if you don't have a will can you answer please?

Velvet_Glove

This is something we need to sort - both get this done free through UNISON but it's not very clear on their website how to go about it!

We are married, no children. We own our flat so it would probably be quite straightforward...hopefully!

Lily-Rose_3

@74jax; I hope he decides to change his mind. I understand his point of view, but (sadly,) he IS very naive if he thinks everything is going to go swimmingly after his death. (Which I hope is 60 years away!) As has been said, a death (especially of someone quite wealthy,) can bring out the very worst in people. Even people you thought were OK, can turn out to be moneygrabbing monsters.

@Lil Elvis; what sad and sorry tales. I am sorry about all this, and this proves that people can really turn nasty, and that you absolutely must have a will.

@katsu, sorry but this is what I was talking about. Assuming so much, but with nothing written down. If you and hubby go together (God forbid!) there is no guarantee that both your families will not fight to the death for your assets/possessions.

74jax

mgdavid wrote: »

Am I missing something here? Surely if he dies intestate then you get everything.

No. Only to a certain amount then it gets distributed out.

DKLS

Decided to get mine sorted this week after putting it off for years, all nice and simple if I die first the wife gets the lot, If I die last the lot goes between the cat and donkey sanctuaries.

katsu

Lily-Rose. You are right that I believe our families will behave in a dignified manner. There are not high volumes of assets that they will want to dispute. A fight over the dvd collection? I'd be making a will to distribute my tea towel stash at that rate! I can't imagine my mum and mil fighting for my sewing machine either.

I have mainly envisaged a will for charity giving as our parents will in time, I expect, predecease us, or when we have sufficient assets that it seems fair to give to charity not just family.

My primary concern is my spouse because our finances are connected and I want him to be ok. The law does that for us. Anything our families get is a benefit not a necessity.

SailorSam

I've done a will but for a few years now i've been wanting to change it since my Sisters and I have fallen out. I've joked i'm leaving everything to the dogs home, but in all seriousness i'm not sure where to leave things. Then i'm unsure who to ask to be executor.

74jax

Lily-Rose wrote: »

@74jax; I hope he decides to change his mind. I understand his point of view, but (sadly,) he IS very naive if he thinks everything is going to go swimmingly after his death. (Which I hope is 60 years away!) As has been said, a death (especially of someone quite wealthy,) can bring out the very worst in people. Even people you thought were OK, can turn out to be moneygrabbing monsters.
s.

I'm not bothered by his estate being distributed by the laws at the time of his death, but if that's what he wants why not put it in a will so that it makes it quicker and less hassle for me when the time comes.

I don't think he's being naive, as he understands perfectly, he just doesn't want to be the one who says I get x, his mum gets y and his sister gets z. He'd rather the rules at the time of his death state who gets what.

Mojisola

74jax wrote: »

I'm not bothered by his estate being distributed by the laws at the time of his death, but if that's what he wants why not put it in a will so that it makes it quicker and less hassle for me when the time comes.

I don't think he's being naive, as he understands perfectly, he just doesn't want to be the one who says I get x, his mum gets y and his sister gets z. He'd rather the rules at the time of his death state who gets what.

I think that making a will isn't something you do for yourself but a gift you organise for those you leave behind to make their life a bit easier at a very difficult time.

It doesn't affect your life but it can make your loved one's life much less stressful.

SailorSam

scooby088 wrote: »

All my worldly goods are already willed to charities nothing is being left to any family. I firmly believe that dead mans/womans money is no good to no one. And if I cant give it when alive you wont get it when im dead.

When i use to read about people doing that i could never understand it Scooby, family has always been so important to me. I've no children of my own to leave things but all my life i've put the needs of my Sisters first ahead of myself and liked the idea that when i died and my estate was shared it would make their lives easier.
But i see now what a fool i've been in the past and think you've got the right idea, charities need and deserve things more,

74jax

At least tho even if it's left to charity a will is written, so a decision is made rather than 'ah whatever......'