Baptism meeting with father

pickledonionspaceraider

Free_Spirit_31 wrote: »

I notice that it is a bit of a trend where parents go through these religious ceremonies so that the kids will be admitted into 'decent' schools

THAT happened to me. I was baptised as an older child, to get me into a supposedly 'decent' school.

I wouldn't have chosen it then or now. Plus the fact that religion was constantly pushed down our throats in school hours, mass instead of maths lessons - really wasn't a better educational experience at all

My parents were obviously doing what they thought was best though and I cant blame them for that

Conrad

I didn't make my kids into Lib Dems or Communists, just as I didn't sign them up to a desert tribe religion (there were many) bought here by force by the Romans that made Britons ditch their true far older spiritual culture.

tea_lover

TBagpuss wrote: »

In the Cof E ceremony you promise (on the child's behalf) to reject the devil,(at least for now - they are changing that bit) and to sumbmit to Christ, but there is no formal promise about practices of the faith , although there are prayers about the 'christian community' so it would be perfectly possible to chose to have your children baptised in the CofE even if your faith does not include attending church on a regular basis.

The wording about rejecting the devil was a trial in some churches, it's unlikely to be changed everywhere. The alternative used still involves the parents and godparents explicitly rejecting evil.

ETA: the C of E services includes the phrases "draw them by your example into the community of faith", "help them to take their place within the life and worship of Christ's church"

amus

Free_Spirit_31 wrote: »

I notice that it is a bit of a trend where parents go through these religious ceremonies so that the kids will be admitted into 'decent' schools

Yeah a shame religion is over-represented so much in our education system, and that schools are allowed to discriminate on the basis of faith, encouraging parents to 'fake' faith in order to guarantee their child entry into a taxpayer funded school.

amus

fraz_babe wrote: »

Hi I was wondering if anyone could help me please I have a meeting with the father at my local church on Saturday because my children are getting christened in August.

I was wondering if anyone knew what type of questions he will ask? Just as I'm really nervous.

Thanks x

If it's anything like mine a lot of inappropriate and intrusive questions like, are you married (and if not what is the state of your 'physical relations'), where do you work etc.

Tiddlywinks

amus wrote: »

If it's anything like mine a lot of inappropriate and intrusive questions like, are you married (and if not what is the state of your 'physical relations'), where do you work etc.

They're not inappropriate if you share that belief system... The one that promotes marriage as a secure home for children, monogamy etc.

amus

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

They're not inappropriate if you share that belief system... The one that promotes marriage as a secure home for children, monogamy etc.

Perhaps not but personally I found a 60 year old bloke asking me whether I was having sex with my partner or not quite pervy.

Mrs_Soup

The only questions I remember from the meeting with the vicar (who is known as Father in our particualr C of E church) were about names of parents, child and godparents and to confirm the preferred date. Ours takes a pragmatic view that it doesn't do any harm and gets the child "off to a good start" whatever they end up belieiving. He will also allow a variety of faiths among the godparents.

Goldiegirl

amus wrote: »

Perhaps not but personally I found a 60 year old bloke asking me whether I was having sex with my partner or not quite pervy.

If you wanted have your child baptised, it would have been fairly obvious that you'd had sex at least once with the baby's father.

notanewuser

Mrs_Soup wrote: »

The only questions I remember from the meeting with the vicar (who is known as Father in our particualr C of E church) were about names of parents, child and godparents and to confirm the preferred date. Ours takes a pragmatic view that it doesn't do any harm and gets the child "off to a good start" whatever they end up belieiving. He will also allow a variety of faiths among the godparents.

He sounds like a complete idiot. A) his view is in no way pragmatic, it can indeed harm and C) it makes no difference to the child's "start" whatsoever!!!