Benefits if quitting job

missbiggles1

mattcanary wrote: »

Why should anyone be totally miserable and hate their job?


I am not talking about someone that would rather not be at work and doesn't really like their job. I am talking about people that are regularly crying when coming home from work and dreading going in to work the next day.


If someone criticises and judges others when they are going through tough times, they should be judged themselves too.


And I stand by my comment that it is stupid to not look for a new job (even if remaining in your current job) when you have hated your job for the last 6 years. Her comment, saying she is doing it for her family's sake is ridiculous - as if her being thoroughly miserable makes for a good family life.#
She clearly likes criticising others because she hates her own life so much and is being a coward for not trying to change things.

A better question is why should anybody expect money from the state if they choose to leave their job?

Your advice about leaving without another job to go to is totally irresponsible and likely to wreck a person's career and life for a long period.

tomtontom

mattcanary wrote: »

People not in work - oh, they're benefits scum.

I don't think anyone is saying that about the OP. Your attitude on the other hand ...

Cyberman60

Beware !! This sounds just like excuses to be a SAHM !! :eek:

Voyager2002

matilda.cs wrote: »

Thanks your reply. It has been great reading your critical and demeaning response.

My partner does not want to be unemployed, however, she has had time off work for maternity and has returned to a different department where she knows no one, they are all young teenagers and make no effort to communicate with her even if she instigates a conversation. She has asked for a transfer but been refused, and comes home in tears most nights. But thanks for your helpful input.

She does not wish to be out of work for any longer than the minimum, but as we've both paid tax for 15 years, I don't see it a major issue if she asks for a little of that back.

This isn't a decision we're taking lightly, and we would both rather be working FT as it's 'how we are.'.. That said, she can't continue feeling this way.

If her working life is intolerable then she might have a case for "constructive dismissal". Rather than simply leaving, she should seek assistance from her union and/or ACAS.

The Benefits system rightly treats people who have been unfairly pushed out of a job rather differently from those who simply feel that watching daytime TV is more fun than slogging their guts out for an employer.

dippy3103

I can sympathise with hating every second of work..

I got to the stage of hating work (there was someone in our office who created huge problems then stood back and watched the fall out). One night I was driving home and I actually considered crashing my car so I didn't have to go back the next day. Suffice to say I didn't. I used to feel physically sick every morning that I had to go to work.

I'm trapped by my income- to leave I would have to take a huge pay cut, which our family couldn't sustain. It's not as bad as it was- I guess people got wise to her. I'm still unhappy with where I work but it's simply unhappy instead of absolute misery.

My point is being truly miserable with an awful cloud over you is draining but not the same as simply not liking your job.

mattcanary

missbiggles1 wrote: »

A better question is why should anybody expect money from the state if they choose to leave their job?

Your advice about leaving without another job to go to is totally irresponsible and likely to wreck a person's career and life for a long period.

Take off your benefits bashing hat for one minute


To answer your question:
- because they are entitled to receive some benefits (probably), as the rules stand.

Furthermore the key points:
OP has tried working out what they would their family would be entitled to from the state if their other half gave up their current job (which appears to be part-time). Then tried comparing this to their current family income.


OP has calculated that they wouldn't be much worse off as a family if partner gave up current job (although are unsure about their calculations). Therefore posts on this forum asking for help.


Partner hates current job and dreads going in to work. Is thoroughly miserable with the current situation.




So you think someone should stay in their current job (with nothing addressed as to what happens within this role at the moment), rather than end up being slightly worse off financially (maybe until they find a new job) and in all likelihood much better off emotionally, just to prove to idiots that they are not "stealing other people's money"? Despite the fact that in many households only one person works and the family claims various benefits, such as Tax Credits, etc.


Furthermore you think I am offering irresponsible advice?"!!!!!

GlasweJen

OP did you put in the actual number of bedrooms you have in the section for housing help?

You're likely to only qualify for 2 or 3 bedroom rate as your children will be expected to share until they are older.

Also did you put in your wife's wages to date?

I can't fathom £300 a week unless you've put a decimal point in the wrong place somewhere.

mattcanary

tomtontom wrote: »

I don't think anyone is saying that about the OP. Your attitude on the other hand ...

Lakes17 was, for one.

pelirocco

matilda.cs wrote: »

Thanks your reply. It has been great reading your critical and demeaning response.

My partner does not want to be unemployed, however, she has had time off work for maternity and has returned to a different department where she knows no one, they are all young teenagers and make no effort to communicate with her even if she instigates a conversation. She has asked for a transfer but been refused, and comes home in tears most nights. But thanks for your helpful input.

She does not wish to be out of work for any longer than the minimum, but as we've both paid tax for 15 years, I don't see it a major issue if she asks for a little of that back.

This isn't a decision we're taking lightly, and we would both rather be working FT as it's 'how we are.'.. That said, she can't continue feeling this way.

Tax or even NI isnt a saving pot , its not there to sk for a ''little of it back ''

mattcanary

pelirocco wrote: »

Tax or even NI isnt a saving pot , its not there to sk for a ''little of it back ''

Yes, it is. If circumstances require it and you comply with the requirements of receiving certain benefits.


That is one of the purposes of taxation - to pay out benefits to people that require them. Just as tax has many other purposes: to build roads, pay for armed forces, encourage the formation of businesses, pay local authorities and health trusts to provide services such as education and healthcare, etc, etc