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Separated but living in the same house

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  • moomoomama27
    moomoomama27 Posts: 3,823 Forumite
    I think you be considered as living together therefore the household income would be taken into account for benefit purposes. This, you would need proper advice on, as I'm not sure how you could prove it wasn't just a scam?
  • AlexLK
    AlexLK Posts: 6,125 Forumite
    Debt-free and Proud!
    Surely they both have an equal responsibility to the household expenses (which includes costs associated with having children)? Sorry for my harsh post but I'm fed up of women thinking it is perfectly reasonable to split from the father of their children without a plan to stand on their own two feet and then expect the state to pick up the bill.
    2018 totals:
    Savings £11,200
    Mortgage Overpayments £5,500
  • bargainbird
    bargainbird Posts: 3,771 Forumite
    Hi thanks for you comments,
    It is a rented housing !!! property
    All bills split 50/50, he buys his and 2 kids food clothes etc I buy mine and the eldest food clothing etc
    He wants to stay to see them grow up :/ and won't move out

    I personally don't think I would be able to çlaim but hhought I'd ask the question, will just find more work
    You know your getting old when you
    go to the pub sit outside
    and admire the hanging basket :cool:
    Is officially 48% tight :D
  • marisco_2
    marisco_2 Posts: 4,261 Forumite
    Hi OP, I would recommend you go along to the CAB. Explain your full circumstances to them, and a trained advisor will be happy to recommend the best way forward for yourself and your family.
    The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own, no apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.
  • moomoomama27
    moomoomama27 Posts: 3,823 Forumite
    bargainbird wrote: »
    Hi thanks for you comments,
    It is a rented housing !!! property
    All bills split 50/50, he buys his and 2 kids food clothes etc I buy mine and the eldest food clothing etc
    He wants to stay to see them grow up :/ and won't move out

    I personally don't think I would be able to çlaim but hhought I'd ask the question, will just find more work

    I really would advise that you go to citizens advice and ask, because you never know.
  • moomoomama27
    moomoomama27 Posts: 3,823 Forumite
    AlexLK wrote: »
    Surely they both have an equal responsibility to the household expenses (which includes costs associated with having children)? Sorry for my harsh post but I'm fed up of women thinking it is perfectly reasonable to split from the father of their children without a plan to stand on their own two feet and then expect the state to pick up the bill.

    I didn't see anything from the OP that stated any of that! Perhaps it was a mutual decision to separate, perhaps there's reasons for this decision that are none of our business! The OP didn't ask to be judged, she asked a question. If you have no advise that may help other than get a job then perhaps it would be kinder to not post?
  • C_Mababejive
    C_Mababejive Posts: 11,668 Forumite
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    bargainbird wrote: »
    Hi thanks for you comments,
    It is a rented housing !!! property
    All bills split 50/50, he buys his and 2 kids food clothes etc I buy mine and the eldest food clothing etc
    He wants to stay to see them grow up :/ and won't move out

    I personally don't think I would be able to çlaim but hhought I'd ask the question, will just find more work

    So how will it be if either of you meets someone else?
    Feudal Britain needs land reform. 70% of the land is "owned" by 1 % of the population and at least 50% is unregistered (inherited by landed gentry). Thats why your slave box costs so much..
  • bargainbird
    bargainbird Posts: 3,771 Forumite
    Who knows cross that bridge and all that, Tbh I'm a bit done with whole men thing :/
    You know your getting old when you
    go to the pub sit outside
    and admire the hanging basket :cool:
    Is officially 48% tight :D
  • C_Mababejive
    C_Mababejive Posts: 11,668 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper Combo Breaker
    bargainbird wrote: »
    Who knows cross that bridge and all that, Tbh I'm a bit done with whole men thing :/
    Well never say never, it may seem a bit cloudy now but the sun may come out later :)
    Feudal Britain needs land reform. 70% of the land is "owned" by 1 % of the population and at least 50% is unregistered (inherited by landed gentry). Thats why your slave box costs so much..
  • PenguinJim
    PenguinJim Posts: 844 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    bargainbird wrote: »
    He wants to stay to see them grow up :/ and won't move out
    What a monster.
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