What would you do?

starburst12

Hi everyone

I'm looking for peoples views on this scenario;

I am 40 years old and me and my husband have decided to start a family. My current job is 3 hours away hence I have been looking for something closer to home. I have finally found a job, and my predicament is;

1. Do I start the new job and not say anything to the new Employer and keep trying for a baby?

OR

2. Stay at the current job have the baby and claim maternity allowance, and look for another job closer to home once the baby has arrived?

I have kept the story to a minimum, hope you all understand what I mean.

Thanks

tea_lover

Why would you say something to either employer about your family plans? Nothing to do with them - that's why they're not allowed to ask.

Tropez

I'd just start the new job now but then I can't get pregnant so I might be missing something.

Just seems it might take a while to get pregnant and it's better to have something in place now.

harrys_dad

Take the new job and keep trying. You are not pregnant yet, and most prospective parents do not tell their employer until they are 13 weeks. Who knows how long it will take?

peachyprice

I wouldn't tell a new employer. Firstly it's none of their business until you are actually pregnant. Secondly, and sorry to be blunt, but there's a good chance it'll never happen.

cte1111

I'd start the new job. Whatever else happens, having a job near home is going to improve your work / life balance. However long you've been in a job, it's up to you and your partner whether you choose to try for a baby or not, no-one else.

millysg1

You never know how long it will take, and im sorry to say this, especially at your age. Chance are of conceiving are less and chances of miscarriages are higher. Get the new job and tell them once your far enough along. im 10 weeks but still applying for another job (but it is within my current company). Don't put your working life on hold!

view

You have no idea when or even if you'll conceive

Don't base your job situation around what may or may not happen. Take the job you want to for job reason/travel alone, simple.

marywooyeah

Agree with the others, take the job and start trying. As long as you have worked for the new employer for 25 weeks by the 26th week of pregnancy you'll get statutory maternity pay and they have to keep your job open for you.

Makes much more sense then carrying on spending so much time and money travelling to work everyday then trying to look for another job after maternity pay runs out.

lulu_92

Go for the new job.

You will not want to travel 3 hours away for a job when you're pregnant!

sulkisu

starburst12 wrote: »

Hi everyone

I'm looking for peoples views on this scenario;

I am 40 years old and me and my husband have decided to start a family. My current job is 3 hours away hence I have been looking for something closer to home. I have finally found a job, and my predicament is;

1. Do I start the new job and not say anything to the new Employer and keep trying for a baby?

OR

2. Stay at the current job have the baby and claim maternity allowance, and look for another job closer to home once the baby has arrived?

I have kept the story to a minimum, hope you all understand what I mean.

Thanks

I agree with others. Don't say anything until/unless you become pregnant. As others have mentioned, at your age conception will be more difficult and you need to be realistic about this; however I had three healthy sons in my 40's (44 and 46) all conceived naturally, despite my having only one ovary and surviving cervical and ovarian cancer. It may or may not happen for you, but being 40 does not automatically mean that it won't happen.