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lemontart

FBaby wrote: »

Sorry I don't want to be pedantic, but did you mean you were a week late rather than early? Because if your period was early, unless you missed one period, you would have only just been pregnant if at all, not 5 weeks.

Sorry, don't want to add to your stress, I have been there, miscarried at 5 weeks a very much longed for baby (and then never fell pregnant again despite all our efforts), so now how it feels, but people read these threads for advice and this could confuse some readers.

Some do have what appear to be periods during pregnancy - so not really black and white. I did with first one, did not realise at all until started having what I thought were very bad cramps and to point of screaming blue murder ending up in hospital to be told in labour - turned out between 5/6 months and my son was still born. that was 30 years ago 21st September this year. Either way the hormones will be all over the place for her and pregnancy planned or otherwise is a major event so will evoke strong emotions

mellymoo74

No a week early levels of something were high so at least 5 weeks they said. They have taken some blood as well which I think I get the results of today but I cant remember or remember what it was taken for.
Calling into work now and trying to sleep.
Yesterday is a blur and the cramps didn't stop last night really need them to ease off.

ellesbellesxxx

Hi Melly,
Just to say so sorry to read this, xxx

minimoocow

I miscarried at 5 weeks last year. A much longed for baby too - not conceived again since and didn't feel ready to even try again for 6 months. My bleeding lasted about 8 weeks on and off but this isn't normal so if you bleed for more than a week or so or start being really heavy or gushing then please get help. (I didn't for the first week - had to be dragged down to the hospital but the relief of someone checking me over and telling me what was normal/what wasn't was great). Also being in the system meant I had a 24 hour number to call if I was worried.


I also struggled with OHs reaction. He was devastated but couldn't do anything. Much the same as me really but I was also coping with physical pain and worrying about bleeding to death (I was changing pads every 15 mins at some point). I think he thought I was coping too well but I had 2 "episodes" where I completely lost control. Shouting, wailing, sobbing. I think these were mostly hormonal but we didn't cope with them very well and it took me a while to get over that. So be kind to yourself and bear in mind you might react a bit differently to how you usually would.


I'm not sure I have any advise other than give it time and take it easy. Looking back my hormones were up the spout for weeks which serious impaired my thoughts. I felt seriously low until the bleeding had stopped. Which for me was past when my 12 week scan would have been. At that point it felt like a switch was triggered in my brain as the fog lifted and I felt like me again. That's not to say I was "happy" but I was a functioning human being again!


I found what would have been my due date a little hard but it came and went and whilst the baby that never was won't ever be forgotten its no longer something that occupies my every thought.


Mini
x

picklekin

I'm so sorry that your going through this. I bled for over 3 weeks during my 6 weeks MC, it DID get lighter though and not painful, the painful bit (for me at least) only lasted a couple of days. Ibuprofen AND paracetamol did it, with a hot water bottle and some fudge cake.

Engagedtobaz

So Sorry. Sending hugs x

DevilsAdvocate1

I've had quite a few miscarriages (5 I think) and after the last one it took 2 years to get pregnant despite trying really hard. So for those still trying it can still happen. I'd given up when I discovered I was pregnant.

I don't remember being in much pain, but I do remember passing lots of clots. Think I bled heavily for around a week and then lightly after that. With my first 2 miscarriages they gave me a D&C but with my last ones I was told that they let nature take its course.

Look after yourself. I had the opposite with my other half as he felt relief when I miscarried which made him realise he didn't want anymore children (we already had 2). Whereas it made me want another all the more, so we had some rocky times. We are fine now though.

amus

mellymoo74 wrote: »

No a week early levels of something were high so at least 5 weeks they said. They have taken some blood as well which I think I get the results of today but I cant remember or remember what it was taken for.
Calling into work now and trying to sleep.
Yesterday is a blur and the cramps didn't stop last night really need them to ease off.

If you are passing clots etc and were a week early it sounds like you may have had a period whilst pregnant and would have been further on than 5 weeks. I had a m/c at 5 weeks which was just like a heavy period with a few small clots, and a m/c at 9 weeks which was more painful, large clots etc. I only say this because if you were further on than 5 weeks you should really go to your EPU to make sure that everything has passed, as sometimes if the m/c is incomplete you can end up with an infection/heavy bleeding.

mellymoo74

work were lovely. I foolishly tried to go food shopping which has set it back off, bleeding heavily now which is ok apparently, just need to go hospital if it gets heavier. Blood test results aren't available yet. I still forgot to ask what it was for. I think your right and its further along the stuff I have been passing is big.

Gleeful

This happened to me at 5 weeks too, you are not alone. It's a very strange situation to be in. I only knew for 2 weeks or so before hand, so it's difficult to address feelings when you barely had time to come to terms with being pregnant, then suddenly you aren't!

We had been trying for 2 years. It took me months to get over it.