Maintenance for a 19 year old? my ex wants money from me

Diamonds_2

RAS wrote: »

Hi

Precisely what age was your son when he started this course?

That affects his eligibility for free education.

I think your ex can claim CMS up to son's 20th birthday but not beyond?

And that would be based on your income (JSA would be £5 per week?)

My son started the course yesterday and he was 19 in August.

Diamonds_2

RAS wrote: »

Hi

Precisely what age was your son when he started this course?

That affects his eligibility for free education.

I think your ex can claim CMS up to son's 20th birthday but not beyond?

And that would be based on your income (JSA would be £5 per week?)

THe ex is saying he's going to claim Child Benefit for him? but at 19 he's not even a child anymore is he? and sorry, I don't know what CMS is.?

EDIT: Just googled, it's child maintenance

DUTR

Diamonds wrote: »

Which is a bit !!!!!! really .. shouldn't they just man up and pay what they're asked to pay (legally) for THEIR children? I can't believe men stop working so they don't have to pay! how sad!

Forgive me, but are you not trying similar?
Whether it be £5/£7 week or nothing, it's the principle that matters.
Contrary to rumour, CM is not only for males to contribute.

shoe*diva79

Im pretty sure that your son will have had to pay his course fees himself as he was 19 when the course started...

Diamonds_2

DUTR wrote: »

Forgive me, but are you not trying similar?
Whether it be £5/£7 week or nothing, it's the principle that matters.
Contrary to rumour, CM is not only for males to contribute.

I have worked up until July because I injured myself. I'm not earning out of choice and even though I'm not working I am still (my partner) giving my son money. The ex is a tit.. he just wants to wind me up.. I was just asking if I'd actually have to pay him anything seeing as I'm unemplyed. I've never ducked out of paying anything!

skylight

So what have you replied back to him?

If you haven't already, be clear and to the point without going into any details. I would tell him that do not currently have an income, but you are more than happy for him to contact the CSA. And leave it at that for the time being. Helping out your son can be between yourselves and good on him that he's decided to go back to college - I hope that he sees it through. x

(And the CSA changed so its not CSA anymore for new cases, but your ex will now have to pay £20 if he wants to even put in an application; so as you have told him you haven't an income, its up to him to decide if he wants to take it further). Be polite and tell him to go to the CSA and then don't worry about anything.

DUTR

Diamonds wrote: »

I have worked up until July because I injured myself. I'm not earning out of choice and even though I'm not working I am still (my partner) giving my son money. The ex is a tit.. he just wants to wind me up.. I was just asking if I'd actually have to pay him anything seeing as I'm unemplyed. I've never ducked out of paying anything!

I'm not attacking why you are not able to contribute, CM I beleive is payable up to nearly 20, so I'm saying let him go to the CSA or CMO and go with what they say, if you are not recieving JSA then you will contribute nothing (legally) if you are recieving JSA, then you will contribute £5 or £7 per week, that figure is not much (won't cover bus fare for a week), but at least you are officially contributing.
At the moment it reads as if you do not wish to be eligible for contributing but as an NRP you are eligible to contribute.

Diamonds_2

skylight wrote: »

So what have you replied back to him?

If you haven't already, be clear and to the point without going into any details. I would tell him that do not currently have an income, but you are more than happy for him to contact the CSA. And leave it at that for the time being. Helping out your son can be between yourselves and good on him that he's decided to go back to college - I hope that he sees it through. x

(And the CSA changed so its not CSA anymore for new cases, but your ex will now have to pay £20 if he wants to even put in an application; so as you have told him you haven't an income, its up to him to decide if he wants to take it further). Be polite and tell him to go to the CSA and then don't worry about anything.

Hello and thank you very much , yes I managed to hold it together (just;)), I informed him of my current employment status and also told him about the money I have been giving our son (I have no doubt my son won't have told him a thing).. I have said that I am very happy to pay him what I am legally obliged to pay him but that figure is £0 at this moment in time.

RAS

And if you find yourself having to pay your ex, tell your son to tap his dad in future.

RAS

Diamonds wrote: »

THe ex is saying he's going to claim Child Benefit for him?

Your child must be accepted onto the course before they turn 19.

https://www.gov.uk/child-benefit-16-19

A lot depends when son was accepted to start the course.