Fencing/neighbours kids

Carmina-Piranha_2

bigmaz wrote: »

By the way, I am glad I am not the only one. I feel so guilty for not letting my boy who is 6, play in the street. A lot of his friends do, and they chap on the door to see if he is coming to play. It actually breaks my heart that I dont let him out, but I could not live with myself if something happened and he was taken away. Some people say we are over protective, but its the world we live in. He isnt street wise, so would be easily led astray.

With mine I take him to parks that are further away than his friends are allowed, and offer to take some friends with him. That way he still gets to play with friends and it's on bigger parks with water, etc. and they don't laugh at him for still having to be with mum because those kids are only allowed within a certain radius of home anyway so they wouldn't be allowed to go to those parks without being supervised by me.

If kids knock while I am making dinner or otherwise too busy to take them out, I'd invite them into the garden and get all the water pistols out, with a bucket to refill them. I also allow children to water pistol the walls of the house and draw with chalk on the path and walls. At 8 this is still entertaining enough for them, and they know other 8 year olds who are not allowed out so it's not so weird for mine to be confined to the garden when I am not with him.

bigmaz

Carmina-Piranha wrote: »

With mine I take him to parks that are further away than his friends are allowed, and offer to take some friends with him. That way he still gets to play with friends and it's on bigger parks with water, etc. and they don't laugh at him for still having to be with mum because those kids are only allowed within a certain radius of home anyway so they wouldn't be allowed to go to those parks without being supervised by me.

If kids knock while I am making dinner or otherwise too busy to take them out, I'd invite them into the garden and get all the water pistols out, with a bucket to refill them. I also allow children to water pistol the walls of the house and draw with chalk on the path and walls. At 8 this is still entertaining enough for them, and they know other 8 year olds who are not allowed out so it's not so weird for mine to be confined to the garden when I am not with him.

Yeah, I suppose there are a few in our street that I know do the same. I just feel sorry for him, I used to love playing around the street

By the way, sounds like they have a great time in your garden, lol

warehouse

OP the other kid is a danger to your Son so that danger needs to be removed asap. Easiest way is to stop him getting to the bottom of the garden and then to block the other kid from seeing in to yours. Do it today.

Also consider that some kids are simply nasty, so don't be surprised if stones come over the wall some time in the near future. I'd keep your son well away from the end of the garden until the other kids have forgotten all about him, which could mean all Summer.

sedment

I would buy the panels and some nice garden bits. Explain to your little one that you arent to go near the new fence as its just been painted, might hurt your self if you fall, dont damage daddys plants etc. And just to keep away from those children as much as you can. If they start anything or shouting at your little one, would tell them to stop it. Sometimes it just takes another adult to speak to them in a different tone (not shout at them!) But it can be a fine line especially if you like where you stay .

lulu_92

When I was a kid we would play in the street but we always ended up playing outside one of our houses anyway. Plus we were all pretty street smart anyway.

There was a family who lived down the road who had a son who is the nastiest person I've ever met. He didn't have any friends so would find us wherever we were and cause trouble. This included:
Running me over with his bike.
Throwing a brick at my sister, which hit her in between the shoulders.
Deliberately riding his bike into my dad's car, scratching it
and generally being a little see you next Tuesday.

His mum wasn't much better. Would constantly use his ADHD as an excuse for his violent behaviour and blamed all of us for it!

This was between the ages of 5 and 9 (it ended in a rather nasty way which involved the police) so we found solace in my garden.

In our case it wasn't that we needed to be supervised, it was that his mum needed to learn how to supervise her son. (he ended up getting excluded from school for punching my boyfriend)

vroombroom

Hi everyone

Just an update: we've order a panel from B&Q, due to arrive Thursday as they never had the size we needed. It's a full blown fence panel as well - no gaps or anything. In the meantime the plant pots have been put on the wall and the trampoline is right up against it.
OH checked the plant pots about half an hour ago and there are chicken bones lying between them:eek::eek:

bigmaz

vroombroom wrote: »

Hi everyone

Just an update: we've order a panel from B&Q, due to arrive Thursday as they never had the size we needed. It's a full blown fence panel as well - no gaps or anything. In the meantime the plant pots have been put on the wall and the trampoline is right up against it.
OH checked the plant pots about half an hour ago and there are chicken bones lying between them:eek::eek:

Goodness me, they don't give up. Just throw them into their garden.

vroombroom

bigmaz wrote: »

Goodness me, they don't give up. Just throw them into their garden.

OH poked them back through, haha! x

bigmaz

vroombroom wrote: »

OH poked them back through, haha! x

Good, bring on the rats

pulliptears

peachyprice wrote: »

Clearly you don't if you're repeatedly letting your son go to the end of the garden to get hurt.

If you're going to be all holier than thou 'we supervise, they don't' then actually do it an keep your son away.

There are many people on this site I'd have expected a comment like that from and you peachy aren't one them.
I can only assume you were having a bad day when you posted that because in all the years I've read your posts I've never known you to be so nasty.