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Fencing/neighbours kids
vroombroom
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Hello:D
Our garden backs onto three other gardens. The garden directly at the back is owned by a family with two kids (around 5 and 6ish).
We have a 3ft wall with a large fence posts on it with gaps of about an inch between. My little boy likes to climb on the wall, sit on it and talk to the other little boy through the fence panel. We supervise, their parents' don't.
The last few days the little boy has been asking my son for his toys (which obviously don't fit through the gap), asking my son to get biscuits (and then throwing a fit as we don't have them and don't eat them!), asking for chocolate/sweets/drinks etc and then shouting at my son when he doesn't return with them (who has just turned 3).
On Friday he grabbed my son's fingers and tried to pull his hand through the gap, leaving our boy with scrapes on his fingers.
The mother came out and apologised when she heard the crying from my son.
On Saturday, whilst in the garden, the other little boy called him over. Within seconds of going over our boy was screaming, hysterical screaming. We ran over the see the little boy had sprayed bleach - yes BLEACH - in our son's eyes. Luckily it wasn't a lot - thank god - and he was ok.
The father came out a short time later apologising, after his kid went in and told him what he had done. My OH said he needs to supervise his kids and the father was like, well, they're in the garden, what can they do? Um.....get hold of a bleach spray and spray it in someone's face?
Anyway the kids have been in their garden yesterday and in the last hour or so and my son is desperate to go and talk to them. Obviously I don't want him to and we're doing indoor activities. The only way I can think to discourage this is to put bamboo fencing of some sort to block the kids' view into our garden.
Any other ideas/opinions? x
Our garden backs onto three other gardens. The garden directly at the back is owned by a family with two kids (around 5 and 6ish).
We have a 3ft wall with a large fence posts on it with gaps of about an inch between. My little boy likes to climb on the wall, sit on it and talk to the other little boy through the fence panel. We supervise, their parents' don't.
The last few days the little boy has been asking my son for his toys (which obviously don't fit through the gap), asking my son to get biscuits (and then throwing a fit as we don't have them and don't eat them!), asking for chocolate/sweets/drinks etc and then shouting at my son when he doesn't return with them (who has just turned 3).
On Friday he grabbed my son's fingers and tried to pull his hand through the gap, leaving our boy with scrapes on his fingers.
The mother came out and apologised when she heard the crying from my son.
On Saturday, whilst in the garden, the other little boy called him over. Within seconds of going over our boy was screaming, hysterical screaming. We ran over the see the little boy had sprayed bleach - yes BLEACH - in our son's eyes. Luckily it wasn't a lot - thank god - and he was ok.
The father came out a short time later apologising, after his kid went in and told him what he had done. My OH said he needs to supervise his kids and the father was like, well, they're in the garden, what can they do? Um.....get hold of a bleach spray and spray it in someone's face?
Anyway the kids have been in their garden yesterday and in the last hour or so and my son is desperate to go and talk to them. Obviously I don't want him to and we're doing indoor activities. The only way I can think to discourage this is to put bamboo fencing of some sort to block the kids' view into our garden.
Any other ideas/opinions? x
:j:jOur gorgeous baby boy born 2nd May 2011 - 12 days overdue!!:j:j
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vroombroom wrote: »Hello:D
Our garden backs onto three other gardens. The garden directly at the back is owned by a family with two kids (around 5 and 6ish).
We have a 3ft wall with a large fence posts on it with gaps of about an inch between. My little boy likes to climb on the wall, sit on it and talk to the other little boy through the fence panel. We supervise, their parents' don't.
The last few days the little boy has been asking my son for his toys (which obviously don't fit through the gap), asking my son to get biscuits (and then throwing a fit as we don't have them and don't eat them!), asking for chocolate/sweets/drinks etc and then shouting at my son when he doesn't return with them (who has just turned 3).
On Friday he grabbed my son's fingers and tried to pull his hand through the gap, leaving our boy with scrapes on his fingers.
The mother came out and apologised when she heard the crying from my son.
On Saturday, whilst in the garden, the other little boy called him over. Within seconds of going over our boy was screaming, hysterical screaming. We ran over the see the little boy had sprayed bleach - yes BLEACH - in our son's eyes. Luckily it wasn't a lot - thank god - and he was ok.
The father came out a short time later apologising, after his kid went in and told him what he had done. My OH said he needs to supervise his kids and the father was like, well, they're in the garden, what can they do? Um.....get hold of a bleach spray and spray it in someone's face?
Anyway the kids have been in their garden yesterday and in the last hour or so and my son is desperate to go and talk to them. Obviously I don't want him to and we're doing indoor activities. The only way I can think to discourage this is to put bamboo fencing of some sort to block the kids' view into our garden.
Any other ideas/opinions? x
1: report them to social services a 5 and 6 year old shouldnt have access to bleach!
2: put up a fence like you've said, its the best solution.0 -
vroombroom wrote: »Hello:D
Our garden backs onto three other gardens. The garden directly at the back is owned by a family with two kids (around 5 and 6ish).
We have a 3ft wall with a large fence posts on it with gaps of about an inch between. My little boy likes to climb on the wall, sit on it and talk to the other little boy through the fence panel. We supervise, their parents' don't.
