Money back for wedding dress

summerspring

thorsoak wrote: »

You might it wonderful to hand on your dress to a future daughter ....but a daughter might not want today's fashion! In the 60's I could have worn my mum's dress from the 30s (would have fitted into it) but chose not to - and in the 90s my Dd decided that she too wanted something different . So now we have dresses covering 3 different decades ....wonder if any of the Dgds will fancy any of them ?

My cousin was offered her mother's wedding dress, which had been sitting in the attic since the 60s. She declined it, in favour of getting her own. If it's your own special day you're likely to want your own dress, I'd think.

Lily-Rose_3

ska_lover wrote: »

Judging from the bitterness oozing from this post, were you one of them?

What a moronic response. It's obvious from my posts that I am against spending stupid amounts of money on weddings, so why the HELL would I be 'one of them,' (ie; one that spends a lot on weddings, and has lost a lot on deposits.) Your post makes no sense at all.

And the fact that I have been married ONCE and still am after 23 years, and had ONE wedding that cost £800, means that you AND all the usernames who felt the need to 'thank' your pathetic post, look a bit silly.

And why is it that every time someone says anything negative about something; something they're against, people come up with that old chestnut 'you're obviously bitter.' If someone says spending £10,000 on an engagement ring is a waste of money, mine only cost £350,' it's because you're 'bitter.' Or if someone says they rent and wouldn't buy a home these days as they would class it as a massive ball and chain, someone says 'you sound bitter.' Or if someone says 'my wedding cost £1000, spending £20,000 is ridiculous,' they are called 'bitter!'

We live in a 2 bed detached bungalow, that has a tenancy for life, on the edges of a small town near woodlands and the river, the rent is £70 a week, and all repairs are done. I am middle aged, and never have to work a day in my life again if I don't want to, as I took early retirement. I have a beautiful daughter who is 19, who is at university, I go abroad every year, and have visited over 30 countries in my life, I have lots of great friends, a lovely family, an active social life, and a husband who adores me.

Now tell me, what the HELL have I got to be bitter about?

I think this is the only thing anyone can think of to say, when they have no other argument. Bit pathetic really.

And knock yourself out with all the b1tchy and spiteful remarks that are going to ensue, I couldn't give a rats! I'm off to pack for our summer holiday in Italy! :dance:

stir_crazy

Flumina wrote: »

Is the OP ever going to return, do you think :rotfl:

No, because sadly the thread was derailed on the 5th post.

If the OP is still reading, I would try and recoup some of the costs by selling on sites such as Preloved, etc, and then asking the son to stump up the rest.

Gavin83

In really don't think she has any right to ask for the money from her son, it was given as a gift. I think the OP has as much right to ask her son to pay for the dress as the son has to ask for the ring back.

I can understand she may see it as a waste but she wouldn't have got the money back had the wedding happened. If it was conditional she shouldn't have offered in the first place.

I'm also amazed she would have rather her son got married and been unhappy just to feel she was getting value for money.

stir_crazy

I dont believe the OP said she would rather her son got married. She called him a ratbag, which could be for any number of reasons. I doubt though that a parent would call out their child for not going through with a wedding where they would be unhappy.

And yes, I agree, she wouldn't have got the money back had the wedding happened. But at the same time I feel that she has the right to ask for the money back from her son as his actions (whatever they were) have caused the wedding to be called off and now the OP is stuck with a wedding dress which is not going to be worn.

lostinrates

thorsoak wrote: »

You might it wonderful to hand on your dress to a future daughter ....but a daughter might not want today's fashion! In the 60's I could have worn my mum's dress from the 30s (would have fitted into it) but chose not to - and in the 90s my Dd decided that she too wanted something different . So now we have dresses covering 3 different decades ....wonder if any of the Dgds will fancy any of them ?

My mother wore an Edwardian dress , and I wore part of it when I married. So that one had a few outings. I've worn it to other things too:o, ( the bit I didn't wear to my wedding.... I wore a modern dress to the wedding and the stole from the Edwardian dress)

Morglin

Mylo_The_Moggy wrote: »

I never thought that when I hired my dress anyway, was just making a point that sometimes hiring can be less stressful & easy on the wedding funds. It worked out better for me as we didn't have thousands to spend on our wedding! Never once crossed my mind that I "should hire just incase our wedding doesn't go ahead".
It was my choice to hire.

I'm with you, where the fancy wedding dresses are concerned, as my daughter wanted some mad priced dress, and ended up hiring it, as it's just cluttering up space to keep a dress like that (as fashions change with each generation).

I bought her veil, headress and shoes, as a keepsake, but that was it.

She got a wonderful dress hiring it, at a fraction of what it would cost to buy.

I opted, both times, at my weddings, for just a simple long dress, so I bought them, but there is no way I would have paid hundreds of pounds for something you wear once, which goes yellow, and which the next generation won't want to wear!

Lin

themull1

I got my whole wedding second hand off ebay, my dress only cost £75, if i had been new it was £1150. When i can be bothered i will sell everything i bought for the wedding, and recoup some of the costs.

Marmite27

I got married in March. My brand new designer original dress rrp four figures was £175 from a wedding fair. Right place, right time (no alterations either, it was like it was made for me).

I'm £20 up on the lady who hired 10 years ago and still have my dress.

Sadly for the purchaser of this dress, you may recoup a small amount, but no where near the price you paid. There are hundreds of dresses out there, it's a buyers market.

Mine was bought by a lady who owned a bridal shop for her daughter, who didn't like it when it arrived. But couldn't sell it in her shop as she had an exclusive deal with the designers main rival that banned her from selling theirs!

duchy

You really talk a lot of rubbish.

Some people have plenty of disposable income and spend it what you would deem as wisely and others don't. To claim everyone who spends thousands on holidays or weddings must be putting it on credit is just plain stupid. Some people might others won't. YOU may only know people who do but that is more about your personal demographic than anything else.

As for the OP She should be getting her son to pay her back.

Lily-Rose wrote: »

So now the people who spend stupid amounts on holidays and excessive amounts on wedding dresses and engagement rings and honeymoons and so on, are doing it because they work harder than people who choose to not spend their money on such things?

Oh please!!! :rotfl: You should be on stage. You're hilarious!!!

It's a well known fact that most people who spend stupid amounts on showy things are just massively in debt and have maxed out all their credit cards.

Just because someone spends multiple 1000s on things, doesn't mean they 'work harder' it just means they have more money than sense!

People who spend little, do so, because they are not trying to prove anything, and are not trying to be something they're not.