Giving lifts to work colleague who I dislike

Richard53

The motorcycle idea is a good one, but mentioning CBT and restrictions on passengers is missing the point. Get a full licence, buy a FireBlade or similar, make sure you have pillion insurance and a spare helmet, and then say you will gladly offer them a lift home. Make sure it's one they won't forget.

JQ.

How far from work are you? Could you cycle - after a few weeks he may have moved onto a new target and stopped syncing your shifts, so you can go back to the car. The added benefit is you'll be fitter.

barbiedoll

Ragtimeplayer wrote: »

If it was just a lift after work I could probably sway it by saying every time they asked that I was busy or going the other way etc but its also before work as well.

I do an early shift with them once a month and they now walk to my house so they don't have to get a taxi in the early hours. Its so frustrating and I do not want to spend my working life lying about it and can't see why I should have to either.

What a cheek!....You should say that your car is currently off the road and that you need them to pick you up in their taxi for the early shift. Get the taxi and don't offer to pay towards the fare. (I daresay the manager claims the fare on expenses anyway)

Tell manager that shifts are causing strife at home, if he doesn't play ball, go to HR.

Or wait until he walks round to your house in the early hours, preferably on a rainy day, get your partner to open the door and say that you're sick and won't be in. You can then make a miraculous recovery, just in time to drive to work! He may then get the message.

[Deleted User]

I posted about this not so long along although I have no problem with the colleague I give the lifts to. I have to drive out of my way to pick him up usually once a week but it is now becoming twice a week as the other colleague who used to also give him lists now starts work later.

I have given myself a break a few times by saying I'm dropping someone off at airport on way to work etc etc and will be coming from other direction so can't give lift. But you can't make excuses every week.

bartelbe

Ask them to chip in for fuel, insurance, maintenance. To be blunt they are freeloading, saving themselves a fortune by not having to have a car, maintain it, pay for fuel, and parking.

Ragtimeplayer

I have now said no twice since starting this thread by saying I had other things to do and there was a weird awkward silence while everyone in the room was wondering if we had had a tiff as I have never said this before. People at work just expect that if you are going the same way, then its normal to give someone a lift. I kind of agree if its every now and then but this person is taking liberties.
They get a lift from me most nights and if not me, someone else who also lives in the same direction. On an early shift which starts at 6am, they always put me on their shift and get a lift that way. My last shift with them was a little different as I have recently bought a bike and am trying to get fit, therefore I cycled to work 4 days out of five as it was raining one day. This annoyed the hell out of them as they had to book and pay for a taxi. They are on a lot more money than me so this shouldn't even come into it, they are just being tight.
I can continue to cycle in but it is a long way, about 25 minutes riding and I feel like I shouldn't have to ride when I am not feeling like it/bad weather etc just to avoid giving them a lift.

matttye

The problem with making up a white lie (e.g. I'm not going that way / have other things to do) is that that will only tackle that one request.

If you're assertive and tell them straight that you're not happy to continue giving them lifts unless they treat you with more respect at work, that will nip the problem in the bud. You need to stick to it though.

Just say you feel like you're being taken advantage of and it is affecting how you feel at work and you don't want it to continue.

sulphate

"Sorry but I'm cycling these days as finances are tight right now so I'm going to have to ask for a contribution towards fuel if you want a lift"

I car share with one of my colleagues. It's extremely annoying at times, I definitely would not do it if there wasn't a financial incentive.

matttye

sulphate wrote: »

"Sorry but I'm cycling these days as finances are tight right now so I'm going to have to ask for a contribution towards fuel if you want a lift"

I car share with one of my colleagues. It's extremely annoying at times, I definitely would not do it if there wasn't a financial incentive.

The OP doesn't have to change his method of transport to work - he just needs to be assertive.

People will do anything to avoid a difficult conversation it seems.

Hoof_Hearted

Just say that you enjoy being in the car by yourself, listening to your music, picking your nose and farting when you want, so you don't want to give lifts any more.