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Nightmare Neighbour - What to do :(

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  • Davesnave
    Davesnave Posts: 34,741 Forumite
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    moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

    I just wouldn't agree that OP would be the one who needs to change her behaviour and its down to how to get his behaviour changed one way or another.

    Short term, OP needs to change her behaviour in order to cope.

    Longer term she needs to consider the situation with the Granny and see if it has any hope of being changed. There may/may not be abuse. We don't know.

    If the situation looks unlikely to be resolved, I agree with Mojisola that the solution is to move. The OP hasn't the same sort of investment in the property as an owner would have, which is an advantage.
  • Cautious_Optimist
    Cautious_Optimist Posts: 345 Forumite
    The flat is poorly sound proofed, if you can hear someone whistling.

    You could have a much noisier neighbour than this guy.

    You should move ASAP.
  • Old_Git
    Old_Git Posts: 4,751 Forumite
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    have you any rooms next to there bedroom ,could you give them a taste of their own medicine
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  • Cautious_Optimist
    Cautious_Optimist Posts: 345 Forumite
    Old_Git wrote: »
    have you any rooms next to there bedroom ,could you give them a taste of their own medicine

    I wouldn't get involved in any such behaviour.
    Just accept that you have different lifestyles.
    The lad is obviously spoiled by his family and you are not going to change that.
    Move somewhere quieter and get on with your life...
  • I_have_spoken
    I_have_spoken Posts: 5,051 Forumite
    edited 12 October 2014 at 1:17PM
    Obviously he rolls in drunk on Buckfast and/or high from sniffing glue.

    I expect it's paid for by his dole topped-up with Gran's pension money, but there's little chance she'll report a theft to the bizzies or 'snitch' on family although she's obviously ashamed to have a waste-of-space as a grandson, trying to laugh off his behaviour.
    the previous tenant had the same problem but as he was a tall, strapping policeman

    Does he still work in the town? Could be worth speaking to him to see if the bizzies can 'have words'.

    That said, unless you get lucky and he's arrested and gets a custodial, your best bet is to move.

    Do you know anyone at work or friends who might be able to put you up in a spare room for a couple of weeks to get some peace?
  • gfplux
    gfplux Posts: 4,985 Forumite
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    You have to be objective about this.
    Choice one. Campaign long and hard to solve the noise problem that appears to have been going on for a long time.
    Choice two. Move out (easily as your landlord is making it very easy for you) and find another beautiful flat.
    Only you can chose.
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  • xylophone
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    It might be better to move out - your landlady is making it easy for you.

    If you find somewhere suitable, you'd be able to move straight away.

    Do some research on the neighbours first?
  • SplanK
    SplanK Posts: 1,155 Forumite
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    Is it me, or is this thread a bit screwed on the first page?
  • lindens
    lindens Posts: 2,870 Forumite
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    lots of the text is heiroglyphics!
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  • Davesnave
    Davesnave Posts: 34,741 Forumite
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    SplanK wrote: »
    Is it me, or is this thread a bit screwed on the first page?
    lindens wrote: »
    lots of the text is heiroglyphics!


    !!!!N&*o, y£%ou a!!"re j-u11st i!!*ma)gi£n*ing i!t :)
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