how to meet people for dating and friendship

Primrose

Many book groups operste out of libraries so check with your local one. They normally provide the relevsnt books free of charge. Libraries are also usually good sources of information for local geoups and organisations whixh might be helpful to you. There is no charge to join a lobrary. It is one ofnthe benefits odnyiurncouncil tax if you can find one that hasn't closed due to deficit cutbacks..

theoretica

Is there are WI near you?

summerof0763

theoretica wrote: »

Is there are WI near you?

not sure if op has one and am not sureif I have one but worth looking into xx

tea_lover

summerof0763 wrote: »

I am seeing volunteering popping up I am on strong medication so not awake early etc so be mid afternoon before I was ready but because of my back standing is not good for me, plus I have never seen anything on facebook about any meet ups
I like reading, but never see any groups about them, xx

I work full-time and volunteer at evenings/weekends. It doesn't have to be morning if that doesn't suit.

Meet-up is a separate site to fb, but there are usually local groups on fb too. You could ask in your library about local book groups if that interests you.

Tbh there seems to be a lot of resistance to everyone's ideas!

Errata

Friends first, maybe more later! Good friends last, relationships often don't as the OP has discovered.
Spending time with friends is always useful whilst waiting for a Prince Charming to decide whether he can be bothered to get on his horse.

hazyjo

summerof0763 wrote: »

...plus I have never seen anything on facebook about any meet ups
I like reading, but never see any groups about them, xx

So you start the ball rolling! A lady started one up in a local FB group and there appear to be loads going now. You may not yet have heard about a local FB group, but I bet there's something. Type your area (village, town, county or whatever) into the search bar on FB and see if anything comes up. I think I'm part of three now. I rarely contribute, but it's handy seeing what local things are going on or suggested by members.


Or pin a message in your local library, newsagents, whatever. Probably best to meet in a local pub on a quiet night (obviously check they don't have a regular quiz night or whatever on say a Mon or Tues if that's what you go for).


Jx

raindropsy

SailorSam wrote: »

We've had loads of these threads if you check back.
And most of us who posted our suggestions are still sitting here on Mse of a weekend with our slippers on.

so, funny. I'll be joining your club..lol:beer:

Bella_b

Have you tried the website http://www.meetup.com

It is a site where you can find groups of people to meet and socialize with and / or do fun activities with It is a popular site so usually lots of groups on there. I suppose it might depend on where you live - the smaller the place the less groups possibly but hopefully you will find a group that you like on there.

I live near Bristol and there are many groups and not just for younger people either! There is a cooking group, and spanish conversation, just girly group etc. You can also start your own group if you want to .. about your own interests! I think it is free to join but you some groups charge a couple of quid a year or something.. depends on the group. Some groups are just social ones with different activities each week.

It is quite scary to go to one the first time but everyone is there to meet other people so go there with an open mind and you will have a good time

Also local walking/dog walking groups are good way to meet people, it may be advertised in the local paper or in your library noticeboard.

Horace

To find volunteering opportunities use this site http://www.do-it.org.uk/?gclid=CLGAs5un_MACFaYewwodJ2IATg

As a volunteer, you choose when you want to work.

I would say look at making friends before launching into dating.

I have used Meetup in the past and as others have said it can be a bit scary at first but when you first make contact with the group, say that you are nervous and maybe they will buddy you up with someone so you don't feel alone. Some of the groups that I am in still invite me to do activities with them eg walking, going out for meals, short UK breaks, holidays etc.

time2getalife

sorry ive not been back to my post,not been well for the last few days so havent been online.

thank you to everyone that replied it is most appreciated,

summerof0763 it is difficult when you have been in a long term relationship to suddenly find yourself single and with health issues just makes things harder.good luck to you though.

duchy, yes my post was two fold in that i am looking for friends and possibly relationship, so was asking how to meet more people generally and also if men will be put of dating a lady with health issues or am i likely to make them run a mile. im not after a carer but someone who understands, my ex accepted me for who i am, that was until he started seeing his co worker behind my back. congratulations on your wedding

tea lover thank you for your suggestion i think for me at present volunteering is not an option i am recovering from a total hip replacement which is not healing well, i have limited movement in the hip and i am waiting for further investigations to find out what is happening as my surgeon did expect me at my age to recover quite quickly at it isnt happening, i also have other health issues that require a lot of medication at times and restricts me in what i can do.

errata yes friends should last a lifetime unfortunately some disappear as quick as my marriage did . think i would like more friends first and maybe later on a relationship if one happens to come my way. i never expected to be in this position but then i suppose nobody does.

i will look up at the meet up website and see whats on offer in my area, i did find a friendship/meet new people type of website before i posted but it was mainly activity based things like rock climbing, line dancing not things that i can physically do.

i do have a good family and a couple of good friends which keep me going, am back on speaking terms with my ex in laws and we used to do lots of things together that we enjoyed and they have recently started coming to things with us, so maybe in time we can have some of that friendship back, i was very close to my ex mil and we often had days out just us, unfortunately our friendship ended when she lied to me regarding my ex and his affair, and started giving him an alibi, baby steps at the moment but it may get there in the end.

thank you to anyone that replied that i havent replied to.