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  • DUTR
    DUTR Posts: 12,958 Forumite
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    **Patty** wrote: »
    She wants to go on a date but for you to pay.



    I'm pleading Regional Differences :rotfl:

    Thanks Patty, I just wanted to be clear it wasn't the way women and men speak, and yes we are two counties apart, so it could be a regional thing :)
  • **Patty**
    **Patty** Posts: 1,385 Forumite
    Patty-Speak:

    Do you want to go to MSE Balti?........Lets go together & split the bill.

    Will you take me to MSE Balti?........You're paying;)


    Is that the kind of thing you meant?:D
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  • marisco_2
    marisco_2 Posts: 4,261 Forumite
    DUTR wrote: »
    This is someone that has been on my case from POF , so no I don't know them in real life.

    When I refer to someone as being on my case, it is because they have become an aggravating and unwelcome intrusion. I wouldn't be rushing to go on a date with anyone that made me feel that way.
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  • Alikay
    Alikay Posts: 5,147 Forumite
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    Perhaps she wants to feel in control of the situation, hence her asking you to go on "her" date?

    Are you sure you're not overthinking this? You're going Dutch and you've established that jumping your bones isn't on the cards, so why worry about the sentence construction of the invitation?
  • DUTR
    DUTR Posts: 12,958 Forumite
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    **Patty** wrote: »
    Patty-Speak:

    Do you want to go to MSE Balti?........Lets go together & split the bill.

    Will you take me to MSE Balti?........You're paying;)


    Is that the kind of thing you meant?:D

    Yes, yes it is heh heh , I guess that is what she means by a nice man...somebody that pays :o
  • nearlyrich
    nearlyrich Posts: 13,698 Forumite
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    Sounds complicated I am a great believer in speaking in simple terms and making sure there are no misunderstandings. As almost Saga age she may just be using the old fashioned terminology for dating which used to involve men inviting women out...My advice just tell her you will meet her but she need to bring her purse...
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  • DUTR
    DUTR Posts: 12,958 Forumite
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    marisco wrote: »
    When I refer to someone as being on my case, it is because they have become an aggravating and unwelcome intrusion. I wouldn't be rushing to go on a date with anyone that made me feel that way.

    There is no rush Marisco, she 1st made contact in January (had no profile pic initially) and mms a pic with about 6 ladies on there, so I didn't bother to reply, then months later she messaged again from a new account with a pic on there, when I suggested she send a clearer pic, that is when I realised it was the same person as the number was in my phone.
    As replied to Patty though, it's not a case of I cannot afford to take someone on a date.
  • DUTR
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    nearlyrich wrote: »
    Sounds complicated I am a great believer in speaking in simple terms and making sure there are no misunderstandings. As almost Saga age she may just be using the old fashioned terminology for dating which used to involve men inviting women out...My advice just tell her you will meet her but she need to bring her purse...

    I did and have, that is when she was on the defensive of " I have my own money" , PS I'm the one almost of saga age, she is in her 50s :o
  • krlyr
    krlyr Posts: 5,993 Forumite
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    Are you interested in going on a date with her? If not, does it really matter what she's trying to say and how she says it?
  • Valli
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    Well, if you're happy to go on a 'dutch' basis tell her so.
    If she REALLY wants to meet you she'll be happy to pay up - if not then you know where you stand!
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