

In my area we always had tea in the deceased houses, or wherever the wake was being held after the funeral.


However as society gets richer, funeral teas are getting like weddings - they are catered functions in the best hotels. Only the best will do now!

shaz77_2

lazer wrote: »

In my area we always had tea in the deceased houses, or wherever the wake was being held after the funeral.


However as society gets richer, funeral teas are getting like weddings - they are catered functions in the best hotels. Only the best will do now!

Not for me.

GlynD

lazer wrote: »

In my area we always had tea in the deceased houses, or wherever the wake was being held after the funeral.


However as society gets richer, funeral teas are getting like weddings - they are catered functions in the best hotels. Only the best will do now!

So it seems in many cases but I disagree that it's a modern phenomena to hold funeral teas in hotels. I'd say that's been going on for a long time. In days gone by you see an hotel would have provided the room free to get the business. In many rural areas the local hotel or pub would be one of the few large venues able to take a crowd as well so they played a central part in the community for many things.

I always considered "the wake" as something you did before the funeral btw - not after. It was when you kept the deceased company as he or she was laid out.

shaz77_2

GlynD wrote: »

I always considered "the wake" as something you did before the funeral btw - not after. It was when you kept the deceased company as he or she was laid out.

It certainly is in Protestant circiles, but of course your religion is unknown.

lazer

GlynD wrote: »

So it seems in many cases but I disagree that it's a modern phenomena to hold funeral teas in hotels. I'd say that's been going on for a long time. In days gone by you see an hotel would have provided the room free to get the business. In many rural areas the local hotel or pub would be one of the few large venues able to take a crowd as well so they played a central part in the community for many things.

I always considered "the wake" as something you did before the funeral btw - not after. It was when you kept the deceased company as he or she was laid out.

I meant whatever house the wake had been held in would be the same place as the funeral tea would be held. (As it might not necessarily be the deceased house)

Ticked

shaz77 wrote: »

Orange halls, really?

Why not? We were recently at a birthday party in an Orange hall and about half the guests were Catholic. Blood donation sessions in Lisburn are held in the the hall at St. Patrick's Catholic Church, again, why not? It's only a problem for narrow minded bigots.

GlynD

lazer wrote: »

I meant whatever house the wake had been held in would be the same place as the funeral tea would be held. (As it might not necessarily be the deceased house)

I see what you mean. Thanks for clarifying.

Ticked wrote: »

Why not? We were recently at a birthday party in an Orange hall and about half the guests were Catholic. Blood donation sessions in Lisburn are held in the the hall at St. Patrick's Catholic Church, again, why not? It's only a problem for narrow minded bigots.

Absolutely. I fully agree. Far too much is made of religion in NI. We need to get well past it and fully integrate otherwise we're never going to get over the troubled years.

What sort of sandwiches did you get in that Orange Hall? I've been in one or two where they serve the most amazing corned beef, onion and HP sauce filling in the pieces.

I remember going to a wedding in Hampshire in a Polish Hall, one of the happy couple was descended from Polish stock - this was well before Poland came into the EU btw and the only Poles in the UK were the ones who'd fought in the war, and their children of course. They served a dish called Begos which was basically cabbage, bacon and potato, cooked in some sort of light oil and served in a big pot - yummy, nom nom nom.