Birth Friends

notanewuser

It was me that used the term. Our NCT group had 6 couples. Once the babies arrived we met a few times a week, did classes etc. 2 then returned to work, and sort of stopped coming on their days off etc. We see them maybe once a year now.

The rest of us, plus one other that's joined the group since see each other as often as humanly possible. DD and one other of the girls meet up at least once a week after school (they don't go to the same school). DD told me that she doesn't need a brother or sister because she has such good friends. :heartpuls

Our happy band fragmented a bit this year when 2 of the families moved away. Despite that, we've met for each birthday (they're now 4/almost 4) and are planning our second trip to Disneyland Paris for early next year. We intend to try and do a week a year somewhere all together for as long as we possibly can. The kids send each other drawings and Skype etc.

DD has certainly spent a lot more time with these children than any other - her cousins are pretty distant.

moomoomama27

I met alot of people at antenatal class, but now am only intouch with one through facebook.

When my eldest was about 3 months old I started to attend a mother and baby group, I met alot of lovely people and a group of 8 of us used to regularly do things together, our children were close, however by the time tey all started primary schhol, all went somewhere different, the meets started getting, less and less, now I don;t see any of them anymore.

I have friends I was freinds with at primary school, who I see a little bit, although my closest friends I have met much later on in life.

Tigsteroonie

I never made it to ante-natal classes (heck, I only just made it to 3rd trimester!). I am still FB 'friends' with a lady whose daughter was on NICU at the same time as littl'un, though we have drifted apart as the differences in our children's development became apparent. I am also online 'friends' with a group of Mums to special needs children born about the same time that I met via BnB.

I did find it terribly difficult to form friendships with Mums of non-disabled children, it's my fault for making comparisons. Now that littl'un is at a specialist school, it's a lttle easier as all the children have different issues, so comparisons simply cannot be made.

bloolagoon

notanewuser wrote: »

It was me that used the term. Our NCT group had 6 couples. Once the babies arrived we met a few times a week, did classes etc. 2 then returned to work, and sort of stopped coming on their days off etc. We see them maybe once a year now.

The rest of us, plus one other that's joined the group since see each other as often as humanly possible. DD and one other of the girls meet up at least once a week after school (they don't go to the same school). DD told me that she doesn't need a brother or sister because she has such good friends. :heartpuls

Our happy band fragmented a bit this year when 2 of the families moved away. Despite that, we've met for each birthday (they're now 4/almost 4) and are planning our second trip to Disneyland Paris for early next year. We intend to try and do a week a year somewhere all together for as long as we possibly can. The kids send each other drawings and Skype etc.

DD has certainly spent a lot more time with these children than any other - her cousins are pretty distant.

You do accept that in part that's your friendship needs not just hers?

onlyroz

I personally am only in touch with one person I went to primary school with, and that's only through Facebook. I'm in touch with more secondary friends through Facebook but none of them I'd call close friendships.

As for my own kids, my daughter's "best" friend is a girl she went to nursery with - they're now at different primary schools but we still live in the same village and so meet up every few months, and they might end up going to the same secondary school if neither of us move away. I did make friends with one of the other mums at the school gate, whose daughter was in my daughter's class, but they've now moved to Bristol which is a bit of a bummer. My son is a bit antisocial and never seems to want to invite other kids round, and so I've only made passing acquaintance with the parents of his friends.

And no, I had no inclination to make friends with people at the antenatal classes.

notanewuser

bloolagoon wrote: »

You do accept that in part that's your friendship needs not just hers?

In the beginning, yes, but less so now.

Armchair23

I'm here after 29 years with at least one person I stay in contact with regularly from 'baby group'.

Others that I have occasional contact with, and some that although we don't speak often I still think of with immense fondness. if they walked through the door I'd drop everything.

I'm in my late fifties and don't have any contact with my old school friends at all.

My grown up kids although they've moved away still have friends they make a constant effort to stay in touch with 'back home'.

Xmas is often a pile of people sleeping on sofas catching up over the past year.

lulu_92

I moved when I was 4 and lost contact with anyone I was friends with there (only 1 or 2 anyway). Don't really talk to my reception friends either because people change.

System

Ive got a few of my birth friends on my Facebook. Kids I grew up with and went to school with. Some of them ive known over 45 years. We drifted apart when we left school and had our families but Facebook bought us back together again.

Spendless

There wasn't really the opportunity to make many friends at the ante natal class I attended. It was ran in the evenings and your partner was invited too. We also had several weeks where everyone was due from late Jan to early March. As everyone had fetched their partner to the first, I didn't want to attend the meetings for the youngest one alone, and we didn't have a babysitter for us both to attend.