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Separated but living in the same house
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living together in this manner will not work. Best to sort it now.Feudal Britain needs land reform. 70% of the land is "owned" by 1 % of the population and at least 50% is unregistered (inherited by landed gentry). Thats why your slave box costs so much..0
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bargainbird wrote: »He's a bit old for bringing mates back and watching football etc
[/B]Overnight guests won't happen there are children in the house
How would you prevent it if he forms a relationship?
If he were to say ........ It's my home too.and I'm doing it".........there would be nothing you could do.
He's already refusing to pay his fair share .......once he regards himself as single can you honestly see him becoming more reasonable rather than less?I Would Rather Climb A Mountain Than Crawl Into A Hole
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i really feel for you OP this is an awful situation to be in.
is he paying you child support? if not he should be.
he cant have his cake and eat it!!
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The OP said that her husband is paying for half of the household bills and 67% of the children's expenses, and the OP also gets the CB and tax credits.i really feel for you OP this is an awful situation to be in.
is he paying you child support? if not he should be.
he cant have his cake and eat it!!
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PenguinJim wrote: »What a monster.
Why? He's their father. Whys shouldn't he see them grow up? The parents are providing half each and it seems to me that they are behaving in a very civilised manner.
I'm sure if and when one of them gets into another relationship, they will make appropriate arrangements. It's not compulsory to bring your sleeping partner to the house where your children are, however common it might be.(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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seven-day-weekend wrote: »Why? He's their father. Whys shouldn't he see them grow up? The parents are providing half each and it seems to me that they are behaving in a very civilised manner.
I'm sure if and when one of them gets into another relationship, they will make appropriate arrangements. It's not compulsory to bring your sleeping partner to the house where your children are, however common it might be.
I agree with the above, but why seek further income via benefits when they won't have additional costs? I live with my ex for 12 months separated under the same roof and as much as we made arrangements in regards to who had which room, who looked after the children and when, we agreed on who was going to pay what and when very much like we did when we were a couple.
It sounds to me like such couples want their cake and eat it, remain together because it suits them, but then claim benefits despite not being in need of the additional income.0 -
seven-day-weekend wrote: »Why? He's their father. Whys shouldn't he see them grow up? The parents are providing half each and it seems to me that they are behaving in a very civilised manner.
I was joking.
I couldn't be sure, but the 
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was to mean hopefully it will work You know your getting old when yougo to the pub sit outsideand admire the hanging basket :cool:
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I'm sorry, that was just my interpretation of the! As seven-day-weekend says, it sounds like you're approaching this in a civilised manner, and while others say it's unlikely to work, it sounds to me like you've got a better chance than most. Q: What kind of discussions aren't allowed?
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I can't think of anything less civilised than two parents sharing the same house and cooking separate meals, buying their own food, doing their own washing, barely speaking to each other etc. What does this teach offspring about family life?.................
....I'm smiling because I have no idea what's going on ...:)0
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