if you don't have a will can you answer please?

Spendless

74jax wrote: »

The only Will he has been involved in was his Dads. His dad left everything to him, and it was a considerable amount. Hubby's sister and his dad were estranged right up until the end when on his death bed his dad asked him to make sure his daughter (hubby's sister) would be ok (as he'd obviously wrote her out of the will). Hubby was fine with this, it was his dad's last wishes and halved everything he was left after it came to him. So there was no controversial will or anything like that. When I asked him to read this thread and make a will to follow the intestacy rules, he said why bother make a will to say what will happen anyway.

I wonder if his Dad's will has affected him, so he feels that his Dad's will was saying 'I love you more' as his sister was left out of it, only for what would have presumably happened in the event of no will to end up being the way his Dad's estate was distributed due to him following his Dad's last verbal wishes- so he thinks along the lines of his Dad might as well died with no will, since that's the way it ended up anyway.

Re- the bit I bolded. Didn't you answer 'to make things easier for me to process at the point I'm greiving'

Mojisola

74jax wrote: »

he said why bother make a will to say what will happen anyway.

Because if he leaves a will, his executors can get on with the job of sorting out his estate.

If he doesn't, everything goes into stasis until someone can become the administrator - that's not being kind to your loved ones.

Recently he said he would make a will leaving everything to me if I would make sure all his family were looked after.......... i thought I was getting somewhere with this and asked how much he would like distributing to his nephews when 18 etc and he then said he couldn;t make that decision. I said it's no good leaving me hundreds of thousands of pounds to give out to people when he can't tell me how to do it, so we left it...... again.

I would take him up on this, just to get the will in place.

If he dies first, then you can deal with the problem of how to distribute the money - he's leaving you with the decisions so you make them as you see fit at the time.

kpwll

Hubby and I haven't made wills yet, no good excuse just something we'll get round to eventually (if we're still here!!!!).

We have discussed making wills it is that final push needed to get it done.

Velvet_Glove

My kick up the backside

http://www.helenanddouglas.org.uk/news/172/will-writing-fortnight/

Will email some today

74jax

MrsDanvers wrote: »

OP - the rules on intestacy change after 1 October. If your OH wants his family to inherit anything, he needs to make a will.

http://www.theguardian.com/money/2014/sep/20/wills-inheritance-changes-intestacy-rules

Thanks for that although he's happy with that too.... Anything so he doesn't have give an amount..... As long as I look out for them, whatever that may mean.

Mojisola

74jax wrote: »

Anything so he doesn't have give an amount..... As long as I look out for them, whatever that may mean.

What a cop-out! He won't give an amount but expects you to decide whether he loved his mother 15% or 30% or whatever!:rotfl:

74jax

Mojisola wrote: »

What a cop-out! He won't give an amount but expects you to decide whether he loved his mother 15% or 30% or whatever!:rotfl:

A total cop out! In his words 'it's up to you what you do with it, just be nice to look after my family'.... SO YOU DO IT THEN :rotfl:

Savvy_Sue

I once spotted a lovely little pink car zooming past, just the right deep shade of pink for me. I said to DH "I'm having a pink car after you've gone, I won't inflict it on you before then."

Would a few comments like that concentrate his mind? Obviously pink cars may not be your thing, maybe it's generous donations to the cat's home or a local mental health charity or whatever ....

Mind you, I don't think it's ever occurred to either of us to say "make sure mum / mum and dad are OK after I've gone", because he knows I'd give my last bean to care for HIS parents, should he pre-decease them and me, and I know my mum has never liked him so she'll have to take pot luck with my siblings.

74jax

Has anyone heard Martin Lewis on the radio saying you only need a will if you're not married or if you are married and have children you want the money to go to instead????

Hubby has just text saying I can stop asking him to make one now as Martin Lewis has confirmed he doesn't need to make one......... he so has selective hearing at times and I want to prove him wrong..........

Primrose

It rarely occurs to people to make provision for their parents in their wills because in the normal course of things parents normally predecease you but unexpected health problems leading to premature death can occasionally hit a younger generation, possibly leading to poorer parents being left without some financial support which an adult child might possibly have provided has they still been alive. Something to think perhaps for in drafting a future Will for all those still lucky enough to have parents still alive?