Strange undies found!

Confusedandneedhelp

lotty41 wrote: »

You know what confusedandneedhelp I hope you really have a happy life and do not have to experience any real trauma in your life, maybe you have, if so then I apologise.

You strike me as someone that thinks 'Jimmy Savile ' is innocent! That is a strong comment to make I know, but before you judge other people, especially people you do not know then you should seal those lips of yours.
Wondering why Savile springs to my mind, well give that one some thought.

But let me tell you, my life experiences have taught me a great deal, one of the most important things I've learnt is never to Judge anyone only yourself! You never know what kind of life someone has had.

I am a strong person, just because I have trust issues doesn't make me mental and weak!

I cant believe a pair of knickers (mine or not) has caused such a reaction.

I'm just disappointed that something that is important to me has been taken as some kind of joke and being called a troll.

Have a good day all.

As for relationships, I will never ever let anyone mistreat me again

1: i didnt call you a troll, i actually said i dont think you are one!
2: get over yourself, everyone has suffered in life. I've had my fair share, and asi i explained, i got past it with help.
3: I couldnt care less what i strike you as. You came here asking for help. Were offered the softly softly approach, that didnt work. So i gave you some cold hard facts, which might be wrong, or u might be choosing to ignore.
4: Again, im free to judge who i like, when i like, and may change my judgment based on experience. Whatever life you've had, you cannot change. What you can change is your present and thereby your future. If you choose to live in the past, and mope and whinge and use bad experiences as a crutch, then you are not strong. You are wek willed.
5: I didnt say you were mental, i said you may have mental health problems. If you broke your leg, youd go to hospital. So if your brain isnt working properly, why would you not go and get help?
6:Its nothing to do with the knickers. Its your attitude to your OH and how he owes you an explanation for: checking his email on his phone, not having a coffee and a cigerette, etc etc. (im sure there more you havent shared).
7: Thats the problem, its not your relationship that's important to you. Its you looking for signs your partner has strayed. Hence my earlier comment, you are not ready for this relationship.

clarryd

I think they are your undies.

If you are anything like me they will have a bra to match and then you will know they are yours. If they are just an extra pair that you would wear with a certain pair of trousers, skirt etc then that could be plausible.

Give your man a break I think they are yours, and if not you will soon find out as these things have a habit of coming out, he knows you know now so just stay cool and see what progresses.

Good luck.

BrassicWoman

Confusedandneedhelp wrote: »

Ur an idiot.

We resolved the issues, then decided to move in together.
Ask your GP, if you think materialistic expansion will solve your issues, then good luck.

I'll judge whoever i like, whenever i like, because i can.

Oh dear, CaNH. This sounds like you haven;t listened to anyone;s advice about time apart for you and your ex.

Not sure you are in a position to be judging other people atm!

However; good luck!

pelirocco

lotty41 wrote: »

Hoping this is appropriate for this site.Really dont know where to go with this one but would like some opinions please, this is driving me insane.

So I go away for one night. The morning after I came home I changed the bed linen. I pulled out the duvet from its cover (sheet still on at this point) I threw it on the floor. I then started to button up the duvet cover before putting it in the washing mashine. As I was doing this I discovered a pair of ladies undies in the bed, my immediate reaction was OMG!! as I didn't think they belonged to me.

So there is only 2 different reasons why they would appear. First is that they got tangled up in the duvet cover in the washing machine and 2nd someone else has been in my bed!!

If I was to go with the 1st reason then they must have been in the duvet cover for a very long time for me not to remember them and why would they appear after Ive been away for a night. I have used this duvet cover many times before and they haven't fallen out before.

Now is this just bad timing, could they have been stuck in there for so long, I would estimate at least over 6 months!

Shoud I give him the benefit of the doubt!!

Have no other evidence of cheating but I can hear people saying how much evidence do you need!!

Could be a huge coincidence right???

does that mean you havent changed the bed in over 6 months ? if so i doubt anyone else would want to be in tha bed;)

Confusedandneedhelp

BrassicWoman wrote: »

Oh dear, CaNH. This sounds like you haven;t listened to anyone;s advice about time apart for you and your ex.

Not sure you are in a position to be judging other people atm!

However; good luck!

Dont worry i have. Will update my thread later. As im not hijacking.

lotty41

Pelirocco..........view other posts, sorry but I've explained to many times now.

Im sure everyone is bored with this now.

Money_maker

Goodness, haven't things heated up on here.

For the record, I could easily recognise every pair of knickers I've ever worn in my adult life which goes back over 20 years. Surely if you had a pair in black with roses on it, you might remember buying them? Were they bought singly to match a bra or part of a set? Why would you buy such an unusual design? You would definately recognise them if they were yours, regardless of how many pairs you owned.

If they had been stuck in the cover (cough, unbelievable) then they would have been washed and dried many times probably rendering them very screwed up and creased.

I don't think it was the cat or bird either!

I call your OH is a cheat and I would definately be in the bins whatever anyone else thought.

lotty41

Money Maker, this is what I thought...... haven't got a bra to match, they are the lacy type that wouldn't get creased no matter how much they were screwed up.
I've always said I would know my undies from years!
The timing just stinks.

I'm find it difficult to believe he has cheated but finding it difficult to believe he hasn't.
Its the label also that confusing me, I do cut mine out but I'm 99.9% sure I would know if they were mine.

Sorry everyone, I know I'm repeating myself, just responding to new posts.

jozxyqk

The simplest explanation is usually correct.

They're in your size. The label's been removed which is something you do.

They're yours. The timing is probably a coincidence.

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Watto30

Op if this is any help to you I found a pair of knickers a while ago that at first glance thought hang on these are not mine! but of course they were because they were in my underwear section of wardrobe and after 2 mins of scratching my head I though they def must be mine as same size etc, like you I own many many pairs and cannot remember buying every single pair, I tend to buy a lot of multi pack ones too and dont religiously study each pair so it could well be that they are yours but you have not seen them for a while and maybe only worn them once or the likes so can't remember them off the top of your head.



I totally get where you are coming from as had several cheats in my past and no matter what anyone says it does make you wary etc but it could well be that you OH is innocent and that these are an old pair you have not seen for a long time. I hope things get resolved and you can move on


Years ago I went away for a weekend and when I got home my ex was acting odd, he had washed the bedsheets (something he never did) and at the time I thought it was very odd behaviour, his response was that he had wanted the house looking nice for me coming home...he had hoovered etc too..again something he never did. I never did find out if he had anyone round but he turned out to be a lying cheat git so my guess is that he did.


If your oh had been up to no good then I guess he would either be acting suspiciously or would have washed the sheets etc, has his behaviour been normal since?