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VestanPance

Chatting with a former workmate on its own would mean nothing. Attempting to hide the fact she was doing it points to the fact she's up to no good. It may or may not have become physical between them, but you can be sure she emotionally cheated on you and that's why she no longer loves you, because she has feelings for someone else.

Lawyer up and protect yourself. She's about to blame you for all her failures.

fatpiggy

I suspect half the married ladies in the world feel like this. As soon as they sign the register they cease to exist as the person they once were. The they have kids and they slip even further away from their point of origin.

GeorgieG_2

I can relate slightly to your wifes feelings and around the same age. If I am being honest I love my husband to bits but I'm no longer in love with him (and no-one else involved!).
I feel since I have married him and had children I have slowly had my identity stripped from me. I first realised I felt like this when I started to get attention from other men I enjoyed the flirt and attention and not being just the wife and mum. I have talked to my husband about this and once we are in a better position financially I will be taking some time out to be just me. I have no friends where we live so the first thing I will be doing is starting at a local club or joining a hobby group to try and make a network of friends.
I know after talking to my husband this won't happen over night but he has made some significant changes to help such as going to stepchange. he would never have done this before I told him how I felt.
I can't say that I am now magically back in love with my husband but things are improving.

I guess what I am trying to say once you find out what part your wife is missing most from her pre marriage and mum life you can set about how to move forward.

I hope this make sense and helps in some way.

marisco_2

fatpiggy wrote: »

I suspect half the married ladies in the world feel like this. As soon as they sign the register they cease to exist as the person they once were. The they have kids and they slip even further away from their point of origin.

I would hope that no woman would feel that way. If one does then it would mean that she had fooled a guy into committing his life to her, and making the huge decision of bringing a child into the world, when her feelings for him are not what they should be.