Being accused of intimidation & bullying

Officelady

I see what you mean totally but I was just shocked she could have just said calmly I don't want you to do that I told you what to do so do that she didn't need to scream it at us we are not confrontational people we did as told & continued without a hitch &a fair point if she thinks she was being undermined but I wouldn't say that's the same as bullying

gettingready

MissD wrote: »

I, a few years ago made an allegation of bullying against 2 members of staff (both true). This was due to seeing an email berating me (I had to have access to a colleague's email and had been given her passwords and her *yahoo mail* was open at this email, strange but true, she'd gone off early because her first grandchild was being born).

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and instead of closing down her yahoo email you went snooping???

jesusssssssssssss :eek:

Catcherupper14

Continuation of previous post:


I don't think that the circumstances that you relate justify your manager shouting at you in public.


I am sure that there are two sides to this.


I also believe that it could have been resolved by sitting down together, with someone from HR helping to mediate if necessary.

Another_not_new_user

Officelady wrote: »

But my concern is I know the facts that I did nothing & it's making me Ill knowing that people can make false accusations use the word bullying & you can make someone lose there job that in itself is bullying she is using the system to hurt me I am going to put in a counter grievance but just feel threatened by the whole situation that once this is done she can do it again over her 'perception'

I would think very carefully before putting in a counter grievance. The horse has bolted - by retaliating with a grievance that you didn't have before this investigation (and you didn't have one because you didn't submit one) you are actually undermining your own position and will almost certainly be seen to be retaliating in a tit for tat style. The bottom line is that employers almost never believe a grievance submitted after you are already in trouble, but it could very reasonably be used as evidence of further bullying on your part. Concentrate on answering any investigation truthfully, and/or showing a disciplinary that the evidence against you is wrong. If this is only an investigation it may not even go any further.

Officelady

That's how I feel that's all I want what ever has happened for her to hate me I feel is where the under lying issue is because she was lovely before I don't know whether I have offended her in the past or someone has gossiped about me I have no idea but this just goes to show her up professionalism not mine

duchy

The whole thing sounds very odd if this incident was several months ago and she's not supervised you since. Are you sure this meeting is about this incident and not something entirely unrelated ?

Officelady

Ok thank you I won't then

jumbojuice

make a note of all the stuff that your supervisor has done, and keep it in a log and see if its required -

You might want to raise it though before hand as it may look not so great if you brought up the list at a point in time..

MissD

Catcherupper14 wrote: »

I'm not sure if I've read this correctly, but it seems to have started when you were given a task to do and a colleague to work with and you decided to swap around.


If this is correct then your behaviour could be seen as undermining the manager's authority.


Has this been going on for some time? It may have felt like the last straw to the manager, particularly if you started to argue about it.


If I gave one of my members of staff something to do then I would expect it to be done by that person. No arguments, no changes.

I have to say I agree with the undermining the manager's authority on this one.

Also you do need to make double sure that you are not doing anything eg *nasty* i.e. no nasty comments, no berating your supervisor etc. I had this all the time (behind my back and to my face) yet they'd deny it and be witness for the other.

I found out they'd done this (bullying and berating) to a previous legal sec in another company (owned by my boss). She had left when that firm was taken over.

What one person takes to be bullying and nasty the other may not.

Also one salient point I remember, you are there to work, not to be nasty to someone else nor to undermine them. I remember when this temp berated me - in the office - I didn't want to go in, when she was there as it was almost always her criticising me! And she'd speak to my colleague and then she would start on me, pick fights. You should not be nasty/b*tching about your colleagues by email etc (like mine were) when you're meant to be working. Also this held me back from further advancement.

Officelady

Yes the letter had that date on in July & I have not worked with her since