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Neighbour and Ebay Fees owed to me.
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Kesstra
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Hi everyone, I have been a lurker for a while and decided to finally register lol Now I have something to ask advice on.
I'm sorry for long post, I'm not quite sure how to explain quickly.
My ex neighbours and I were on good terms and they lived in the building 4 years out of our 8 years there.
We often got chatting on the stairs to moan about the landlord and the dreadful maintenance issues.
Myself and partner also went upstairs a few times for tea and coffee so we have had a fairly good relationship.
A few months before we knew we would have to move, my neighbour asked me very kindly if I would mind selling his sofa. I said I didn't mind but that I'd have to look into the fees as I only know the fees for clothing and shoes etc etc but he would have to pay them and if he was happy with this I would pop it on.
We then got notice to leave our flat in March (which was very sudden ) between everything going on it took me some weeks to get the Sofa on Ebay for him. Between email and Whatssapp we have been messaging each other with details and general catch ups.
To get to the point:
He owes me £17 in fees and is ignoring me.
I emailed him several times before listing the sofa with different options and fees and he decided he would be ok with a Reserve price of £17 as he did not want to let the sofa go for less than £500. I told him he may not get that as it's an old fashioned type of sofa and non branded (though only bought 15 months ago) and if he wanted a sale he may have to go less than 500.
He was confident it would sell so agreed to the fee BUT knowing that if it did NOT sell he would still have to pay the fee.
Now my ebay fees are due and I don't have £17 to spare (low income) and that doesn't actually include the insertion fees but what's £2.50 between neighbours!!
I wrote a really polite non pushy but firm email and text and just saying really sorry the sofa didn't sell but that the fees are due and I could send him a copy of my ebay account invoice if you wanted to see the full breakdown.
I also had the sofa listed on other sites and asked him what he wanted me to do ( I tried really hard to sell it, I really did)
He text back saying he would send me a cheque in the post and to take down all the adds. Which I did and said sorry again for no luck BUT missed Gumtree by mistake.
That was 3 weeks ago.
I have since had a gumtree email from someone interested in the sofa for £300 (which is a good price to be honest)
and I text my neighbour several times to ask if he was interested and if so could he get back to me with the measurements :0) In the end I gave the buyer my neighbours email address (which was agreed I could do months ago) and a gentle reminder of the fees due.
As he is often on Whatssapp I can see when he has last been online however he does work long hours and early shifts (which often start at 5am so he goes to bed at 8pm) and has weird days off. It's just him and his wife but he has family with kids over a lot and I figured because of Ramadan they might also be extra busy or on holiday (though they are not strict and very western, they eat non halal and he swears and drinks but still..I thought I would take the time of year into consideration)
He is a very kind man but very stubborn and often, in our chats previously he point blank stated he wouldn't pay this fee or that fee in regards to our letting agent or whatever it was when I personally felt it should be despite our grumbles and went onto pay said fee.
What do I do and am I in the wrong or handling this the wrong way? Many Thanks!
EDIT I would add I am the type of person who is *very* reasonable often to my peril lol I think of every possible reason something hasn't happened or someone hasn't done something etc etc The usual *he's busy, they have been on holiday, it's not pay day, give them extra time blah blah. I am not into *playing* the victim not by a long shot - often it's me who blames me for something not happening BUT often get into tricky situations and one I don't seem to be able to learn from!
I'm sorry for long post, I'm not quite sure how to explain quickly.
My ex neighbours and I were on good terms and they lived in the building 4 years out of our 8 years there.
We often got chatting on the stairs to moan about the landlord and the dreadful maintenance issues.
Myself and partner also went upstairs a few times for tea and coffee so we have had a fairly good relationship.
A few months before we knew we would have to move, my neighbour asked me very kindly if I would mind selling his sofa. I said I didn't mind but that I'd have to look into the fees as I only know the fees for clothing and shoes etc etc but he would have to pay them and if he was happy with this I would pop it on.
We then got notice to leave our flat in March (which was very sudden ) between everything going on it took me some weeks to get the Sofa on Ebay for him. Between email and Whatssapp we have been messaging each other with details and general catch ups.
To get to the point:
He owes me £17 in fees and is ignoring me.
I emailed him several times before listing the sofa with different options and fees and he decided he would be ok with a Reserve price of £17 as he did not want to let the sofa go for less than £500. I told him he may not get that as it's an old fashioned type of sofa and non branded (though only bought 15 months ago) and if he wanted a sale he may have to go less than 500.
He was confident it would sell so agreed to the fee BUT knowing that if it did NOT sell he would still have to pay the fee.
Now my ebay fees are due and I don't have £17 to spare (low income) and that doesn't actually include the insertion fees but what's £2.50 between neighbours!!
I wrote a really polite non pushy but firm email and text and just saying really sorry the sofa didn't sell but that the fees are due and I could send him a copy of my ebay account invoice if you wanted to see the full breakdown.
I also had the sofa listed on other sites and asked him what he wanted me to do ( I tried really hard to sell it, I really did)
He text back saying he would send me a cheque in the post and to take down all the adds. Which I did and said sorry again for no luck BUT missed Gumtree by mistake.
That was 3 weeks ago.
I have since had a gumtree email from someone interested in the sofa for £300 (which is a good price to be honest)
and I text my neighbour several times to ask if he was interested and if so could he get back to me with the measurements :0) In the end I gave the buyer my neighbours email address (which was agreed I could do months ago) and a gentle reminder of the fees due.
