Need to get myself together: The beginning

abba1772

In Scotland the grandparents have no automatic rights to see their grandchildren except in extenuating circumstances which your situation is not.

your in a stable living relationship and your two boys are thriving and if your eldest son is coming home distressed then all the more reason to limit contact.

hugglemonster

Glad to hear things are good with the boys and your new jobs.

I'm sorry things with your parents are difficult, I don't think your Mum would have any case trying to get shared custody of your son when he's in a stable loving home. Hope it goes away quickly and definitely right to cut contact if it's upsetting your son.

Hope you have a lovely weekend, H x

Aspiration

Tough being a parent but I think naturally we protect our kids. From what’s described I certainly wouldn’t be allowing any contact, it sounds concerning on many levels.

Abz12

Wow Monz, I have spent the last two weeks catching up on your diary and i have to say you are so inspirational and determined. I admire that. You have worked so hard over the last few years and its amazing to read how your life has changed. Good luck with the challenges you are facing now. All the best x

monz

Thank you Abz12 so much that comment means a lot!!

Well I have been harassed by her solicitor (all her) and decided not to respond as she has zero legal rights and can take me to court.  For length of time it will even get to court there will be no contact and I will be stating that until I find out "health condition" and her having a mental health evaluation.  As their mother I am forbidding contact to protect their wellbeing and mental health.

Since then my dad has followed us in a park and I am scared going out with my boys (excuse in a  text where I have told them not to talk to me is bringing by mail - I have not lived there in ten years give that what you will)

I have been text non stop as recent as a day ago from her.  I want to contact police for harassment but unsure how it would work.  I am not being left alone.

The house will be going on sale in January so by time moving my boy will finish primary and start high school elsewhere fresh 

hugglemonster

Oh sounds so stressful Monz, I have no expertise but I would keep as much evidence as possible that could possibly build up to harassment. 

I hope someone on here with some knowledge will be able to give you some advice.

Keep yourself and the boys safe that's the main priority.

Sending hugs, H x

Cherryfudge

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Keep records of what they do and how you respond, and yes, I think it might be an idea to inform the Police. I'm wondering if your parents are trying either to wear you down or to take the kids? Even without children being involved, following people is just not acceptable, I'm pretty sure its harassment.

monz

They are skilled at wearing me down thats how they have gotten away with so much over the years.  They also have money so will throw everything they have at lawyers for this.  They still keep texting non stop to seeing the boys even though I have stated to stop contacting me and leave us alone.  They have yet to do this, it is really frustrating.  They are so delusional! Demanding they have rights to my oldest of 3 nights a week and in mean time I will hand my kids over... they have zero rights so will see us in court.  rant over

Aspiration

I’ve never heard of anything like it before with grandparents. 

Well done for keeping cool and not backing down against what you think isn’t right for the kids. 

vampirotoothus

Block their numbers from your phone. You can unblock them should you need to contact them. I wish you the best x