wife extremely broody - 6 months after baby?

DigForVictory

If you can afford it & don't mind/tend towards the "yes why not", she's not just hormonal but also statistically sharp as a tack.

Seize the day, & the wife!
Your delightful 6 mo old is unlikely to comment, whereas if you delay, not only do the odds of sibling fall but the risk of comment increases.

sulphate

Agreed with most of the other posters regarding fertility. I am an only child for this reason (my mum was 42).

You have the choice of: having another baby ASAP and having two tiny children under 2, potentially very difficult. The alternative is waiting a bit longer, but then you risk not being able to have another.

missprice

Judi wrote: »

Heck all I wanted in my 20s was babies! In my 30s I went off the idea slightly.

Heck all I want now is more babies. My youngest is 21 now, but I have been broody for at least 10 years. Far too late for me now sadly at 44

For OP go for it, if your willing and able then just crack on.

Syrah

If having more babies is something you're happy to do in the future, then why put it off? Yes life is going to be hectic with 2 under 2 for a few years (I've been there, I know!) but your wife is all too aware of her biological clock screaming loudly at her. I imagine wants your LO (who is gorgeous by the way) to grow up with a sibling close in age, and while you're financially secure there's no reason (IMO) why not.
Good luck xx

Air_Cooled_75

I thought that the 'rapid decline' in fertility after 40 was a bit of a myth? I read this was based on studies from over a hundred years ago. It obviously does decline though.

300 years apparently!

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24128176

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24128176

Food for thought.

pleasedelete

millysg1 wrote: »

Have 2 at under 18 months and (im sorry for raising this) in 40s sounds exhausting but each for there own. One thing to keep in mind
In 2009:
• Women aged 40 or over: 7 percent of all births were a twin delivery
• Women 35-49: 5 percent of births were a twin delivery
• Women under age 25: 2 percent of births were a twin delivery.

That is very misleading. You would need to know the relative percentage of women over 40 who had IVF or fertility assistance which will increase the risk of twins.

pleasedelete

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

At 41 her chances of conceiving are getting more and more remote as every month goes by.

Statistically, after the age of 39 a woman's chances of conceiving are halved for every year that passes.

It could already be too late now.

Again misleading. The figures are very different for a woman who has recently or indeed ever had a child. If you include women becoming pregnant for the 1st time conception rates are significantly reduced.

1DayAAT

Thank you all so much for the helpful replies here, it has been insightful! I hadn't realised there was so much pressure after 40 and this is probably a high concern in my wife's mind. As we had no issue conceiving our baby I guess that was just something I was taking for granted but it makes me feel like time is of the essence as I don't want to lose the chance to complete our family together with her. I think maybe we can let nature take its course and see when #2 wants to come along.:D

FBaby wrote: »

How good is she with her teenagers? Some women love to be mothers to babies, but then are not as interested when they get older.

^In answer to this- she is a wonderful mother to the teens and the baby alike- she had the first two relatively young and is on very good terms with their father (her ex) so everything is very amicable along with them/me and her ex/me. Obviously the teens produce different challenges and it's all new to us both in that regard but with the baby she has experienced it all before so is pretty much a dab hand with him and teaches me stuff all the time.

millysg1

pleasedelete wrote: »

That is very misleading. You would need to know the relative percentage of women over 40 who had IVF or fertility assistance which will increase the risk of twins.

Sorry, did nt realise i would need to provide caveat to my post, maybe i should have just provided a link to the article but those statistics were for natural conception and didnt include IVF or fertility assistance! Otherwise, i would have made that clear!

hazyjo

Also... miscarriage is hugely common the older you get. Obviously if that happens a few months down the line, then you choose to wait a few months before trying again, it could end up being years away... which she won't have. Also a much higher risk of things like Downs the longer you wait...


My friend's 44 and fell pregnant very quickly when 43 (met partner quite late), then miscarried. Same happened second time. Still trying and not happening...


If you want another, I vote get going on it Might as well have them both young together.


Good luck.


Jx