Ex wife leaving town and leaving kids, but stalling

tinkerbell28

Takeaway_Addict wrote: »

touched a nerve?

No? I'm married so this isn't an issue for me or my husband. I see a lot of this go on and it's never about the kids. Just "I want my kids". Kids need both of their parents in general.

The thing about custody is pretty much a given nowadays.

[Deleted User]

Your ex has this US boyfirend.., a relationship in which anything could happen. They could very easily split up and then the plans your ex has mentioned just won't happen. Even if she stays with her boyfiriend, they may not relocate. She loves your kids too remember, its not going to be easy for her or the kids.

I'd play a waiting game until what is going to happen is set in stone. You just don't know at the moment what will happen.

Both of you just need to keep things as stable for the kids as you can.

Remember that kids know what you want and may well be telling both you and your ex that they want to stay with you and your ex. Its almost impossible for a child to tell one parent they don't want to live with them.., and asking them at this stage will increase insecurity massively. Its not fair on them.

Please understand I am not trying to be judgemental., just trying to give another perspective.