Breastfeeding weaning help needed

bylromarha

notanewuser wrote: »

Damn that pesky science getting in the way of a good anecdote.

http://www.parenting.com/blogs/show-and-tell/sasha-parentingcom/psychologist-crying-it-out-damages-baby-s-brain

(Perhaps your children were lucky.)

If there were any science in either of those articles, I might be open to looking into it further. The first one you posted even said

The Australian Association of Infant Mental Health states: “Controlled crying is not consistent with what infants need for their optimal emotional and psychological health, and may have unintended negative consequences. There have been no studies that assess the physiological stress levels of infants who undergo controlled crying, or its emotional or psychological impact on the developing child.”

I'm pretty certain I'm not the only mum round here with kids over the age of 5 who are bright, healthy, know how loved they are, know that parents are there for them 24/7, and are well rounded without ADHD or low intellegence - despite the fact we used controlled crying.

And I'm sure there are mums on here whose kids have ADHD who never let baby cry for a second.

It's an awful article designed to play on every parents worst fears and scare people into the authors way of thinking.

Counting_Pennies_2

I agree, in someways is this not just a case of teaching our children boundaries.


Little steps

notanewuser

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

I agree, in someways is this not just a case of teaching our children boundaries.


Little steps

Yes. How dare they inconvenience us. How dare their tiny tummies empty quickly. How dare they miss us in the night. And don't get me started on teething, colic and development leaps.

Counting_Pennies_2

notanewuser wrote: »

Yes. How dare they inconvenience us. How dare their tiny tummies empty quickly. How dare they miss us in the night. And don't get me started on teething, colic and development leaps.

My belief in life is to be here to nurture and steer my children into being good well rounded children stepping into the adult world to be an upstanding citizen.


Knowing how to behave, to earn their keep and have a healthy happy life without causing others harm and upset.


This starts at the very beginning in ensuring our babies are fed well, guiding them how to settle themselves and ensuring they are safe and confident with themselves.


You seem to be on some evangelical path to suggest your way is the only way and all else is evil. Or rather we are for even daring to suggest the babies should be able to sleep through the night.


Or are you just seeking to justify your own style of parenting?


I have only come on here to make suggestions to help the mother who posted to ask for help. In fact that is all I aim to do when I post here, ask for help from others, and pass on things that have worked for me. You seem hell bent on telling everyone they are wrong unless they do it your way.

lavandergirl_2

Congratulations for being able to breastfeed for 10 months.

Do what you think is best and trust your instinct.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ki9z-QH6EQw

moomoomama27

Maybeanotherday wrote: »

Hello Im really struggling my baby is now 10mths old, Ive bf from the start and Ive managed to get her to stop feeding from me daytime but she uses feeding to get to sleep on a night. Ive stopped feeeding her to sleep and putting her down while still awake but shes going nuts, I hate listening to her cry and end up going back to her. She wakes every night at least three times a night, its taking its toll on me and my hubby relationship wise and Im exhausted. I really need advice on what to do...anyone any brilliant suggestions? or been through this?

If your hubby is able, perhaps he could try and settle your LO, so she doesn't smell your milk?

I know this was helpful with my DD, after a while she realised there was no food and started settling with just cuddles. Only had to do this for a week or so, and then either if us were able to settle her without feeds.

Often it's just habit, rather than need, and it's just a case of breaking the habit. Most babies of 10months old don't require feeds in the night, just comfort.

I wouldn't go down the CIO path personally, just seemed really awful, almost like it was training them in abandonment, but that's just my personal view on it!!

notanewuser

bylromarha wrote: »

If there were any science in either of those articles, I might be open to looking into it further.

Try this one. A psychological analysis and links to studies.

notanewuser

moomoomama27 wrote: »

If your hubby is able, perhaps he could try and settle your LO, so she doesn't smell your milk?

I know this was helpful with my DD, after a while she realised there was no food and started settling with just cuddles. Only had to do this for a week or so, and then either if us were able to settle her without feeds.

Often it's just habit, rather than need, and it's just a case of breaking the habit. Most babies of 10months old don't require feeds in the night, just comfort.

I wouldn't go down the CIO path personally, just seemed really awful, almost like it was training them in abandonment, but that's just my personal view on it!!

At 10 months old milk should still be their main source of nutrition.......

Maybeanotherday

Gosh I started a debate here didnt I lol this is what I struggle with I have three children...first one was a formula baby from the minute she was born, nobody even suggested breast feeding as an option by the time she tried latching on when we where home I couldnt get her to latch again and was heartbroken (I didnt have access to the wonderful web then), second baby was BF for 6 weeks but I had pnemonia and went back to hospital so then little one was formula fed, he slept through the night from day one...and now theres my little one that Im discussing now.
Shes not hungary I dont think, she just likes to be up against me. She eats three meals a day and has snacks and drinks and bf from 6pm until 7.30 on and off.
Im still unsure what the answer is, I do however need to encourage a closer relationship with my husband as shes very cuddly with me but less so with anyone else.
Marital wise yes theres non of that, I just dont have the energy, and I feel sorry for him really:o

meritaten

notanewuser wrote: »

At 10 months? Wow.

make your mind up - you thanked my post then posted this?

and yes, at ten months - its better than waiting until they are ten years.