Fencing/neighbours kids

Spendless

vroombroom wrote: »

My son is always supervised in the garden, he's just turned 3. We don't just sit in the garden and let him get on with it - we play with him and interact with him. When these children have been in their garden, their parents are not with them.

Their children are older, they are not likely to be giving supervision to the same level required of a just turned 3 year old. Hopefully moving the plant pots and any other suggestions given will sort it

vroombroom

Spendless wrote: »

Their children are older, they are not likely to be giving supervision to the same level required of a just turned 3 year old. Hopefully moving the plant pots and any other suggestions given will sort it

That's all be done. Pots removed, trampoline currently blocking the view. We're popping to B&Q tonight to get a fencing panel - the bamboo was disregarded:D Hopefully OH can put it up in the next few days, work shifts allowing, before the schools break up. Thanks again for the suggestions folks.

bigmaz

Spendless wrote: »

Their children are older, they are not likely to be giving supervision to the same level required of a just turned 3 year old. Hopefully moving the plant pots and any other suggestions given will sort it

If my neighbour told me that my kid was doing horrible things to their kid, then I would be supervising them to make sure they dont do it again... No matter how old they were. The neighbours obviously dont care

Spendless

bigmaz wrote: »

If my neighbour told me that my kid was doing horrible things to their kid, then I would be supervising them to make sure they dont do it again... No matter how old they were. The neighbours obviously dont care

It's happened twice! How are you meant to guess that grabbing a childs hand roughly will lead to picking up a bleach bottle and spraying it next time?!

bigmaz

Spendless wrote: »

It's happened twice! How are you meant to guess that grabbing a childs hand roughly will lead to picking up a bleach bottle and spraying it next time?!

ok, maybe its just me then, but after one instance, that would be enough for me to be concrened and make sure my kid would not do something bad like that again when approaching the other kid, especially when the other kid is so young. But maybe thats why my kids wouldnt do something like that, as we nip things in the bud right away.

System

Well some people believe that watching a violent movie turns people into serial killers so extrapolating from grabbing a hand to spraying bleach fits into that distorted thinking

bigmaz

!!!!!! wrote: »

Well some people believe that watching a violent movie turns people into serial killers so extrapolating from grabbing a hand to spraying bleach fits into that distorted thinking

Well that escalated quickly, lol. Who is saying that? If a kid isnt punished for something, of course they will keep doing it, I am not saying that the other kid intentionally got bleach to spray in the kids eyes, maybe he thought it was water, but this other kid is obviosly just doing it to be nasty, if he isnt punished, then he will keep doing it, simple.

Carmina-Piranha_2

At the pre-school will he be separated from the bigger children in the playground? At ours the reception children have a separate playground too, so hopefully yours will have at least two years before he is mixing with the older children at play time.

Not defending what happened, but I think when you have two children they play together more, and also at 6 they need less supervision. My 8 year old goes into our back garden alone quite often, but when he was 3 he always played with me out there. I used to get quite concerned at the crying and arguing from a garden nearby but now that the children are all older I've seen that those boys are nice, but have sibling fights that are more violent than I'd want for my child.

As for supervision, well a lot of my 8 year old's friends play streets away from their houses but mine still doesn't go out unsupervised. In a couple of years your neighbours might be playing on parks or in the street rather than their back garden, so you won't have to worry about them talking to your little boy.

bigmaz

Carmina-Piranha wrote: »

At the pre-school will he be separated from the bigger children in the playground? At ours the reception children have a separate playground too, so hopefully yours will have at least two years before he is mixing with the older children at play time.

Not defending what happened, but I think when you have two children they play together more, and also at 6 they need less supervision. My 8 year old goes into our back garden alone quite often, but when he was 3 he always played with me out there. I used to get quite concerned at the crying and arguing from a garden nearby but now that the children are all older I've seen that those boys are nice, but have sibling fights that are more violent than I'd want for my child.

As for supervision, well a lot of my 8 year old's friends play streets away from their houses but mine still doesn't go out unsupervised. In a couple of years your neighbours might be playing on parks or in the street rather than their back garden, so you won't have to worry about them talking to your little boy.

By the way, I am glad I am not the only one. I feel so guilty for not letting my boy who is 6, play in the street. A lot of his friends do, and they chap on the door to see if he is coming to play. It actually breaks my heart that I dont let him out, but I could not live with myself if something happened and he was taken away. Some people say we are over protective, but its the world we live in. He isnt street wise, so would be easily led astray.

System

bigmaz wrote: »

Well that escalated quickly, lol..

It escalated a lot earlier with people advocating calling the police and social services.

I was trying to highlight the absurdity of extrapolating from one situation to another