The last few days the little boy has been asking my son for his toys (which obviously don't fit through the gap), asking my son to get biscuits (and then throwing a fit as we don't have them and don't eat them!), asking for chocolate/sweets/drinks etc and then shouting at my son when he doesn't return with them (who has just turned 3).
On Friday he grabbed my son's fingers and tried to pull his hand through the gap, leaving our boy with scrapes on his fingers.
The mother came out and apologised when she heard the crying from my son.
On Saturday, whilst in the garden, the other little boy called him over. Within seconds of going over our boy was screaming, hysterical screaming. We ran over the see the little boy had sprayed bleach - yes BLEACH - in our son's eyes. Luckily it wasn't a lot - thank god - and he was ok.
The father came out a short time later apologising, after his kid went in and told him what he had done. My OH said he needs to supervise his kids and the father was like, well, they're in the garden, what can they do? Um.....get hold of a bleach spray and spray it in someone's face?
Anyway the kids have been in their garden yesterday and in the last hour or so and my son is desperate to go and talk to them. Obviously I don't want him to and we're doing indoor activities. The only way I can think to discourage this is to put bamboo fencing of some sort to block the kids' view into our garden.
Any other ideas/opinions? x
Your poor kid!!
Kids are weird that way, they get bullied like that, but still want to be friends with them. Our kids do similar. Especially my wee boy, he just wants to be friends, even though another kid is doing horrible things. I think the other poster is right, report them, I know its not a nice thing, but your OH has tried to bring it up to them, and they do not seem to think its a big deal, so they need to know how serious that is.
It really frustrates me, you spend all your energy trying to bring up your kids in a proper way, and these parents just do not care, letting their kids do what they want, and our kids suffer because they are well behaved and friendly. Almost being punished for being brought up well with manners etc. Anyway, sorry about my wee rant, lol....0 -
(Quote) We supervise, their parents' don't.
Emmm Correct me if i'm wrong, but thought you said you were supervising him, ....Does your supervising just mean you are in the Garden.
Nothing you can do about the other child, learn your child that he does not go over to him...Should be easy if you are supervising him, or build a temporary fence.
Maybe invite your sons own little friends over to play as he is wanting the company0 -
cheepskate wrote: »(Quote) We supervise, their parents' don't.
Emmm Correct me if i'm wrong, but thought you said you were supervising him, ....Does your supervising just mean you are in the Garden.
Well yes, we were in the garden playing football with him. As I said the little boy shouted him over, my son ran over and tried to climb to sit on the ledge on the wall (we have flower pots that he climbs on) and literally as he was climbing up the boy sprayed the bleach spray through the gap.
We don't just chuck him in the garden and leave him to his own devices lol. These kids' parents are never in the garden with them. I don't know the layout of their house so maybe they can see them. They certainly didn't when he had the bleach spray.
Thank you for your advice guys.:j:jOur gorgeous baby boy born 2nd May 2011 - 12 days overdue!!:j:j0 -
cheepskate wrote: »(Quote) We supervise, their parents' don't.
Emmm Correct me if i'm wrong, but thought you said you were supervising him, ....Does your supervising just mean you are in the Garden.
Nothing you can do about the other child, learn your child that he does not go over to him...Should be easy if you are supervising him, or build a temporary fence.
Maybe invite your sons own little friends over to play as he is wanting the company
Ooft, that was a bit harsh, the OP is asking for advice and you are giving them the 3rd degree :P even if the OP was watching from the house, it shouldnt mean that her kid should be subject to that.0 -
I would teach your child not to go on the wall, end of. After all, the other kid can't do much harm unless you son seats there.0
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I would teach your child not to go on the wall, end of. After all, the other kid can't do much harm unless you son seats there.
Yes this is true, but am I supposed to take him inside every time the kids are out? (they are actually our there now, peering through the fence!) Doesn't seem fair if he can't even go out and enjoy the garden:j:jOur gorgeous baby boy born 2nd May 2011 - 12 days overdue!!:j:j0 -
vroombroom wrote: »Yes this is true, but am I supposed to take him inside every time the kids are out? (they are actually our there now, peering through the fence!) Doesn't seem fair if he can't even go out and enjoy the garden
Bamboo screening is definitely the way to go... Easy to transport and fix in place and a quick solution as hands can't come through.
You also need to explain to your son that he isn't to speak with the other child as he is 'naughty' and you don't wasn't him to get hurt (and remind him of the bleach incident).:hello:0 -
No, let him enjoy your garden, just tell him not to stand/seat on the wall as the boy on the other side isn't really nice. It sounds like he goes there to peek and see what is happening out of curiosity, which normal at that age, but really something to encourage anyway. If you are in the garden, it is not hard to remind him not to get on the wall.vroombroom wrote: »Yes this is true, but am I supposed to take him inside every time the kids are out? (they are actually our there now, peering through the fence!) Doesn't seem fair if he can't even go out and enjoy the garden0 -
I'd change the fencing or make it completely impenetrable somehow, have you got room to plant something prickly like holly?
No matter how well you teach your son to ignore the children on the other side of the fence, it won't stop them talking to him/teasing/insulting him through the fence once they realise he won't have anything to do with them anymore.0
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