Am I right to be annoyed by this?

tranmereforever

Hello all,

just to vent - although starting to believe its just me

We are currently living with my parents due to a long story where our account got hacked and wiped and we have only in the last 2 weeks been able to sort it out 18 months later

Now we are planning on moving in October but we have an issue at the house at the moment that is driving me mad

My mum ( who i love very much ) constantly leaves the front door on the latch ( ie unlocked ) during the day. She will go upstairs and no one will be downstairs but still leave it this way. To me this is crazy and keep trying to point out to her that any insurance policies were be null straight away if they robbed as a result of this

The answer I get is that its her house - which in fairness it is - and that this is a safe street

Now it is safe(as safe as you can I suppose) but we were broken into a few years ago so I do not see the logic in this argument

Is this more common place than I realise? I cannot see any logic in having the door unlocked even if we are all down in the front room, its not like the lock is difficult it takes seconds

pollypenny

You're moving soon, your mum has taken you in, just live with it for the time being.

kelpie35

Sorry but this might not be what you want to hear.

It is you mum's home and I would respect her wishes.

You have only a short time left to stay there so if I were you I would not rock the boat.

Hope you have a happy life in your new home, good luck.

WestonDave

1. Its her house and her insurance policy so her choice.
2. You are planning to move out in a couple of months


So on that basis I'd not bother rocking the boat and causing a row over it, just grit your teeth and put up with it.


To be fair in many streets you'd have to be pretty unlucky for someone to even walk past in any given hour let alone someone with ill intent enough to be randomly trying door handles to see if they open.

Peter333

Well it does seem foolhardy, and she will come unstuck if she gets robbed, as the insurance will more than likely not pay out. But there is not a lot you can do about it.

And if people are in when the door is unlocked, (I think that's what you're saying,) then surely there is less likelihood of the house being robbed.

One last thing; what do you mean, your account got wiped and hacked? What account?

lulu_92

Without knowing how old you are or how old your mum is maybe she is used to how it was "back in the day" where you could leave your door unlocked and nothing would happen? maybe she doesn't want to admit it could happen and is in some form of denial?

I guess she won't change her mind until it happens again. My only advice would be to buy a door chain for her.

Pollycat

When we are home, our front & back doors are locked so I agree with you on the security aspect.

However, is IS your Mothers house.

Have you tried locking the door yourself?

If so, what is her reaction to that?

If she insists that the door stays unlocked, I guess you have to live with it and just ensure you safeguard your own property as best you can.

Person_one

Loads of people who live in quiet and relatively safe streets do this. They lock the doors if they're out or at night but if they're in and awake the door is unlocked.

I live in a City centre, so it's alien to me too and I understand why it makes you feel a bit twitchy, bug it really is completely normal for loads of people. The chances of being burgled in broad daylight with people in the house is minuscule. You'll just have to try to relax I'm afraid!

Tiddlywinks

Like it or lump it.

That's harsh but accurate.

When you leave, get some crime prevention leaflets for her to read.

In the meantime, if I were her, I'd be pretty cheesed off to be constantly nagged at by someone on the receiving end of a favour.... very cheesed off in fact.


PS there may be a hidden reason for her *needing* the door left on the latch - phobia of getting locked in or something. So just let it be.

tranmereforever

Sorry I have not come across very well here

When I say I have been pointing it out to her its not in an argumentative way I just say it as they have 4 laptops and an Ipad on view through the front window - on the table - and a door unlocked

I am very grateful for all they have done for us so was not a moan in that respect and as stated we will be leaving soon but its just a real alien concept to me and was wondering more if others did it

Me and my wife have already said we will not mention it again and I do wonder whether I am just too safety conscious with it all

Errata

If your mum wants to leave her front and back doors wide open, that's her business, her house, her choice.
I wonder what she thinks about the safety of her house compared to the safety of your bank account?