New job working full time! How do I fit everything in?

duchy

trailingspouse wrote: »

Stop seeing yourself as the one who does it all, and start seeing yourself as the one who organises it all instead.

Best advice of the thread :T

lindsaygalaxy

Repeat these words - I will not feel guilty.

When you work full time there is always this sense of guilt when it comes to the house even when there are other people in the house who are also capable of doing stuff! I also work term-time and this is what I do -

- Leave all big jobs to the holidays. Yes it builds up but life goes on.
- Food shopping online and get it delivered.
- Get everything ready the night before and leave by the door.
- Give everyone at least 1 standard daily job to there can be no arguments e.g. dishwasher, lay the table, clear up after dinner. You will no doubt end up cooking as you finish earlier
- Put a load of washing on daily/ every other day
- If you are working more and can afford it make friday ir saturday night take-away/ meal out

Oh, and congratualtions Be excited about your new job and enjoy it. Now is your time, the 3 other members of your house can help you out like youhave for them.

missbiggles1

If you've now got more money coming in get a cleaner once a week.

Gigervamp

Make sure things like packed lunches and school things are made and ready the night before.

Your eldest could be in charge of making breakfast for himself and brother.

Meal planning will help as you will know what you need to get out of freezer and will save you from getting in from work and wondering what to cook for dinner.

At the weekends, you could do some batch cooking. This can be turned into a family activity which will teach them how to cook. The eldest could peel and chop, for instance. The youngest might like to help with sorting out the ingredients. One of my sons, at the age of about 7 used to love washing the dishes. He made a mess with the bubbles and water sloshing all over the place, but that was easily cleaned up. He's not so keen now though!

You do need to get your husband to help out though. He can help with putting the washing on, getting the children ready for bed etc.

If you iron clothes, only do things like shirts and trousers. Jeans and t-shirts, bedding etc don't need it. Just make sure you take them out of the machine as soon as it's finished and give them a good shake.

Morglin

meema4788 wrote: »

I have finally found myself the most fantastic job, it's what I've been waiting for for years! The only downside is it's full time - the upside is it's term time only! For the last 11 years I have worked part time and always had time to do stuffs what's worrying me is how I'm going to fit all my housework, cooking, being a mum to 2 fab boys, a good wife and everything else in.

I'm worrying that I won't be able to be as good at home any more because I want have the same time!

Any advice/suggestions that could help me to have my cake and eat it ie be a good mum/wife and do my fab job would be fab!

I'm not that good at routines etc at home I just have always done things as I've thought they need doing. Would love to know how other mums manage, I'm not the first or the last to come across this situation I'm sure! Xxx

Set a routine, of what has to be done, when you are working, then catch up with the major stuff, when not at work.

Working full time is exhausting, at times, but a routine makes it manageable.

Lin

Curlywurli

I went from part time to full time and it's the best thing I ever did. I only work term time and my children are at school. I make sure that we're organised for the next day and put everything by the front door to make sure that we don't forget anything. We make packed lunches the night before. We do clothes washing everyday to make sure that their uniform is clean. We try to get everything else done when we can.

missbiggles1

Gigervamp wrote: »

Make sure things like packed lunches and school things are made and ready the night before.

Your eldest could be in charge of making breakfast for himself and brother.

Meal planning will help as you will know what you need to get out of freezer and will save you from getting in from work and wondering what to cook for dinner.

At the weekends, you could do some batch cooking. This can be turned into a family activity which will teach them how to cook. The eldest could peel and chop, for instance. The youngest might like to help with sorting out the ingredients. One of my sons, at the age of about 7 used to love washing the dishes. He made a mess with the bubbles and water sloshing all over the place, but that was easily cleaned up. He's not so keen now though!

You do need to get your husband to help out though. He can help with putting the washing on, getting the children ready for bed etc.

If you iron clothes, only do things like shirts and trousers. Jeans and t-shirts, bedding etc don't need it. Just make sure you take them out of the machine as soon as it's finished and give them a good shake.

Why would her husband need to "help" the OP as opposed to just doing his share? Now they're both working full time, the housework and the children are an equal responsibility between the couple, not her work.

Gigervamp

It was a turn of phrase.

If you look at my first post on this thread, you'll see I said that the housework should be shared and not all op's responsibility.

missbiggles1

Gigervamp wrote: »

It was a turn of phrase.

If you look at my first post on this thread, you'll see I said that the housework should be shared and not all op's responsibility.

Turns of phrase frequently represent attitudes of mind, so best avoided if they don't mean what you actually think.:)

Gigervamp

Look, I'm ill and suffering from lack of sleep. Please stop being pedantic.