Brother Wont get a JOB!

pickledonionspaceraider

OP it sounds to me that you are getting well worked up, over something that is not your problem, that I can see.

You feel that you are financing him - how so - is your mother asking you to pay his share?

If anything, your mum is financing the both of you - unless of course, she is charging you the going market value for a bedsit/food/utilities etc, which doesn't ring true with the reason being that you stay at home because you are saving. And then you are paying double to cover your own ''financing of your brother''

You say some very unkind things about him.

I think you should move out if, like you say you ''despise'' living there...

Johnnytwostep

letthemeatcake wrote: »

He might find 2nd time around a bit easier. Give him another chance and support him in that decision.

the OP said that this is the second time he has taken his A levels, and yet still wants to go to Uni??

InsideInsurance

Pschool1 wrote: »

I desperately want to move out, im even past caring about how my mum would cope without me here to help. i wish she would kick him out!.

the only reason ive have stayed this long is because im trying my best to save up for a mortgage

So you are both sponging off your mother too but just at a different level?

Why does she need you there? Is she disabled and needs a carer?

Assuming there isnt a carer issue then the best thing your mother could do is kick the pair of you out. An unpopular view I am sure but all kids should be out the parental house by 18 excluding a stay for a couple of weeks or so if there is a major negative life event.

tomtontom

Charityworker wrote: »

People with media studies degrees go on to get jobs in the film, TV and media industry which is one of the highest paid industries there is.

So wanting to go to uni is being lazy now? If he succeeds I. Getting a degree he will be able to earn a lot more than you are while your still struggling along with your job trying hard to make ends meet paying your mortgage off. Just a thought!

You'll find far more media studies graduates in admin and call centre roles than you will in the film industry!

topaztiger1983

Tell him to get off his lazy butt, and do something worthwhile with his life, lazy beeper

jules888

InsideInsurance wrote: »

So you are both sponging off your mother too but just at a different level?

Why does she need you there? Is she disabled and needs a carer?

Assuming there isnt a carer issue then the best thing your mother could do is kick the pair of you out. An unpopular view I am sure but all kids should be out the parental house by 18 excluding a stay for a couple of weeks or so if there is a major negative life event.

Bloody hell!Wouldnt want you as a parent kicking kids out at 18!

Pschool1

whitewing wrote: »

Sounds like you are ready to move out, as in it would be a good idea.

Bright kids can underestimate the amount of work required to succeed in A levels, especially in everyone thinks they breezed through GCSEs without effort. I bet it has knocked his confidence very badly and you are not helping one jot.

I think your brother needs a bit of space to consider what direction he needs to take. Maybe a different college will suit his personality better, or a year out. Sounds to me that everyone in the family gets involved with his failures so that can't be easy for him.

I don't mean that he shouldn't get a job, but he may well still be in shock, especially if his friends are all going on to the next stage.

I feel sorry for him.

..for quite some time he was very cocky with his gcse results...i believe he thought he would be able to get through the rest of his studies with little input..

I dont feel sorry for him because he also lacks manners towards the very people who keep a roof over his head. it's unnaceptable

Pschool1

topaztiger1983 wrote: »

Tell him to get off his lazy butt, and do something worthwhile with his life, lazy beeper

we have this same argument about every 3 months...im sure it falls on deaf ears..

but yes..lazy he is!

topaztiger1983

Too, bloody right, my brother-in-law live with us and he knows the rules, he is 22 but still, he used to think he could get away with anything, but now he knows his place, and if he wants to keep his room he has to have an input in the financial side of things, He is on JSA at the moment, but he has a few interviews next week, so maybe something will come from that

Pschool1

kelpie35 wrote: »

I think you sound a very hard working person and take your responsibilities seriously.

I can fully understand your anger and frustrations with your brother and also your mother.

If it is causing you so much stress it might be the best thing for you to have your own place.

You might not be much worse off by doing that if you are having to subsidise your brother by living at home.

I wish you all the best for the future.

thanks kelpie...yes i did have a convo with my older sister not too long ago, she also said what you said. I do believe i just need my own space now. I dont see much changing around here anytime soon.

take care:p