Boyfriend Woes

Bargain_Bette

I just dont know when he would be cheating on me, if you mean sleeping with someone else. I see him every night. He's quite sensitive and I don't think he'd be able to hide it well at all, hes a terrible lier.

dandelionclock30

Hes not that sensitive towards you if hes doing this though is he? Any adult would realize that this would cause their partner upset dont you think? Unless he thinks of you as friends or that your just a casual thing.

Morglin

fufu_banterwaite wrote: »

Is he REALLY good looking? Ie like the Fonz?

I just loved the Fonz lol

Lin

Bargain_Bette

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

Hes not that sensitive towards you if hes doing this though is he? Any adult would realize that this would cause their partner upset dont you think? Unless he thinks of you as friends or that your just a casual thing.

We've been together for 18 months and we are going to NZ for 3 weeks in Feb for a wedding, i don't think he could think we are casual. He talks that he hopes im in his future.

dandelionclock30

Well if he was committed to you then he wouldnt be hurting you by doing this.Hes obviously not too bothered really because otherwize he wouldnt do it. You sound unhappy about it can you talk to him about it?

Bargain_Bette

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

Well if he was committed to you then he wouldnt be hurting you by doing this.Hes obviously not too bothered really because otherwize he wouldnt do it. You sound unhappy about it can you talk to him about it?

I don't know how to bring it up without him thinking i've been spying on him! ive bought it up before, like 3 weeks ago as i was with him when he got a message, but he was in the shower last night and i saw one and didnt want to say anything as i didnt want him to think im snooping

hieveryone

Bargain_Bette wrote: »

I don't know how to bring it up without him thinking i've been spying on him! ive bought it up before, like 3 weeks ago as i was with him when he got a message, but he was in the shower last night and i saw one and didnt want to say anything as i didnt want him to think im snooping

To me it sounds like you are scared of losing him. If this happened to me I wouldn't give a flying fig if he thought I had snooped on him :rotfl:

dandelionclock30

Just ask him outright, why are you messaging other girls and giving out your number when you are going out with me? I honestly think he not that bothered about you I'm sorry to say because if he was then this attention would be focussed on you not upon girls he meets when out.
Dont be bothered about what he thinks.
I know its horrible when you realize that someone is just not that bothered. It sounds like he taking you for a fool.

Bargain_Bette

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

Just ask him outright, why are you messaging other girls and giving out your number when you are going out with me? I honestly think he not that bothered about you I'm sorry to say because if he was then this attention would be focussed on you not upon girls he meets when out.
Dont be bothered about what he thinks.
I know its horrible when to realize that someone is just not that bothered. It sounds like he taking you for a fool.

I'm not worried if he's not bothered with me. I just need him to tell me the truth so we don't waste each others time. Of course that will be upsetting as I love him very much but, I'm sure i will survive.

FBaby

Then just say nothing but starting looking for signs, him suddenly disappearing, being over protective of his phone, saying he is going out with friends, but when you suggest you join him, he makes excuses etc...

That's the only way if you are not prepared to tell him that you've been snooping.