wife extremely broody - 6 months after baby?

1DayAAT

Just wondering if this is something that normally happens.....

We had our first baby together almost 6 months ago and he is total delight in every way. :A He is my firstborn, but my wife has 2 older children from a previous marriage - ages 16 and 13.

The thing is...wifey is now DESPERATE for another baby.. it has been the only thing on her mind for at least a month now and she wants us to.. ahem.. try

I have nothing against the idea of having another baby but I was kinda expecting this to happen in a few more years.. which I have expressed and she sees my point.. but she really REALLY wants to have one ASAP. She is a bit concerned about her age (41) but fell pregnant very easily last time and actually was not planned but very welcome.

Financially we are doing fine - stable job for me with reasonable pay, no debt and buying own house. My wife is self employed and does very well.

I'm just wondering from your experiences... does this occur commonly in women to want another baby when already having one so young? I have a feeling I won't win this :rotfl:

Nicki

Conceiving easily at 39 doesn't mean she will be able to conceive easily or at all at 43! If you want another child she is right to think she needs to start trying sooner rather than later.

millysg1

Have 2 at under 18 months and (im sorry for raising this) in 40s sounds exhausting but each for there own. One thing to keep in mind
In 2009:
• Women aged 40 or over: 7 percent of all births were a twin delivery
• Women 35-49: 5 percent of births were a twin delivery
• Women under age 25: 2 percent of births were a twin delivery.

victory

1DayAAT wrote: »

Just wondering if this is something that normally happens.....

We had our first baby together almost 6 months ago and he is total delight in every way. :A He is my firstborn, but my wife has 2 older children from a previous marriage - ages 16 and 13.

The thing is...wifey is now DESPERATE for another baby.. it has been the only thing on her mind for at least a month now and she wants us to.. ahem.. try

I have nothing against the idea of having another baby but I was kinda expecting this to happen in a few more years.. which I have expressed and she sees my point.. but she really REALLY wants to have one ASAP. She is a bit concerned about her age (41) but fell pregnant very easily last time and actually was not planned but very welcome.

Financially we are doing fine - stable job for me with reasonable pay, no debt and buying own house. My wife is self employed and does very well.

I'm just wondering from your experiences... does this occur commonly in women to want another baby when already having one so young? I have a feeling I won't win this :rotfl:

Yes, it is the glow, the hormones, the warm feeling of fulfilment, the 'oh isn't this so lovely' and also age yes at 41, it is common, how wonderful it would be to have a brother/sister:D

meritaten

okay - if you really don't mind another baby - then why not now? your wife has had three children now, and probably thinks of the two oldest as 'grown' and would like a sibling for this baby close in age. I can see her POV. but, I can see yours too - your baby, your firstborn wouldn't even be two if your wife became pregnant straightaway. hardly time to appreciate having your first child together. could you suggest to her you wait 3 or 6 months before trying again? that way she wont be coping with TWO BABIES at different stages? and its not a HUGE difference in ages for them.

BitterAndTwisted

At 41 her chances of conceiving are getting more and more remote as every month goes by.

Statistically, after the age of 39 a woman's chances of conceiving are halved for every year that passes.

It could already be too late now.

FBaby

How good is she with her teenagers? Some women love to be mothers to babies, but then are not as interested when they get older.

Personally, I admire her if she can be a loving and caring wife, and a disciplinarian, attentive, fun mum to both two teenagers and two little ones whilst running a successful business. Some women are like that, but some are focussed on having more children not appreciating that they are not doing such a good job with the ones they already have.

Delree

If you want another one then she's probably right to want get going now. At 41 it's pushing limits of biology so get your skates on chap.

dizziblonde

Took us 6 years to get our first to come along (I had fertility problems and then miscarriage problems as well as the double whammy) so we decided we would just wait and see what life handed us in terms of baby number 2.

There's 11 months between 'em (insert any comment about waiting ages for buses in here) - should have been 1 year 2 weeks but my pregnancies don't go to full term and I wouldn't really have it any other way as they're so incredibly close and funny together.

I wasn't broody as such (I don't do the new baby mushyness at all really - prefer 'em as toddlers), but we wanted siblings if life was going to be compliant in that wish so figured we'd just see what we ended up with. That thing about being massively more fertile after you've just had a baby seemed to hold true.

The one cautionary note I'd sound is that I had SPD with both pregnancies - because of having two so close together (and various circumstances surrounding how I was handled during the eldest's birth) - I've never fully recovered from it. Physio has made some difference but I still have flareups of pain from it and my pelvis crunches when I move.

I would actually rather do two babies under 1 again than be heavily pregnant with a mobile and inquisitive toddler - means they're at a more similar point in terms of toys and the like so you don't have problems like a young child into lego and a crawling baby putting everything in their mouth (we have a LOT of things like Happyland that are chompable). That's despite having an awful time with our second in terms of colic, reflux, dairy allergies and generally being a much more complicated little personality than our eldest! Both of mine are cracking sleepers though so that may affect my view on things.

System

Heck all I wanted in my 20s was babies! In my 30s I went off the idea slightly.

BigAunty

B&T has nailed it - her fertility isn't just tapering down slightly like in the past, after 40 it plummets off a cliff face.

Fertility age 39 and fertility age 44 have vastly different success rates. If it can't happen for a few years because of your preference, it might not happen at all. Look into the stats for this age group. Sure, women in the their mid 40s can and do fall pregnant but very few.