financial settlement

sandman4355

My solicitor has given some reassurance today,
1. stopping spouse maintenance will only make her go to court and I'll have to pay for the privilege of being told by the court to start paying it again.
2, payment can only be spousal maintenance or lump sum, she can't have both.
3. the lump some she's demanded is totally debatable as is the reason why she's demanding it.

The most worrying question which he was unable to answer is this, Does 8 months of marriage really give her the right to have a pull out of a non matrimonial asset?

If it is yes then i think i may have lost all faith in people and society!

Gigervamp

sandman4355 wrote: »

2, payment can only be spousal maintenance or lump sum, she can't have both.

I'm not sure that's true. JackRS is currently going back and forth through the solicitors and his ex (and her solicitor) are asking for both.

TBagpuss

both are possible, but Sandman's ;lawyer may well have sufficient information to allow him to be confident that a court is unlikely to order both.

FBaby

The more you give her, the more she will expect and the more threats she will be. Are you going to spend the next 12 years running after her every need because of your fear of missing out on your child?

How will you feel paying her spousal maintenance when she shags up with someone and won't tell you and they'll spend on the money having fun whilst your daughter is left with you once again?

Stop being so gullible and take control of your life. She is using you, and doing so because she knows she can get away with it.

First step is to go to court to ask for shared care. When you get it, stop the spousal maintenance and definitely stop the childcare. You can then decide to let claim CB and agree on a reasonable amount of maintenance if that will keep her soft and more likely to give more to your daughter.

Do you really prefer the idea of paying her for an undefined time to do who knows what with money that could go directly to your daughter instead just to avoid some court fees? Surely it is better to take the risk?