As he is often on Whatssapp I can see when he has last been online however he does work long hours and early shifts (which often start at 5am so he goes to bed at 8pm) and has weird days off. It's just him and his wife but he has family with kids over a lot and I figured because of Ramadan they might also be extra busy or on holiday (though they are not strict and very western, they eat non halal and he swears and drinks but still..I thought I would take the time of year into consideration)
He is a very kind man but very stubborn and often, in our chats previously he point blank stated he wouldn't pay this fee or that fee in regards to our letting agent or whatever it was when I personally felt it should be despite our grumbles and went onto pay said fee.
What do I do and am I in the wrong or handling this the wrong way? Many Thanks!
EDIT I would add I am the type of person who is *very* reasonable often to my peril lol I think of every possible reason something hasn't happened or someone hasn't done something etc etc The usual *he's busy, they have been on holiday, it's not pay day, give them extra time blah blah. I am not into *playing* the victim not by a long shot - often it's me who blames me for something not happening BUT often get into tricky situations and one I don't seem to be able to learn from!
The more I live the more I am shocked by ignorance, the more I realise we as a human race are doomed because of the chains we continue to wear.
People need to open their minds to the myriad of possibilities even in traditional circumstances. If I could delete my MSE account I would.
People need to open their minds to the myriad of possibilities even in traditional circumstances. If I could delete my MSE account I would.
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Just right the loss off and put it down to experience.0
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This thread should be here. On the ebay board.
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/forumdisplay.php?f=40
Not on the marriage and relationships board.(•_•)
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This thread should be here. On the ebay board.
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/forumdisplay.php?f=40
Not on the marriage and relationships board.
yeah but the marriage & relationship board attracts a special sort of poster!2014 Target;
To overpay CC by £1,000.
Overpayment to date : £310
2nd Purse Challenge:
£15.88 saved to date0 -
I think l would write it off and never offer him any help at all again. This experience could be saving you from losing out on something bigger from him another time. Cheeky though!
Happy moneysaving all.0 -
mountainofdebt wrote: »yeah but the marriage & relationship board attracts a special sort of poster!
Yep, nearly every night. :rotfl:(•_•)
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This thread should be here. On the ebay board.
Not on the marriage and relationships board.
I did think that but this isn't about ebay, it's about my relationship with my neighbours. wasn't sure where else to put it but thanks anyway.The more I live the more I am shocked by ignorance, the more I realise we as a human race are doomed because of the chains we continue to wear.
People need to open their minds to the myriad of possibilities even in traditional circumstances. If I could delete my MSE account I would.0 -
Just right the loss off and put it down to experience.
Yes I thought so too as does my partner..but it it can turn out well as I have sold for others and it's been fine. In fact I even got a little something for doing it although I don't do things JUST for the payment. I have learnt a thing or two about doing this for other that's for sure.
Myself and partner are..very generous and I personally find it hard to say no especially when someone keeps asking me.
I wouldn't have known how to say no to my neighbour though I suppose the fact we moved should have made it easier. I could have just left it. But I didn't :rotfl:The more I live the more I am shocked by ignorance, the more I realise we as a human race are doomed because of the chains we continue to wear.
People need to open their minds to the myriad of possibilities even in traditional circumstances. If I could delete my MSE account I would.0 -
Yep, nearly every night. :rotfl:
Wow I should have stopped lurking and joined the fun a long time ago! Wooo! :beer:The more I live the more I am shocked by ignorance, the more I realise we as a human race are doomed because of the chains we continue to wear.
People need to open their minds to the myriad of possibilities even in traditional circumstances. If I could delete my MSE account I would.0 -
I think l would write it off and never offer him any help at all again. This experience could be saving you from losing out on something bigger from him another time. Cheeky though!
Yes that's true and to be honest it is cheeky given the 4 year relationship we all had and the fact I wouldn't even mind waiting if money was an issue OR even if he offered something towards the cost. OR you know, offered to take us out for a drink! :beer:
But yes lesson learned.
I know practically there isn't anything I can do but I guess I just needed to hear it from others.The more I live the more I am shocked by ignorance, the more I realise we as a human race are doomed because of the chains we continue to wear.
People need to open their minds to the myriad of possibilities even in traditional circumstances. If I could delete my MSE account I would.0 -
Yes I thought so too as does my partner..but it it can turn out well as I have sold for others and it's been fine. In fact I even got a little something for doing it although I don't do things JUST for the payment. I have learnt a thing or two about doing this for other that's for sure.
Myself and partner are..very generous and I personally find it hard to say no especially when someone keeps asking me.
I wouldn't have known how to say no to my neighbour though I suppose the fact we moved should have made it easier. I could have just left it. But I didn't :rotfl:
Sometimes, when one is nice, others misinterpret it for being soft, that can open doors to the wrong paths on how people treat you.
I understand it can be awkward saying no sometimes, but it's worth it in the long run.
A recentish example is around our area, the council had decided that green waste is to be collected with wheelie bins at a subscription of £35pa, some perhaps think they are beating the system as they can take their waste to the local recycling centre , however the way I look at it, the time taken to load the car, queue dispose and return, is costing me much more than the effective £2/collection (plus it could make me late for an appointment but that's another thread) , anyways the one neighbour hasn't taken up the offer of a wheelie bin, and after bags left out and not collected, asked if they could put it in my bin, I simply replied yes, as long as they are willing to put £17.50, they declined, but have never asked again. We still speak of course.0
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