OH and his "do it tomorrow" attitude

Solsol

lilmissreading wrote: »

Or 'why don't you look after LO so I have some time to do it?' or 'I'll keep an eye on LO and we'll get out of your way while you get on with it' (my preference) and then head somewhere for a walk.

If you get back and it's not done, ask him when and who he thinks is going to do it. Maybe he's got used to seeing you as uber-capable?

This is the approach I usually go for but hubby will then say let's all go out together and deal with the mess when we get back. He basically employs a list of procrastination techniques which usually result in us getting home too late to actually do housework and it's then left for me to do the next day while he's at work - he's a crafty one my OH!

lilmissreading

Solsol wrote: »

This is the approach I usually go for but hubby will then say let's all go out together and deal with the mess when we get back. He basically employs a list of procrastination techniques which usually result in us getting home too late to actually do housework and it's then left for me to do the next day while he's at work - he's a crafty one my OH!

Then we must find ways to match his craftiness

Sounds like your schedule is pretty busy. Is it possible to be out of the house when he returns from being out and leaving a note saying 'I know the housework is mounting up and annoying you, so LO and I have gone out to give you some time to get on with it in peace and quiet'!

Daresay the first time it might not work. Or maybe point out while you are out doing the food shopping say, he can mind LO AND do some housework. When he fails (cue whine about how you clearly have no idea how tricky it is to mind LO and get on with jobs) you can remind him that this is what you do all the time and why it is hard to keep on top of everything without the two of you working together.

dorothyjeffery

my eldest daughters husband is just like this. she does everything, even mowing the grass and she works as well. on his days off, of which there is 2 a week, he just sits of the sofa all day, because its his day off. only last week, she had to get a man in to mend a tap in the bathroon, which hadnt been working for 3 years and he didnt do it. likewise with the light fittings and light switch. she had to get someone in to do it.

she is now looking for quotes for someone to come and fix a gate and decorate and put some laminate flooring down. he is just bone lazy.

he is a chef, but hardly ever cooks at home. she sees to the 2 boys, cooks clean, shops: you name it.

a couple of times she has had to read a very serious riot act at him, and it doesnt last. he just doesnt see the problem!!!!